I don’t know how to word this or how to come out with it but I’m going to try my best. Here goes; I was only 5 years old when my grandad started getting close to me. He would make sure he sat next to me all the time.
Almost everywhere he went, he would try and make sure I went along with him. Then at the age of 6 he became worse with me. He would start touching me in places that granddads shouldn’t.
A few weeks later that’s when my grandad raped me
Grandad made it out to be a game. He used to say let’s play hide and seek and if “I find you I will do something that may hurt you, but will be fun”.
I had no idea that what grandad was doing to me was so wrong, I didn’t like it but what did I know? I was a child. I thought all grandads did this.
I went off to hide and he found me, he then made me play with him until his penis was hard.
Then he told me to lay down.
I still thought it was a game so I did.
Then he put it in me and it was the worse pain I have ever suffered. I can still remember it now.
This would carry on till I understood what sex was.
Then he started getting nasty. He would say if I told anybody he would kill me, and nobody would believe me.
It carried on until I was 16. At the age of 17 he died. That was one off the best days of my life.
At the age of 23 I told my parents my dad believes me but my mum doesn’t. I can understand because he was her dad and doesn’t want to believe he would do such a thing but surely she should believe her daughter.
I still look at men thinking is it going to happen again? That man destroyed my childhood.
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That is terrible hunni, your mum should believe you whether he was her dad or not, even as hard as it may be … massive hugs hunni x x
Lots of hugs ur way <3 no one should have to go through that… And then there mum not believe them.. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story <3 <3 x
big hugs hunni for speaking out on something very painfull for u , your mum should of believed u and mayb deep down she does but does not want to admit it to herself as it was her dad, i know others may disagree but dont b to hard on her , and the plus side at least ur dad believes u which will help as he can support u , big hugs for been brave enough to tell ur story xx
massive hugs chick. So brave talking about something like this it must have been hard for you to keep it a secret until you turned 23. I agree with Angie it must be hard for your mum to hear something like that, hopefully one day she will come round and believe what you xx
Huge giant hugs hunni. You are a very brave lady telling your story. What a cruel disgusting man!! Maybe your mum has her reasons for saying she doesnt believe you hun. Maybe he did the same to her and she has shut out the past. You never know babe. Dont be too hard on her hunni. Im sure she does believe you but just doesnt want to admit. xx
You poor woman. Your mom just doesnt want to believe it because hes gone now, im glad your dad does and hopefully your getting the support you need xx
Aww hun
… So sorry that you had such a terrible childhood noone should have to go though that (big hugs), your mum should have belived you when you told her, no matter if he was her dad or not! Really feel for you, and hope now that his gone u can start to enjoy life a little xx
So sorry
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I hope your mam believes you one day & you can put it behind you x
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That is so sad
Well I’m glade that u are doing much better now keep ur
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head up high
Oh how awful, I hope your mum will eventually see sense, to come out about it is extremely brave and for her to not believe you is terrible
big hugs to you Xx
Omg hun I’m so sorry .. no one should have to go through this but those that do should have their full support of their family! keep your head high he can’t hurt you any more x
Aww huni my heart goes out to you i dont know what to say apart from you have been very brave and well done for standing ur ground and teling the truth rather than keeping it all to yourself which could have damaged your mental health i think your mum probably does believe you bt dosnt want to admit it because u are her baby and she may feel bad that she should have protected you even knw she couldnt have as she didnt know also he was her dad and she loved him and wouldnt want to destroy his memory im so sorry to hear ur sad story huni big big hugs x
hun I can relate to u on this,
I was sexually abused/raped by my granddad from as young as I can remember and it went on years like u he threatened to kill me if I told a soul so I kept my mouth shut afraid of him and what others would think as I got older I kept this to my self till I was 21 and I told my mum she didn’t believe me she was in denial I think but im now 23 ive sat down with here and had a proper long chat about it and she did believe me she just couldn’t understand it as he had never touched her or her sisters,
im still not got over what he did and im not sad that he died and my nan will never know what he did to me as it would break her,
my advice hun is to sit down with ur mum and have a long chat and u may find it will help,
it helped me if u ever need to talk im hear if u want to just ask emma and she will help us talk im sure
big hugs hun xxxxx
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Abuse is terrible enough, and then it was your Granddad, someone who’s supposed to make our childhoods better. I agree with those that say your Mom might believe you but couldn’t process it at the time you brought it up. Hopefully you can find the courage to talk to her about it again. It’s probably bothering her as well and it might help both of you to heal. I suffered some abuses and I find therapy very helpful. I only wish I had addressed it much sooner. It’s hard to get over but with hard work it will get better. You can reclaim your life and not be scared of men anymore. I never thought that would be possible for me. But it is. Don’t give up on being happy.
I don’t know what to say this has me speechless I can’t believe a mother wouldn’t believe her own child its so sad, I’m sorry for everything you went through. Big hugs hun xxx
You poor thing xxxx Big Hugs maybe she is denial xxxx
Keep your head held high Hun, the vile excuse of a man! So brave for sharing your story xx