I am feeling so down and confused. I want my old life back, I miss it so much. I want my ex back and for our children to have mummy and daddy together; happy again as a family but he left us at Xmas last year, when he started seeing some girl he worked with. He tore our family apart yet I long for the old days. He still says he loves me, that he is sorry and wants me back, yet within days he’s ignoring my calls and refuses to talk to me.
I have told him to stop contacting me and only to do so if it’s about arranging to see the kids. He has since changed his number, so even if it’s about the kids I can’t contact him. How can he hurt them this way as well as me?
I can understand why you are angry, upset and confused, this man was the man you loved shared a family with and he hurt you when he walked out on you. You long for that time when you were happy, but you could never get that back, even if you were to rekindle your relationship.
He cheated on you and broke up your family; learning to forgive someone who has hurt you so much is very difficult.
He is wrong to keep leading you on, please cut this man out of your life and stop him from playing games with your heart. If you took him back you would always wonder if he was going to cheat or leave you again. He is proving here he is still willing to keep on hurting you, he has learned no lesson and you deserve better than this.
Please think about arranging contact via a court order, so your children do not suffer long term, give him a final chance to show he can provide stable and regular contact with his children. But leave it there, you will find someone who treats you the way you should be.
Good Luck x
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