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Why doesn’t my mum love me?
It’s a question I find myself asking every day, especially since I had my son 17 months ago. My Mum left when i was 12, last thing she said was “I’m going shop too get some milk, be back soon”, we didn’t see her again until 3 months later, she ran off with my dad’s best friend. As a child I helped my dad look after the other 3 children, as a single father of four it wasn’t easy on him so I did everything I could, like bath the kids, teach my younger sisters about periods etc. Something my mum should have been doing, not me.
The year my mum left, was one of the hardest years of my dad’s life, not only did his wife leave, he had a cancer scare and was going through tests, and sadly our grandma passed away, his mum, he felt like he was in a dark place, so it made me want to help out even more than ever, I gave up my childhood too help raise my siblings.
My Sister who’s now 18, prefers my mum, they have a “best friend” relationship and it tears me apart knowing that my sister was only 7 when our mum left, I did everything for her, yet she chose my mum over the rest of the family. I get very jealous of the fact she has a mum there for her. But what I wonder is why does my mum leave her other kids out? Surely she loves us too? Since having my son, I couldn’t imagine doing the things she’s put us kids through; she goes months without seeing us, not even a word! I can’t even go a day without talking or seeing my baby.
All my life she never showed she cared, never was the “I love you” cuddly type.
Last year I was diagnosed with postnatal depression, my mum knew about this, yet never asks if I’m OK, offer me support yet my sister was diagnosed with depression and she supported her.
So mum, why don’t you love me? I guess some women aren’t made out to be mothers, or in my case can only love one child at a time?
I’m so grateful I have my grandma (mums mum) she has been there through thick and thin, I really don’t know what I would do without her, she’s my life and my dad, well he’s my hero, not many men can say they have raised 4 kids on his own for 10 years.
I guess I will never know why my mum does what she does, especially now she has a grandson, she still doesn’t make the effort, but I’ve come to realise, she’s the one missing out.
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I’m sorry to hear your mom is like this hun but she is the one missing out on u and your los life..big hugsxx
=( you are such a strong person to cope with what you did at the age of 12 and you should be proud of yourself. If she is like that with you, then you deserve a whole lot better xxx
sometimes i think you are better off without the people that hurt you. a little like this. hugs xx
It’s your mum’s loss. Hopefully one day she will realise what she’s been missing x
its her her loss at the end of the day she will soon realise what shes missing out on big ((hugs)) xx
I feel so sorry for you. Am sure you’ll do something really great when you grow up & become famous. Then, she will realize what she missed by not giving you what no one else ever can- a mom’s love!
Such a lot to go threw at such a young age. Well done to you for helping your dad it must of been a very difficult time. xx
Hugs hun your such a strong woman… you have been through alot… and made your family very proud of you xxx
She’s the one missing out Hun x
sorry to hear that you mum has been like this just remember tho she is the one missing out
some ppl shouldn’t be parents. massive hugs
Big hugs . Sorry youve had to go through this, but it truly is her loss xx
You are better off without her huni xxxx I am the same with my mother xxxx
Hey hun so sorry to hear ur sad story sadly i dnt knw wat to say as i have been thru similar i spose we just hav 2 get on with it at least we knw we wil never make the same mistakes our mums did x