I only work 6 hours a week, in the time I am at work my son is with his dad (goes every Friday to Sunday without fail) which means I get a bit of a break. Well I have been potty training my son as he is now 4 and just started school; well he’s mastered it at home, and has no problems what so ever using his potty or the toilet.
Yet at school he won’t do it and wears pull ups to save on accidents and them having to change him all the time. I have also noticed his dad puts him in nappies for the weekend. He wont potty train our son when he has him.I have even told him that he’s not going anymore because he can’t keep putting our son in nappies as its setting him back and I will never get him out of nappies.
I phoned my mum as she’s taking me the hospital tomorrow, I asked her if she could have my son on Saturday night so that I can go to work, she has turned around and told me that either his dad has him and I allow my son to be set back constantly so I never get him out of nappies or I give up my job.
My job is the only one thing I have for myself, it’s the only me time I have to be able to feel normal and have an adult conversation. Am I wrong to be a bit peeved off at the fact my own family won’t help me out and think I should give up my job and put my son 1st?
I work to keep myself sane and to be able to give my son treats. I very rarely buy myself anything; it’s always my son who gets 1st then the bills then me. I don’t want to have to give up my job just because my mum thinks I need to.
Supermums Advice;
Firstly you have every reason to be angry with both your ex-partner and your mother. They both need to support your son, not make things difficult for you and cause him a delay.
Is childcare an option for you? Although I always advise that dads get lots of quality time too, he needs to stand up and take responsibility and accept that potty training is an important part of his son’s learning and growing up; it’s not all fun and games.
You really need to sit down with your ex and devise a plan, work together, feel as if your involving him and he may think he’s actually helping you and want to at least give it a try. Working together as a team will show your son that mum and dad are both playing the same game here, so it does not confuse him.
Stay strong and calm with your mother, you keep your job, you’re an independent women. Perhaps remind her that she will be the one missing out on time with her grandson if you find childcare.
What advice can you offer this mum?
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Emma has it spot on, not much more I can add
Gold star to supermum xx
Emma has it right, cant add much more sorry hunni x x;
Theres nothing I can add, just wanted to show some support xx
Looks like emma has hit the nail in the head, I hope u get things sorted x
brill advice from emma there
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totally agree with emma x
agree with emma 100 %
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i really hope that u get this sorted, emma got it spot on. i wud say to ur los dad that either he supports u in potty training and anyting else with ur lo, or untillhe is fully potty trained he cant have him to stay over night, i know that it means ur free time wont be there but it more just to scare him and maybe have to use one weekend to prove u mean it. as for your mother she is in the wrong, u dont av to quit ur job at all u r providing for ur lo no matter how may hrs u do. just cos u r a mother dont mean tht is all u r. xx
i agree with emma to spot on xx hope u got it sorted now hun xx
I really hope that you’ve sorted this now hun and have to say Emmas advice is spot on xx
Thank you all for your help and advice. Yes it is all sorted now and my little boy is fully potty trained and I still have a job xx
emma’s 100% right there xx