I’m a mum of 2 girls and I got tons of emails and comments on my daughters photo on Facebook because apparently I was making her look ‘too old for her age’. She is 4, she has her own mind and is very independent.
When she needs new clothes I take her with more or we look online together. She chooses what she likes, if I think it’s suitable then she has it, if not she doesn’t I don’t see the problem. If it wasn’t appropriate why make it for her size and age? Granted she is tall and wears 5-6 years but still not touching the boarder of going into teen clothes so I don’t see how they can be ‘inappropriate’ for her to wear.
She’s a lovely girl with an amazing sense of self-confidence. She will pose and pout in the mirror and for the camera. Not because I make her do it, because she wants too. Am I wrong for letting her? I don’t think so, I think it’s cute.
A friend brought her one of those dolls heads with makeup for her 3rd birthday, she loved it instantly. Sat doing the dolls hair and makeup most of the day. Then came the question ‘can I have makeup mummy’. I tried to say no at first but I got ‘you do’ and ‘why mummmmy’. I caved. I gave her some of my eye shadows, blusher and lip gloss that I didn’t really wear. She had a field day with it.
It didn’t last long though and she asked for some more, so went to our local Tesco and we were looking through the makeup together. Picking out a baby pink lip gloss purple sparkly eye shadow and a bright red nail polish. The tuts and dirty looks I got, oh my goodness, I wanted to crawl into a corner and hide.
I didn’t see the problem when we went and still don’t but I hate confrontation. One women said I should be ashamed of myself and was a bad parent. My daughter looked at me and started to cry. I picked her up, makeup in hand, paid and ran out the store. What was I doing? Was a bad mum for letting her get this stuff?
My daughter didn’t play with her new makeup or her hair and makeup doll for a few days. When I asked her why she replied ‘the nasty ladies’. I was fuming. I told her it was fine and they were jealous cause they were ugly. Yes, OK so that probably wasn’t the best thing to tell a 3 year old but it cheered her up. Few hours later she was sat in front of the mirror like nothing had happened.
She’s now 4 and a half and still loves her pretty clothes, posing and makeup. She still chooses what she wears and still wears her makeup in the house. Now though I get her makeup for her or we order it online together so nobody can judge us and upset her.
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If it makes her happy ur doing what any parent and making her happy its not like ur abusing her or slapping on 40 shades of fake tan n eye lashes ECT or doing anything against law
How rude of some people!! If its what your daughter wants then what has it got to do with any1 else!! They make makeup and perfumes for children now I no because I sell it! If I didn’t agree I wouldn’t sell it! Let her do what makes her happy after all we all want a happy child xx
Your doing nothing wrong, if it was my daughter I’d do the same at the age of 4 she wants to be independent and choose her own clothes as long as they are suitable then why shouldn’t she? As for make up if that’s what she enjoys doing then so be it, aslong as she isn’t walking around covered in it 24:7 then I don’t personally see a problem x
If that’s what she enjoys doing then I’d let her carry on to be honest. There’s a lot worse you and she could be doing than playing with a bit of make-up!
YOU are her mum no one else, YOU know what makes your daughter happy and as someone said before its not like youve slapped piles of foundation fake tan, nails, eyelashes on etc,… all girls love dressing up like mummy does.. my mum was highlighting my hair at the age of 10 would wear lipgloss from 8yrs to school theres nothing wrong with it. x
Ignore others hun… Your her mum… There’s no harm in a bit of make up and nice clothes , when I was little I lived dressing up and make up
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Your her mum. Ignore everyone else around you
First of all you ant a bad mum hun, if she wants to choice her own clothing fare anouth, your all gunna think I’m being horrible …but I don’t agree with the make-up I think she’s to young, my daughter is 3 and asks for make-up wen she see’s me doin mine but I say “no your beautiful anouth u don’t need make up” and she just says “o thank u mummy”
….. But I think its bang out of order how the offer ladys were with you in the shop x
when i was younger avon used to to little blosom range for young girls ie lipstick,perfum, blusher and even eye shadow (all creams) and we used to love it as it was made for children, i dont think that sort of making is wrong in anyway , ur not a bad mum for letting ur child choose there own clothes , big hugs xx
If you were dressing her up.in fishnets and stripper heels fair enough people would have something to say! But its just a bit of innocent fun! I ocassionaly paint my 3yo nails, does that make me a bad mum? No. Its harmless curiosity and wanting to be like mummy Xx
How rude can some people be! She is harming anyone, she’s doing something she enjoys and so long as you don’t mind that tell the rest to give their heads a wobble. She’s your daughter and you do as you please she just wants to be like her mummy no harm in that x
TBH its no one else’s business what you do with YOUR children, although I don’t agree with the makeup at her age I am not gonna be one of these who says your a bad mum because your not, your allowing your daughter to play and we all know children learn through play. So if anyone wants to try put you down for being a fab mum then turn round and put them down for being a complete and utter moron!! xx
It’s all part of growing up , little girls like to dress up you know yourself if it was getting to much x
Your daughter your rules. Sod every one else
its good for young children to choose their own clothes, they are getting a sense of the world and themselves as an individual person. x
U do what’s best for I and your daughter not what other people think x