Back last year in January 2012 my boyfriend was on cannabis and had been for years but he ended up getting schizophrenia over it. One night he put a knife to mine and my sons throat and threatened to kill us cause something in his head was telling him he was going to loose us, then few seconds he snapped out of it.
I rang the police and 3 days later he was arrested and put in jail and social services got involved. They left 2 months after and in May we resumed our relationship and he was off the weed, was working, totally a different person. And he still is.
As he’s not my sons dad in October, when we knew everything was OK and he had changed for the better, we decided to tell social services as we wanted to move on as a family and live with each other.
And they was involved for a week and I have not heard from then until I got a letter yesterday, saying he can’t have anything to do with my son. This was nearly 4 months after we told them.
Thing is, we been living together at my mums as she’s renting her house. And we decided today we will move int together at my house and now after that letter I don’t know what to do for the best.
He’s an amazing man now.
Works 6 days a week, amazing dad and me and my son love him to bits.
I’m ringing social services tomorrow over the letter. Do I tell them the truth that we been living together and now know we want to live at my house together or do I lie say we’re together and not living together but he sees my son while I’m there?
I’m scared of my son being taken off me.
My family know he’s an amazing man and know it was the weed.
He’s done groups to quit and he did it.
My family stick by him and agree he’s been punished for what he did and now he’s fine and a normal person. Iv been with him for 3 years and I want to have a future live with him, have a baby and be a normal family. It’s all down on social services.
So do I admit we’re living together and by saying the wrong thing I get my son taken off me. Even though there’s been no problems at all. Or lie and say we are not living together and are continuing our relationship and when my son and partner meet I’m there all the time?
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sorry but whether he is amazing or not if i was told that he would be out the door no questions asked my so. would be more important ! why risk that for some bloke ? don’t lie cause if u get found out your in even more trouble sorry to be blunt but its the way it is x wish you all the luck but think very carefully
I have never had anything to do with social services all I can suggest sweetheart is too ask them too come and look and maybe do a reassessment on your partner…wishing you best of luck and biggest hugs all my love xxxxxxxxxxx
demand a re-evaluation, they cannot be too worried if it has taken them four months to write a letter! and not done it in person. there are procedures they should follow and i really think they havent done that. which is unfair to you and your son. as well as your oh x
I agree with saphire I wouldn’t want him in my life after threatening my son! If your willing to stay with him then you need to speak to social services xx
Tell the truth hun and if need be they cn do a re assesment and he cn prove to them he has changed and im sure ur family would support u both and tel ss of how hes changed
Totally agree with saphire hun, sorry, hope it all works out for ya xx
Agree with the others, always best to be truthful x
every one can change, now its up to you both to prove that he has, you can do it – good luck x
Has to say I agree with the others x