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When Should I Put My Teen On Contraception?
My eldest daughter is now a rather blossoming thirteen year old and the question of contraception should be some time way off In the distance but it gives pause for thought , questioning is there ever a right age to put my teen on contraception?
I wonder how other mothers do it, wait until they know their daughter is experimenting, is it a certain age threshold they cross? Once they get a boyfriend even?
I seem to remember my own mother taking me to the doctors around the age of 13, saying something about the pill would make my periods lighter, I have never had heavy periods, was this her way of making sure she knew I was protected? I didn’t need the pill till I was almost 17. She had a lot of faith in me.
Is suggesting contraception to a thirteen year old more damaging than good, would I be saying OK so you may want to do “adult things” now, is there not enough pressure out there from their peers?
My daughter started her periods over 8 months ago, maybe I could be sly and use the same excuse as my own mother did with me, does the pill stop spots too?
I don’t want my child on birth control, she is just that at the age of thirteen a child in my eyes, but is it something I should be talking to her about at this age?
We do have a very good relationship and I can only hope that when the right time comes she will come and talk to me, so we can discuss this milestone together.
I was thinking maybe 15/16 would be the suitable age? Is this the age most young girls start experimenting in that area? Or am I out of touch?
When would you suggest I put my teen on contraception?
How old were you when you started taking contraception?
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I must have been rather naive as a teen myself as I didn’t have sex til I was 16. Which is shocking these days (I’m 21). My friends called me a tease and so did the boys because I wore make-up and little skirts and all that. But that was just me. I wasn’t doing it to ‘be a tease’ or ‘get attention’ it’s just what I liked to wear. I got a bad name for myself and that probably helped me to stear clear from boys in that way. Don’t get me wrong, I fancied boys, had boyfriends, made out with them (lol) but that’s as far as it ever went, if they asked for sexual favours or sex or tried to touch me I’d simply say no. This is the approach I believe more girls should take! Abstinance is good! My mother had ‘the talk’ with me about contraception when I had my first boyfriend at 13 and when she said to me “if you dare get pregnant before you’re 16 I will kill you” I remember running off crying ’cause the thought of sex hadn’t even entered my mind, I wasn’t interested! I think you have to wait til your daughter is ready to talk about it. Maybe if it comes up on tv mention it but don’t force it onto her ’cause you don’t want to scare her xx
I was honest with ny mum & told her I had sex at 14 as soon as she knew she booked me a docs appointment & got me on the pill aswell as dragging me up the family planing clinic to get me free condoms, yes she was angry that I’d had sex so young but she was happy that I was open with her about it & I hope mny chil will be the Samee with me xxx
My mum (lol) and said now u and ur bother are of sexual age I will jus leave some condoms in th bathroom cabnet take as u wish I will restock when empty I felt very embarressed lol
i took myself to the doctors at 14 and got the pill. but then my periods were so heavy! i had to change my pad every hour and the pill made them a lot lighter. i didn’t have sex til i was 15. mum knew and she knew i was already on the pill. i would take my daughter at about 14 unless her periods were awful like mine were, i don’t want her to feel constantly paranoid like i was x x
When I was 15 I started going out with my first real boyfriend. I knew that we were going to be together long term and that I’d probably lose my virginity to him. I spoke to my mum and said to her that I wanted to have the implant put in so that when the time came I’d be covered. If my daughter wanted to get contraception at 14 or under I’d advise her to wait a while before she became sexually active. I’d give her a couple of days to think about it and if she still wanted to go and get contraception I’d gladly take her. I’d much rather my daughter be safe than hide the fact she’s sexually active and end up pregnant
i went to the clinic myself when i was 13 as i was having sex, i did it secretly as i was worried what would be said but i was being careful as far as preventing pregnancy goes. safe sex had never really been spoken about so i didnt feel i could talk about it either i had had the period talk when i was 9 after i had started, bt late really!
i wish i had know all the facts then but i was very lucky and hadnt caught anything !
my lg is 9 and we have had the period talk and when she is 12/13 i will talk to her about sex in an age appropriate way and hope that she will be able to talk to me.
I asked if I could go in it at 15 my mum agreed how ever my dad wasn’t so keen on the idea but he let me… I dnt even wanna think about contraception for my kids yet there only 1 and 5 lol and both boys so condoms all round x
I was 13 when I went on the pill. It genuinly was for heavy periods I was lucky to have a very open relationship with my mum and dad so I asked them. It didn’t in anyway make me want to run out and have sex it still scared me. I did find myself having a conversation with my sister recently about my niece her daughter who is 17. She has shown no interest at all in having a physical relationship with a boy or infact have a bf but she can get very emotional and suffers with her periods I suggested it and they both said NO as their first thought went to sex. Once I explained that its not a green light to go out sleeping with any tom dick or harry they realised it did make sense. I think it is a hard subject to approach as a parent I know I’m dreading it and my daughter isn’t even here yet. But I think if you are able to talk openly as a family it makes these subjects a lot easier.
I was 13 when i went on the pill again for the same reason it would make my periods lighter….. but i was always forgetting to take it….. my mum marched me to the family planning clinic when i was 16 and i got the implant…. i was very naive back then though and didnt even lose my virginity till i was 17….. which to be fair is quite late now days lol and im only 22 now!! My little one is only 6 months at the moment but i dread the teenage years and all the new problems and discussions that will crop up lol… i just hope i have the relationship with her where she can talk to me about anything and not be shy or worried!! x
i was on the pill at 14 thats when I (properly if u no what i mean) lost my virginty.. i asked my mum to take me docs for it. If it was my daughter I would tell her if she wants to go on the pill at 13/14 then its ok with me as long as she knows its only to help regulate and ease up her periods and for nothing else, but will also let her know that if she feels like talking to me about anything then i am always there to listen to her. i would rather let her know i am there and will support her at 13/14 than her do it behind my back anyway
I went on the pill at the age of 13/14 but this was because all of my family have suffered with really heavy painful periods so these where to help control them and make them lighter. I lost my virginity at the age of 15 then at 16 i went onto the injection. I think it is just one of those things that you both need to sit down and talk about and then when she feels the time is ready (not for another few years yet lol) then she will come to you and say ‘mum i think i am ready’ and she will already be aware of different contraceptions as you have already discussed it xx
I think it depends on each teen to be honest, if i even THOUGHT my daughter was become sexually active i would not think twice about the pin. but as she is only coming up 7 i have a while to work on building our relationship so that she is comfortable in talking to me and hopefully she will talk to me BEFORE she does anything. i started the pill at 14 for heavy periods and was 17 before i needed it xx
i was put on the depo a few months after my 16th birthday n i agree girls should be put on some kind of birth control …… BUT …… they also should b edicated on sti, hiv, aids ect that r not stopped by pills and that if they can not b sure a boy/male has not got one of the above so to double up with condoms as well xx
Ive always had a very open relationship with my mum, which has deffo served me well I was very sensible my first time .. My mum took me to get the pill when I was 16 more for heavy periods to be fair. I think we need to have open relationships with our daughters so they know they can get contraception without being told off etc ..I’d like to think if I ever have a daughter she will be sensible and come to me if she needed help ! I will also flip it and make sure my son knows what contraception is and how to use it x
I have no idea how to go about this. I’m worried about it for when my daughters old enough for all this talk. I started my periods at 10 years old. I must admit I didn’t tell my mum when I first did it but months later she found out but we’ve had an open relationship since. I can now talk to my mum about anything so I’m hoping that my daughter can come to me and say that. She’s 14 months so it is definitely way way WAY into the future.
I was 13 I asked for a few reasons but told mum it was periods
Hmm tough one, Ive been on the pill from a very young age I started my periods age 9 n they were really heavy n painful, pill’s worked wonders for this but tbh I don’t think you would realise the importance of remembering it etc at this age, not sure what I’ll do with my daughter but obviously the pill doesn’t protect from sti’s so I suppose the importance of condoms would have to be mentioned don’t even want to think about it yet lol however i wouldn’t have a problem putting her on the pill just wouldnt no how or when to go about it! x
I put myself on the injection at 17 when I first started having sex.
Mum never had the sex talk with me but she didn’t need to. I was an aunt by the time I was 8 so already knew all the birds and the bees by then.
I never had the talk with my parents….
I lost my virginity at 13.
It was hit and miss weather or not I used a condom tbh.
Maybe an excuse is a good thing…. but at the same time might stop an unwanted pregnancy but not infections.
I’d hope my daughters came to me before thinking about that kind of thing. Maybe have a word and let them know that they should do so you can make sure they’re protected x
i never spoke with my mum about contraception and have never been on the pill, i didnt have sex till i was 16 and used condoms but then got the implant at 17 off my own back. I would like to think that when the time comes my daughter will come to talk to me coz i wouldnt want our relationship to be like mine n my mums :/
I went on the pill at 15 for heavy periods, my mum had her eldest at 16 and we were all told how hard she had it it was drummed in to us to not have a child young x
I hope my daughter comes to me about this, I wouldn’t be happy putting her on the at 13 x
I went on it at 14 but my choice. Yes I was sexually active. Think it should be the girl’s choice not the mum’s