I miscarried a few weeks ago now. The ache and pain of losing my baby is driving me to distraction.
Last night my partner and I were doing the deed (we do it a lot!) and he said he hates using condoms. I really prefer sex with him without also, (but the doctors have told us to wait until I have had two periods)
Well firstly I started bleeding during sex, nothing period like as it stopped after and secondly we both said, yeah I know we should wait, but he wants a baby together as much as I do, and if I do get pregnant again now, then so what…..what do you ladies think?
Are we careless to throw caution to the wind? Or do you think I should wait?
I’m taking prenatal supplements, eating healthily and exercising. I feel desperate to be pregnant again and I know that’s a lot due to grieving our loss: what would you ladies do?
We so wanted this baby and it hurt us to lose our second since June. To the point we are almost desperate to be pregnant.
What advice can you give?
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First of all sorry for your losses hun..and I’d say go for it if u both feel ready to try for another baby..no one can tell you what u shouldn’t or shouldn’t be doing..good luck huni xx
So sorry for your loss hunni,these things are so difficult to deal with. But the reason they tell you to wait is to give your body time to heal,if you get pregnant too soon there is a greater risk of miscarrying again
Take care hun xx
Sending you lots of hugs hunni and hope that time can ease ur pain of losing ur loved one. It’s your body and both you and your partners lives to with as you wish. The doctor has given you guidelines for a reason though hun and following them may save you yet more heart break. i wish you both all the very best in your future and i wil keep my fingers crossed xxx
Very sorry for your loss. I’ve been in your situation. I’ve had a miss before both of my girls and the first one really floored me. I say it’s upto you. You know your body, not the doctors, if you feel you are emotionally ready and you are fit and healthy I don’t see why you need to wait.
there is a reason y they say two more periods hun u have to let ur body rest n if u dont u have a high risk of a mc my sister has had 2 This yr alone n finally waited 8 weeks n now has a gawjus little man
the 8 weeks might b a long time but Its worth it n If Want a baby that bad Its worth the wait 
My self and my partner as also lost a baby we were 21+3 and the pains still hurts like hell we are just letting things go not trying but not preventing as things will happen as they need to don’t put to much in the docs they read a book to tell you what’s what in ya life go with how you feel not some 1 who read a book on loss of a baby
Why not meet the doctor halfway…give it a month and then start trying again. At least that way you wont feel so confused or guilty. Its what i would do. Been ttc for 11months now…fingers crossed we both get a sticky bean! xxx big hugs xxx
Sorry for your loss, having had three miscarriages myself i understand your pain! However, it is best to wait at least two months hun, for your body to adjust back to normal before trying again. xx
So sorry for your loss Hun but if your both ready go for it, my sister fell pregnant nearly straight away after her miscarriage x
so sorry for ur loss, i was the same as u when i miscarried. but if you were both ready then go for it
so sorry for your loss hun xx
1st i am sorry for your losses huni.
i know this feeling hun and it i know myself tht it is a very strong pull. all i can say is it will happen just relax it will happen, remember having sex is for fun and for the closes of ur partner,
i forgot tht we were having sex to be together for me it became all about baby making like a chore and a need. it took everything out of it and i didnt enjoy it…
i took a step back n realised what was happeneing, spoke to him n told him what was happening and tht i felt the need to have a baby and howi cudnt get out of the mind set of i need to be pregnant again ineed to be a mum, i realised he understood and from then we had sex for just having sex, abt 3 mnths lter i was pregnant once i started to enjoy it againwe fell pregnant
hope u get ur happyending, tlk to ur oh hewill understand i promise
Really sorry for your loss hun, but i would wait a wee while hun xxx
Sending u huge hugs sweet, I know all to well how this feels, however I had one doctor tell me to wait 4 weeks, which will be a week today and another just when I’m ready x