Trying to conceive after the Depo injection
August 2009 was when my partner and I decided we were ready to start trying for another child, our little girl was 3 and we both had good jobs so why not. I was on the depo injection so we knew it could take a little while for anything to happen.
So that month I didn’t go to get my injection when it was due and we crossed our fingers that it wouldn’t take too long.
Unfortunately it was 9 months before my periods came back. The next few months were a nightmare. That first bleed lasted nearly 3 weeks, and then it stopped for 4 days but then started all over again, bar a couple of days here and there I bled for about 3 months. Everything was all over the place and it was starting to get me down. My partner is a firm believer in stuff happens for a reason, so he just believed we’ll get pregnant when it’s meant to be, but tried his best to keep me upbeat as stressing wasn’t going to help either.
My body slowly started to settle down but was nowhere near regular, some months I would bleed, others I wouldn’t. These months were really hard on me as I started to get my hopes up every time nothing came.
It was now January 2011, seemed like ages since we had decided we were ready, our lives were completely different now and all I kept thinking about was that the age gap between a baby and our little girl is getting bigger and bigger.
My partner and myself has been together for 7 years now and engaged for 5, we decided it was time to book the wedding and with older members of the family becoming more fragile we decided we didn’t want to wait too long as we wanted them to all be there, so we booked for that October. However one thing I have always said was that I didn’t want to be a pregnant bride and I just knew that because we had booked the date I would fall. So with a heavy heart I went and saw the nurse and went on the pill.
Once I started taking it though it seemed like a blessing that we had dome this and I had decided to take the pill because after only one month my cycles were back to being 28 days and every month.
October 2011 I became a Mrs and stopped taking the pill. However although I had stopped taking the pill I told myself not to get my hopes up too much, it had now been over 2 years since we had decided to start trying to conceive and I had so many months of heartache I didn’t know if I could take anymore. Then once again my periods became irregular, I’d started counting 28days and then waiting another week before even thinking about testing. Although never did have to test as in that week, sometime I would come on, think I counted my cycles to be about 35days.
In the end I gave up completely, everyone around me were either pregnant or had just had a child, I just couldn’t take the heartache anymore. It had been 2 and a half years and still nothing. My now Husband still kept with ‘it’ll happen when it’s meant to’. Yea, ok, What if it’s not meant to happen again. What made it all worse was I was taking the pill when I fell pregnant with my little girl.
It was the day before Valentine’s day this year, I was busy talking to one of the mums at the school gates when I dropped my little girl off, she had just found out she was pregnant when it suddenly dawned on me, I hadn’t had a period since December. Was this just my body messing up again or had it finally happened??
I stopped off at the shop on my way home that morning and bought a test, I got one of the ones that actually say the word and tell you how many weeks to make sure that I don’t miss read it and get my hopes up again.
Did the test as soon as I got home. There it was the word PREGNANT and 3 weeks +. Then I suddenly thought maybe I should have waited for the hubby to be home because it had hit me like a ton of bricks. I felt so overwhelmed, sick and faint. Wouldn’t be able to get hold of hubby until he was home either.
Needless to say as soon as I told him, the whole world knew.
So here we are 3 years after we decided we were ready and after a lot of heart ache, we now only have 7 weeks left before we meet our second child.
It has made me think a lot about what contraceptive to use after this baby too, although I loved the depo injection when I was on it I couldn’t go through all the heartache again. Having to look into other kinds as we are undecided as to whether we want to stop at two children or have another one.
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