I opened The Real Supermum Group back in May 2010, it was made because I was lonely and I wanted desperately to make some new mummy friends. I had no idea how successful it would become. A very simple group has turned into a lifeline for many.
It is the members of the group who I owe thanks too because without them there would be no group. I have 5 admins who help me run the group as its a 24-7 job.
The Real Supermum has become a brand name, its not down to me. I owe so much to the mums who daily give up their free time to help provide a safe and confidential space where mums can come and be able to express their thoughts and fears away from judgement.
I am humbled when I see mums for the first time admitting their fears and going to ask for professional support after being given the support and courage to do so from the group.
The mums hold a special place in my heart and they are not just Facebook mums they are real friends who I admire and I am so very proud of them.
The blog houses hundreds of real life anonymous blog posts, these stories are not stories these are real experiences from real mums. I think you will agree if you follow the blog that they are amazing and inspiring mothers.
I wanted to share with you a story that was posted on my personal Facebook page between 2 mums who are members of my Facebook mums group.
How The Real Supermum Group Saved My Life
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The council stuck me and four kids in a tiny hotel room and forgot about us because refuge had no space. I had NO help. NO support. I was a victim of rape trying to protect my kids from my abuser. Where were any of these supposed charities then? When I was scared for my life and my kids Cos I told the police? It’s a farce
Two of my kids had to stay with their dad. For 9 months we were separated. I started off on my mums sofa as did two of my kids. When the abuse from my own family became too much council finally gave me a b&b room with a double bed and a single, a tiny table, a desk. A shower and a loo.
My two sons were being abused by their nanna so I took them back. And were still stuck in this tiny hotel room. No school. Nothing. We came home. They don’t care it’s all just names on a bit of paper.
I’m back in the house I’m not meant to be living in. It’s far too small for our needs and years ago because my son is disabled we were told we needed to move. Luckily so far he hasn’t turned up. It’s the thought he could. I testify again against him may 20. I hate doing normal things like the school run.
I have no choice as nobody else will do it for me. I force myself to go to the shops or see a friend once a week. I believe only if you are rich will you survive these days. And our kids are doomed because when they are older they will have no chance with the states of schools and Uni.
The rich will become richer. The poor will become poorer. Poverty stricken will die. Crime will soar. Bedlam will come.
The group has truly been a lifeline. If I didn’t have it. Well I dread to think. When someone is in the throes of a depressive episode. Who really shouts it out to professionals?
Sarah was the one who made me go to hospital the night they rushed me into surgery. She saved my life. I’d be dead now if the group did not exist.
And I’ve made a new real life friend in Jade, I don’t think she realises it, but she is a lifeline too and an amazing girl, and I wouldn’t leave the house as much if it was not for her. Only today I went to meet her in town. I really would be a recluse.
It’s all thanks to Emma. And all my virtual friends of which there are many. And they thank ME, yes me! Of all people for helping them and giving them advice and being there for them! And it feels SO good knowing that you have been that someone that was there, when somebody really needed it.
And I look forward to talking to all the mummies everyday. Reading all their updates. Seeing their pictures and sharing jokes.
I know I’m pregnant and hormonal and emotional. I’m so glad Emma never let the trolls beat her down. Because she hasn’t just made a difference in my life, but my four kids too by proxy. And I’m sure I’m not the only one. I’ve gone and made myself cry now.
Laura x
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I don’t think Emma knows what she means to us. Replies another mum
Vicky x
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You and I are recent friends and the more we talk the more its apparent we have so much in common. The same or similar experiences, good and bad. I have the same connection if that’s what you call it with Emma.
Im so glad you and I began talking. The only reason we didn’t sooner is because I didn’t want to let anyone else in, but I was wrong I should have spoken to you those times you tried to talk to me.
You ARE amazing, and just like Emma you make me believe somehow, somewhere down the line everything will come good.
People like you who live through hell, you know what its like to beg for your life, and to not take it for granted. You appreciate every kindness and treat people with respect because you know what its like not to have any.
I don’t think you have failed anyone. In fact I am in awe of you. Your doing the one thing I couldn’t do. On that day that’s coming you will be one of the bravest people I am lucky enough to know.
Shell x
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<3 awww I'm in tears x x
Yes I had a few tears too x
I woke up to a text saying thanks for making me cry at this time in the morning from the mum.
Charming ! Good job she knows I like her lots
Sarah is amazing though. Shes always there for me.
Shes my singing / serenading/ stalker and refers to me as her bitch lol.
This group is a lifeline. Its a helpline. A heartline. And Emma and the other admins should be very proud of themselves xx
I dont even have the words to explain what changes the group has made to my own life … but its all positive
sarah is fab. speak to her nearly every day and no matter what she will listen to me moan
Your amazing we all are ! <3 so glad i found the group 3 years ago xxx ly all
How time flies when your having fun lol
This made me cry – How The Real Supermum Group Saved My Life – http://t.co/dtuXnPPsyn
I joined in September 2010, had no friends, little support and wanted to leave my house alone, just carry on walking to who knows where… The first thing Emma said to me was that I wouldn’t be lonely on the group and I never have been. With support I’m now a mum of two and hv says doing well, so thank you all xxx
I am so pleased to hear another positive story x
This group is a great support x
The mums are amazing and I owe them so much
I joined in June or July 2010 and it’s the best group around! It’s like an online little family! Xx
Yes Emma its sure a part of my family now lol
Emma you and the other admins do an amazing job of taking care of so many of us xx
We are like old mother hens lol
this group n also the blog has helpped so many when they r at their lowest point , u always know theres a friendly hug/chat when u need one xx
yes and we have our fair shares of fun and laughs too among-st it all which is great too
the group is a fantasic when you need help/advice. always someone there to help or advise us but most of all support us and not judge us! Thank you Emma for creating your group and thanks to all the moms that make a difference to everyone.
Emma and all Admins do a FANTASTIC JOB!!
xxx
I never expected it to become what it has thats for sure
The group is fab! Thanks to Emma and the Admins
I have had plenty of help from everyone on the group as well as helped others (well I hope I have lol) It gives me some where to come when times get bad even if its just to have a good old moan. I have also written blog posts for Emma and the support I have got on them with out even asking its unreal. For mums who dont know me from adam to come on to my posts and help me out or offer me hugs shows I am not on my own. Also its nice to know Emma will post them for me and not judge me for what I have put. Thank you Emma, Admins and Mummies xx
Nope never ever any judging allowed or big mamma comes out and shes mean
How The Real Supermum Group Saved My Life http://t.co/dtuXnPPsyn
I came onto the group when my youngest was around 6 months old. I was in a bad way having been crucified by social services and feeling low. I had no real friends and no family near me to ask to help me. I was desperate.
I was on the group a month before I dared post. I was frightened that I would be judged and humiliated.
I read posts and tried to figure out who was genuine and who was not.
I was drawn immediately to Emma, and at the time Michelle, and Tara.
Emma was putting up posts about her own thoughts and feelings but it was like she could read my mind.
Michelle was friendly and chatty.
And Tara was crazy in a fun way that made me smile.
Eventually when I took a breath and posted I found that I wasent judged, I was welcomed. I was so gratefull.
With no time I was talking to Emma and opening up and quickly found I could trust her and a few others who I jokingly call my harem.
As times gone on Ive written for the blog. Bad bad memories that seep out of my veins are all on here and the support has been incredible. Theres no blame. Theres no judgement theres only love and strength been directed at me.
My sons nearly three now and while im not really that active on the group a lot I still write blogs, and im so gratefull I was given the chance and a place. I think keeping all my demons inside would have been bad.
I think I probably annoy Emma with my stuff sometimes but I know shes one word away from me no matter what she has going on. One word: help.
Emma wil make time or direct me to.someone who can help me and listen to me.
I still have no friends, and no family here to help me but I have somewhere I can ask now.
I have a place to say ok im struggling right now. Sometimes its not about knowing what to say its just saying something.
The group is connected. We are all mums and all have doubts, insecurities, issues. We all try to help each other and understand.
This is what Emma created and herself and now others strive to continue.
When I see my ” harem” I know I can have fun, I can tell them im sad and they know me. I know I dont need to be alone. Its priceless x
u know we r always here 4 u hunni
we loves ya xx
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i think the group has helpped n saved so many of us n thats y it is miles ahead of other ‘so called’ mums groups coz we actully listen n care about each other xx
the group has helped me soo so much from first joing which was near enough the start..i dont no what i would do without it now xx
Reading this made me cry Emma your ate – wonderful women well done for everything you have done xxx
I LOVE THIS WEEKS POST – THINK ITS MY FAV THIS WEEK SO FAR ; http://t.co/dtuXnPPsyn How The Real Supermum Group Saved My Life
Wow. When I wrote on the thread about my personal experiences I never expected to generate this response! Some days are more of a struggle than others and I’m still fighting a war daily.
I’m very lucky to have the support that I have here. It’s a very profound feeling knowing you have helped someone else. And to know first hand how valuable that help is. That’s what I love about my Facebook family. We get out what we put in. And where our blood families and real lives let is down or try to destroy us.
There is always always support and kind words. Encouragement. Honesty. I love that if someone is making a big mistake there are some people on here that will tell it like it is, rather than sugar coat it.
Too many mums groups are saccharin sweet. But when dealing with taboo real life experiences, you need people that will keep it real.
And there are mums here that aren’t afraid to have a laugh. That are self deprecating and at the end of the day can laugh at themselves and each other and release the strain. Particularly the night when granny was playing at being cat burglar and trying to get her face in the papers again or on crime watch. Flange and her sexual exploits. Sarah and her sons gas mask inducing bottom. The games we all play together. The debates. That even though we spend all of our time being mums and raising a family. We can still have relationships and friendships and have that community without leaving our home. Feeling that we are being looked at and being judged.
There’s always somebody there when you already know the answer deep down and just need reassuring or you just plain dont know. When there is a crisis there is support. I don’t know where else I have ever had any of this. It’s unique. And it’s extremely special to me.
I am new to the group, but I can honestly say when ever iv needed help and posted a question I was never judged and every mum was willing to help and support!!! I think this group is a fantastic idea!! My babys only 8 weeks old and his my first so I dont have a lot of mummy experience but I can honestly say I feel like I can turn to the super mum group at any time for support, or even just to have a rant without being frowned at! I am looking forward to making some new mummy friends!! Thankyou to Emma and all the admins for their time, they do an amazing job and are a real inspiration! x
Tears in my eyes…. Love this grop and blogxxx
And this is why we love the group x
awww – this a nice blogpost.. i love this group xx