People are frightened of what they do not understand which is the reason so many women fear me, yet allow that fear to come out as hate. The stigma and the misunderstandings of mental illness is causing so many women like me, to be judged, and targeted, be that in real life or online.
I have been subjected to some rather callous and evil hate campaigns; I have received hate mail to my Facebook inbox, to my email 
and the odd tweet on Twitter.
Facebook pages have been made against me, calling me “sick in the head”, “fked up” because I talk openly about my mental illness, how can a mother with a mental illness care for her children?
Threats to abuse my children have been made, images of my children stolen and explicit text written alongside them. I have had to involve the police.
Grown women quiz my existence. I featured in the Fabulous Magazine last weekend and the same day a group of well-known and established bloggers questioned whether “agony aunt” was a title I should be using. The question debates around why these grown women and members of an online supportive community were talking about me on a Facebook group to begin with?
The article heading read “ Online Agony Aunt”, I assume they are not aware of the Facebook mums group I run, yes I am “called” an agony aunt, a friend, a life saver and Supermum by hundreds of women, but why would this be a worry to a group of mummy bloggers?
Is it that my feature brought attention to my own blog? That I stood out from the crowd? Why can they not TWEET – Bloody well done you!
Why do I not play by their blogging rules? Simply because life is no game to me, you live and you die and anything in between is a bonus.
I am not here to make friends, I am not here to read and listen to your rule book nor be told what I can and cannot do. I do not want to steal your blog award, I want to help other mothers and show that mental illness is not something to fear.
My blog is my place, an area where I can express the real me, warts and all, knowing that it helps so many other mothers.
I offer a safe and confidential space for others to share their own experiences, away from judgement.
I have been called every name you can imagine, my mental illness discussed around the social network sites, my blogging theory splashed across pages that are not visible to me.
While I agree everyone has an opinion, what are they basing this judgement upon? What they believe is the right way?
I am fed up of hearing the little bloggers voicing that I steal their blog posts? What part of your blog even reflects any part of mine? Unless you are hard of seeing or unable to read, the blogs not exactly full of “everyday mummy chat”, but it is you see, as this is my life.
Depression, self-harm, abuse and every other taboo topic you see here is what I do and what I help mothers face.
If I stole your idea for a blog post then sue me! Or did we both just happen to write about an everyday issue or topic yet I wrote it better? Therefore your jealous, rather than feel homoured?
That is where the problem lies, I am not you and you are not me. We do not think alike and if that phases you or I frighten you in some way then you have much to learn about the real world. Stop reading my blog, stop stalking me on Facebook, stop tweeting about me and stop speaking my name, as it tastes bitter in your mouth.
Women hate me, it’s true
What is it about a bipolar mum to 6 who strives to do better for herself, for her family that annoys people? Why does knowing that I help so many other women out there scare you?
If you spend less time hating on me and spend that time helping others, be that with friends, family, on Facebook, on Twitter or on your own blog, then the world would be a happier place.
If you’re going to judge me, at least spend a day walking in my shoes. If you don’t understand me then at least try to get to know me, rather than slating me.
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well said Emma. Like you said , everyone is entitled to their opinion but judging without knowing the truth or just being plain ignorant is out of order. while you have such a big following (for good reason) unfortunately you will always have the ‘haters’. In my opinion it’s pure jealousy and ignorance xxx
I saw this on Facebook today, ‘While you were busy judging me your skeletons fell out of your closet’
Those kind of people are like the people in the village I live in, they judge you on your family status and how much land(yes that means fields) and money your family has. Same kinda thing(I think) stems with blogging. You bare your soul to those of like minds in a, what should be, safe environment but yet there are the snobs that will stumble upon your blog and just because you show the dark side of life, not just parenting, they will become all prudish.
You know what I say to those. Fuck off. Take your pompous windbaggery and shove it up your waxed arse. Life is not a bed of flower petals. It’s tough and Emma White deals with the shit and dirt that life throws at everyone. I for one feel welcome and I feel like I belong with Emma’s group. That to me is the best thing ever! Thank you Emma White and all the mommy’s I come in contact with on a day to day basis for helping me with my life!
Keep being a rebel!!!!!!!!!
They feel threatened because Emma has quite a brain on her, when I first joined her group, I thought she was just another mum like me but then she let us in (I mean us, as in the hundreds of women on her group)
Of what she has been through and what she has accomplished while going through such hard times.
She is an agony aunt but instead of just offering a few words of advice, she will take that one step further, if she could, she would be knocking at your door to make sure you are ok.
I bet they don’t know that you had your own business?
Emma is an intelligent mother who has my respect.
She runs a household, looks after her children WHILE running a Facebook group and a blog.
And I’ve been around a while so I know it will take more then a couple of jealous bloggers to knock her down.
Carry on what you’re doing Emma, Bevause TOU are more then brilliant at it.
Sorry for such a long essay lol
Xxx
Erm quick question, Emma can I still stalk you? Hehe.
Now, back to the point of this reply.
I have known Emma over a year now. I have been witness to her hatred acts of childish rebellion, I have seen what they will do and say to bring Emma down. There’s nothing off limits when Emma is being hunted like a pyscho bull on the loose rampaging through the online world. Her mental health, her physical health, her children, her husband. All fodder for the enemies when they want to deal a low blow.
I’ve seen these supposed adults kick Emma so god dam hard it hurts and then they get others to deal the punches out.
There’s times Emma has questioned things, whether privately or on her group, communicating her frustration at being treated like that. She’s had times in more recent months when people she held dear to her have let her down badly, and at one point Emma questioned did she deserve it.
The answer to that will always be NO! Not once, not ever. Emma should not be treated like a leper for being truthful. Or be made to feel like she’s anything but amazing. I know lots of courageous people, but Emma is the one who knows my dark side, my worst times, and still thinks I’m awesome.
The hatred need to learn a lesson and learn it well. Emma can’t be grounded, and she’s not a troll. She’s a beautiful mind in a beautiful person with ugly twisted nobody’s who don’t want to like her because she’s honest making things so much more harder than they need to be.
Emmas not a game. Her life is real. Her blog is real. Her thoughts and values are real. The trolls are false, delusional and sad.
Its jealousy my friend. Pure and simple. The fact that’s your blog is read. And gets replies an actually helps people. Instead of the usual humdrum crap you see posted about these wonderful women where the worst thing to happen in their lives is a shitty nappy. Don’t ever, ever let the haters get you down. For every muppet sat discussing the ins and outs of your arse; there’s two more who love what you’re doing, and depend on your support. Please don’t stop what you’re doing. Just because there might not be 100 comments next to every post; it don’t mean that people ain’t reading. You’re still helping them xxx
If people concentrated on making themselves better people rather than trying to find fault with others then the world would be a far better place. These morons that try and find fault in you must be unhappy with their lives, why else would they waste their lives being so bitter towards others?
In the words of will young JEALOUSY XX
Its simple, they are jealous of you hunni x x
They are defiantly jealous of what you have done with your life. And successful blog and moms group
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They are jelous of u and what u have become x
Screw them chick your blog your life your path x
I hear you. I am still in the community but after voicing an opinion which was against the grain of a big blogger, I was more or less ostracised by many. I have special needs kids and my blog is an outlet, not a competition so I don’t do the award ceremony things. I suspect for many, the awards are the highlight of their online lives.
I live with a child who has mental health issues, so I understand how the mum blogging community often fail mum who challenge life outside of acceptable norms. I’vE read bloggers talk about switching off mentally if they seen a special needs post as it bores them.
Glad to find another blogger who does not condemn me
Yes pretty much sucks when your made an outcast x
well said hun haters are just people that jelous and have nothing better to do in their sad lifes bullies that just never actually grow up xx
well said
people are just jealous x
screw them huni they r jelous of u….
jealousy is an illness lol xx