Have you ever met someone who you just felt a connection with? A stranger of softs, someone I met online, on a Facebook mums group.
This woman was like any other mother on my group, yet over time I came to realise we shared so many similarities.
We talked, we chatted about everyday things, the fact she stalked me with a cat picture, ranting about the men in our life and our kids, she like me has a larger than normal family and we got on well. The use of a mobile prevented this mum from explaining to more about her life, why she fought to trust and never felt accepted.
I agreed to give her my home address, she felt that writing to me and just telling someone would help her deal with her demons. This is what she did. The letter arrived and I am not ashamed to say I cried. The horrific abuse and crap that had happened in her life was not the reason I cried.
I cried because this women, the one I had met online trusted me, she had never trusted anyone since being screwed over and let down so many times, she opened her heart to me and fearing that I could judge her and unfriend her, she still bore her soul to me.
That touched me.
The thing about our online friendship is it’s a two way system, no matter what crap she is dealing with if I need her she is there.
I was going through a very difficult time and one morning a gift arrived in the post, out dropped a silver coin, an angel of courage coin. That coin has been with me when I needed that extra push to do something or I rub it when I am afraid and it helps me.
Another time she sent me a charm bracelet, she did not just go out and buy me a bracelet, she personally choose a variety of charms that had a special meaning to me.
That charm bracelet I wear when leaving the house is too difficult for me, I turn the charms and remind myself I am strong and I can fight this anxiety.
Angie, who admins for me came to visit me a few weeks ago, the group had contributed a few pounds each to buy me a gift, a very beautiful gold chain with a guardian angel locket, with a personal inscription engraved onto the back. I have never taken it off. This woman was one of those who wanted to help buy it. I believe the guardian angel idea would have been hers.
This women has no idea how much she changed my life, that simple act of kindles, has enabled me to face obstacles that normally prevent me from leading a normal everyday life.
Clutching that coin, wearing that chain and looking at those charms reminds me I am needed, loved and respected. I fight for so many women, I fight for myself too.
This woman has contributed to the blog, shared some of her experiences and has helped hundreds of others. She has no idea how many other women have read her experiences and have related to them.
I want her to know how much she has helped me; I don’t see her past, her mental illness, her horrific abusive past. I see a loyal and loving woman who I love and respect and I am very proud of her. She is strong and inspiring and this woman is my friend.
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That’s lovely how u have come so close x
Lovely x
totally agree with u Emma, she was there 4 me n listened to me at my lowest when going 4 my op even though she had her own problems to deal with, shes always there on the group to crack a smile or just 4 a friendly hug when ur down, she is a big part of the group n i’m sure all the other mums will agree with me on this, u truely r special Shell, n we all love u
xx
How lovely x x
That really is beautiful. And brought tears to my eyes xxxxxxxxxxxxx
thats so sweet xx
Thats lovely xx
There’s still no words.. There’s just love.
You have written this beautiful post for me and I can’t find the words I want to say at the moment. I never expected anything like this. I’m so touched and humbled. Thankyou Emma. I’m proud to be the reason you wrote this xxx
Angie, you stated I was there at your low point, but you forget you were there for me a while ago when I had to talk to someone about those thoughts in my head. Do you remember? You spent all morning coaxing it out of me as you knew I wasn’t right. And when you found out that terrible thought I had, even though I didn’t act on it, I still had it.. You still talked to me, you didn’t judge me or hate me. You encouraged me to go drs and I did .
I was slipping that day into my old thought patterns. That thing I nearly did, it caused me to want to self harm for the first time in 12 yrs. You spoke to me when I was razor in hand and you didn’t even know it. Simply by being there I was able to calm myself and stop it before it started.
Probably shouldn’t of admitted that here, but still.
There are a handful of ladies I know I can turn too. I jokingly call you all my harem and on my statuses you are collectively known as that, but it’s because I trust you all without question and I know you know I’ll be there for you all too if I was needed.
Kindness is always repaid and so is love and honesty. Xxx
awww hunni, now u made me cry , n yes i do remember that convosation n i’d say the same again , can’t belive how close u was n yes i am so glad u trusted me enough to open up with the thought u had n i’m so glad i could help at the time i didn’t realise u was so close
but i’m so glad u came to me n even if i helped 4 five mins n long enough to get u to seek help i’m glad, love u loads hun , massive hugs xx
this is lovely
such a lovely post <3 your so lucky to have found someone that special xx
Aww thats luvly xx
thats lovely
this woman is amazing and always has time for others even if shes got things going on at home etc xxx
Awww
I love you Emma’s cat stalker! I may just make you that toast one day hun! x
this is very heartfelt and touching
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Toast mmmmmmmmm
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Angie, thats two admins ive made cry! Oh dear :-s. Hmmm ill have to put that right!
Im always here for you guys , you know it xx
this is lovely and very touching xx
tthtsa lovely story huni xx