Caring For My Schizophrenic Husband #CarersWeek

I am a carer to my schizophrenic husband and have been for years. The first few years we were together he was fine, just the normal paranoia but he went into a mental hospital for 8 weeks a while ago as he had a relapse due to not taking his medication. Being in hospital just [...]

Wanna Die: 5% Of People Attempt Suicide At Least Once

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I wanna die has to be the most shocking and devastatingly confession I have come across the most in the last 3 years of being an agony aunt to mothers online. While Wanna Kill Yourself is one of the most popular search terms used on The Real Supermum Blog. It seems a rather stupid question [...]

How Does Mental Health Affect Parenting?

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I don’t remember when my three youngest children began to crawl or walk; I missed out on so many of the most wonderful milestones that I am consumed with guilt. I look at my children and have felt sorry for them; they didn’t ask to have a mentally ill mother. The negative intrusive voices will [...]

Carers Week; My Husband Becomes My Carer

I didn’t ask to become ill, I never wanted this to happen, I had no control over what happened to me yet that does not stop me questioning why me? Why did I lose control over my mind, friends and my career? This week is national carers week and the theme this year is prepared [...]

6 Reasons Why Being Mentally Ill Is Good For Me

Being mentally ill is good for me in some ways and I wanted to highlight a few personal ways that being bipolar has helped me and brought some positivity to my life. After reading the article 10 Reasons I’m Thankful I’m a Mom Fighting a Mental Illness it touched me as I could relate to so many of [...]

Personal Independence Payment Medical For Mental Health

I had been dreading it for weeks but today I had to attend a (PIP)  Personal Independence Payment Medical assessment for mental health purposes. I had no idea what to expect since this is a new benefit system and nobody seemed to know what would happen at the assessment. Luckily I took my community psychiatric nurse [...]

I Didn’t Choose To Starve Myself

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What started as a coping technique, a way for me to have some control has turned into a major problem. I didn’t choose to starve myself, it just happened and now I am afraid it’s taking over my life. I started reading a book last night, one I had bought from the charity shop a [...]

Bipolar Stole Your Wife

You didn’t sign up to this when you first met me; you had no idea what you were letting yourself in for. You look at me with tears in your eyes and I know you feel my pain, what hurts you most is knowing that there is not a single thing you can do to [...]

Telling Your Family About A Mental Health Issue

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Thanks to the stigma attached to a mental health issue, it can be frightening to confide in others about you condition. Some fear that being honest and confessing to others about how they really feel will result in them be laughed at or being told it is just all in the mind. Others fear that [...]

What Is It Like To Be Normal?

What is it like to be normal To not think that your crazy Where everyone’s on egg shells Treating you like a baby What is it like to wear a real smile One that isnt fake Plastered on to perfection Hoping there’s no mistakes What is it like to be normal And think rational thoughts [...]

My Children Will Be Happy Again

My children will be happy again I used to live under a rod of iron Ruled by fear and hate Needing to be seen and helped But tearfull it would come too late. The day came I became my own rescuer I fought for my life and won Tentatively took a breath of free air [...]

He Punches My 10 Year Old Son; The Police Do Nothing

Casey 11 and Cameron 10 went to their dads for the weekend; we had Social Services involved last year regarding contact as he was emotionally abusing the children.  For weeks they had supervised contact until the social worker decided my ex-husband was safe to be unsupervised. I did not agree with her, she blamed my [...]

Technically I Belong But Somehow I Still Feel Out Of Place

I stood alone in the playground this morning, my hood pulled tight to stop the wind howling through my hair, not that it would have made any difference to the style, bed head is the new fashion style in my word. The rain was cold and I pulled my hands up into my sleeves. I don’t normally [...]

Kia’s 5th Birthday Party Fun

It was Kia’s 5th birthday party today and as much as they all had amazing fun, I am shattered. Its been a long day. It was up early this morning to start making sandwiches and the stress of worrying f I had bought enough food to feed 40 kids. I had and as always bought far too much, but [...]

I Scratch Myself To Cope With Stress

“I scratch myself” one mum told me when I asked if any of the mums on my Facebook group would like to share their anonymous real life story. Its the first time I have come across someone I know who scratches, so I was intrigued to learn more. Is scratching yourself considered cutting? Yes it is [...]

I Have So Many To Thank And They Know Who They Are

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My friends know how hard these last 2 and a half week have been for me. I don’t want to go into details publicly just yet as we have a long road ahead of us I know. It’s difficult when things “like this” as it leaves us questioning ourselves, despite none of this being my fault. Could [...]

Real Supermum In Running For #Bibs Award – Vote To Help

The kids were eager to read the weekly local newspaper this week as we were featured inside. I have stepped right out of my comfort zone and opened up the blog to not only family and friends but to the whole community where I live. Will reading about my bizarre life and the rather controversial [...]

Mummy Gets A Bit Sad

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I was pregnant with my second child, my son, when I started feeling depressed.  I was in my second trimester and I felt like I was at the bottom of a deep well, drowning. At one point, I took a whole week off work, because I couldn’t drag myself out of bed.  I made detailed [...]