I have always been a curvy girl, size 14 but was always happy and never bothered with my weight. That was until I met my ex and having my little girl, my weight went wild to 21st and a size 24. It made me feel like shit but looking back now, even when I looked in the mirror I never actually saw how big I was.
It really got me down, tried every single diet going, pills from the doctor, pills from the internet and even starving myself. I tried it all too loose weight.
It didn’t help that my daughter’s father had cheated constantly, even had an affair with my own step sister. YES I knew and she admitted it, even though he denied it. I made myself block it out, my family turned against me as I stayed and believed him, I needed him. In my head I couldn’t be without him.
He would tell me other girls were prettier than me and that he would sleep with them if given the chance. He would flirt and touch, making rude remarks at other girls in front of me, I made a joke out of it as if it was all him messing around but Inside I was dying.
My confidence had hit rock bottom, my weight gaining and he knew I wouldn’t leave him. I needed him.
I thought about surgery as I thought if I was skinny he would treat me better, but deep down that was just a dream. I saw I had made myself like this so I had to live with the consequences..
In October 2010 my doctor offered me surgery, I accepted but again deep down I never thought it would happen. I went for my consultation, got the funding straight away, I was 23 stone with a BMI of 45.
Then the blow I had to lose 3 stone by myself before they would let me have it, as the doctor did whole operation through keyhole.
I left feeling gutted as I knew it was hard for me lose weight. Come June a lot of people had commented I’d lost weight (I couldn’t really see it myself). I stepped on scales and was 10lb off my target, so I was buzzing, did all I could to shift this last few pounds.
July came I did it, so rang hospital and told them. I got my pre op assessment through for 18th August, that all went well. I was generally fit and healthy to stand the operation By this time my ex was begging me not to do it…finally I thought he does care. I still thought this is either a dream or it will take years to get the operation.
Two weeks later a phone call came saying I was due to have the operation on October 25th. I was excited, nervous scared.
Two weeks before the operation I had to live on 3 pints of milk each day and 2 Actimel yoghurts to shrink my liver so that I could have the operation via keyhole surgery.
I then had a letter through the post on 11th October my operation had been rescheduled for 15th October YES in 4days time.
Come the morning of my operation I didn’t think I could do it, what if something happened to me on the operating table I mean I’ve got a 5year old daughter am I being selfish for doing this? If something did happen to me I would be leaving my daughter without a mummy.
It was too late; I was on way to theatre
Four hours later I had the operation was in recovery back on the ward. I had a Sleeve gastrectomy fitted, which is basically 85%of my tummy removed.
I have 5 tiny little scars on my belly and was up walking little steps 3 hours after my operation. I was , home after spending only 2 nights in hospital. But the road to recovery was long and hard, I had no help off my daughter’s dad, he carried on putting me down and made me feel worthless and selfish because I had done something for myself.
I kept falling asleep due to the amount of tablets I was on, I could stand for no longer than 20 minutes at a time, yet was also expected to cook his tea and clean the house.
By Christmas I had lost 6 more stone, I was feeling good, confidence was booming and I started to realise I didn’t need or want this pathetic excuse of a man in my life.
I finally found the courage tell him it was over, wasn’t easy at all he changed completely he locked me and my daughter in my house for 3 hours where he subjected me to verbal, physical and sexual abuse, resulting in broken cheekbone, bruised forehead, swollen face, marks on my neck from being strangled.
At one point I thought this is it I’m going to die here tonight in front of my own daughter by her dad all because I had done something for myself and lost weight and gained confidence.
Bet your wondering did I call the police? YES on 3 separate occasions for assaulting me and every single time he was let off with a caution, a joke I know.
Finally after 2 months of harassment every day I was forced to move home and change my number he finally left me be, I realised he didn’t “care” he just knew I would finally get the strength to leave.
It’s not been easy so please don’t think I’ve taken the easy way out. It’s taken me nearly 7months before I was eating real food, lived on soup which I had to liquidise then sieve before I could eat it.
I will be on minerals and vitamins for life now, I am also anaemic and now a secret bulimic because I am so afraid of putting weight on.
I now weigh 9st 8, size 8 clothes have and have an amazing new partner who has showed me how women should be treated, he’s gave me back my confidence. But deep down I am not happy with myself and this is why after eating I make myself sick, scared to put weight on, I tell people it’s since my operation that’s why I am sick but I can’t use this excuse forever.
I often go 3-4 days without food and jus drink water, I didn’t expect this. I just wanted to be skinny and feel loved but I don’t regret it at all and would I recommend surgery to others….YES!!!
About The Real Supermum
Hugs hun. Glad you’ve found a guy to treat you right after what that pig did. I hope one day you find the strength to get past it
You are worth so much more hun, so glad you happy now xxxx
Amazing that you are happy for doing something for yourself..As for the horrid man Im glad you got away well done and big hug too you xx
I really want surgery. I know it’s not the “easy way out”
But I am totally desperate!
I got told my bmi is too low.
Glad you got away from that prick!
Hope you are okay x
wow hunni, first of all well done u
it must of taken alot of strengh to lose the weight n have the op, i’m so glad u left the pig n found someone who loves u n treats u right n u’ve found happyness 
this is going to show others that it can b done , big hugs xx
Hugs. Glad u found Happiness in the end
Have been thinking about doing this myself. But I’m a little worried how to lose the access flab? I’m 5’3 and 17 stone with a bmi of 42.2. With a lot of what I like to call rolls I have lost 2.5 stone on my own so far and can already see the access flab iv tried excersising but it isn’t seem to going. I do not work so no way I could afford lypo or tummy tuck. I really want to be healthy and extend my life span. If the person who sent this could get incontact with me at titch_goodman@yahoo.co.uk for some advice I would be very greatful xxx
Have been thinking about doing this myself. But I’m a little worried how to lose the access flab? I’m 5’3 and 17 stone with a bmi of 42.2. With a lot of what I like to call rolls I have lost 2.5 stone on my own so far and can already see the access flab iv tried excersising but it isn’t seem to going. I do not work so no way I could afford lypo or tummy tuck. I really want to be healthy and extend my life span. If the person who sent this could get incontact with me at titch_goodman@yahoo.co.uk for some advice I would be very greatful xxx
Big hugs hunni, you dont need that around your daughter your both worth more and I am glad your both away from him and have a new man a million times better than your ex. You know who your mates are as well hunni and we all love you the way you are <3 xxx
Big hugs glad u feel better now I always wished I could have surgery but by myself I’ve lost 2 stone so far and I don’t plan on giving up yet x
Hugs hunni, you deserve to be happy
unlike some peopler i diet and the weight just drops off x x
Glad youve got a man who is treating you the way you definitely deserve to be treated!
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aww brill, glad u have found a man to treat u the way u should be!!! well done for finding the strength to leave him, and congrats on the weight loss
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Well done on both parts of your story! getting away from him is the best thing you could of done and losing the weight, congrats, wish i could do it xx
congratulations on losing the weight
and well done for finding a good man x
Hug hun. you deserved so much better, very brave for sharing your story
and congrats on losing weight 
xx
What a hell of a journey you have been on. So glad you plucked up the courage to leave your daughters dad, im shocked at how he treated you. Well done for getting so far with the weight loss – you should be proud of yourself. You just need to believe in yourself =) x
you deserve to be happy, well done for losing the weight you have done so well xx
wow i feel like i have just read my own story i no how hard it is to lose weight you deserve to be happy well done for losing weight i wish you the best for the future xxxx
well done hun you have done fab xx
Im so glad the you finally got away from the ***ker!! you havent cheated at all and pleased you have shared your story. Im sorry you still feel the way you do but the first step of getting better is to admit it. I hope you get help for the bulimia and you continue to have a happy life with ur new partner and daughter xxxx