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I would like to share my life with you all, hopefully it can help others, can I please ask no judging there are things I’m going to share here that I have never told anyone before, but after becoming friends with Emma (The Real Supermum) and received much help from the mums group she runs, I feel the time is right for me to get a few things off my chest.
Social Services Took My Kids Away
I was brought up in what I thought was a typical family, from the ages of 5 to 7 I was sexually abused. The heart-breaking part to this is not so much the sexual abuse but the fact that my mother knew and even covered for her secret lover, she did the unthinkable and convinced me it had been my own father.
My mother had brain washed me into believing it was my father who abused me, it wasn’t until I was 29 that I found out the truth. It had been my mother’s boyfriend who she was having an affair with; needless to say I can never forgive my mother.
Growing up from the age of 8 I cooked and cleaned for myself as my mother neglected me, emotionally and physically abused me, nothing was ever done around the home. I had no one to help me, nobody to turn too. My school had concerns but they never did anything, suspecting it was not as bad as it seemed.
I eventually ran away from home as I could take no more but I was soon brought back. After returning home I was sexually abused by a boy I sort of knew, I pushed it to the back of mind. I guess I had accepted the fate that I was there for others to abuse.
I then ran away for the second time and as a result I ended up in care, shipped from foster home to foster home. I knew I didn’t fit in anyway and that nobody really cared for me. I painted a smile on my face and hiding the truth from friends, when I was 17 I finally got kicked out.
Social Services placed me in a youth hostel and I was basically left to get on with it. I soon became pregnant with my first child; his father was abusive and broke my nose while I was holding our son. I left him; I wasn’t going to stand for it anymore. My whole life people had hurt me.
I then met my daughter’s father, he was a nice bloke but I couldn’t understand why he didn’t hit me or was not abusive towards me. I was told so many lies about him, I didn’t know what to believe and I ended it with him.
After the birth of my daughter I struggled with postnatal depression, I had no help, I stupidly asked Social Services for help. At first they were great and offered me the help needed, I was assigned a new social worker; I was then emotional abused by her. Nothing I did was right in her eyes and the help I was receiving faded and ended. She made me feel a failure. Social Services decided my children were better off without me, they took my kids away.
I was pushed to a nervous breakdown because of her and forced into giving my children to their dads. My sons father started drinking again and my son was put on the at risk register. I had to fight through the courts for my son, but I lost. I couldn’t fight the lies she told about me and I was not aware of the rights I had.
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Hugs hun, your children will know you fought for them when the time is right. I hope you have found the happiness you deserve xx
bbig hugs hunni. what horrid ting to go through, i really do wish i could come give you a huge hug. keep strong hun and im sure that one day with the right help from friends you can win and get your babies back. just remember us mummies are here for you. why any one would judge you is beyond me and if they do shame on them. you have had what i can only describe as a rubbish life, i hope it all soon turns around for you and you find someone who truly loves you for all you are, looks after you, cares for you and is everything you want and more, and i also hope your babies are home soon xxxx
OMG! How horrible
How could she abuse you like that. You went to SS for help and she did the total opposite.
You’re so brave for seeking the help in the first place and for sharing your story with us.
I hope things get better for you, I really do x
Really feel for u hun! I hope u still get to see your children x x x x
Aww hun. I am in tears reading this. You have been through so much! All those horrible people. Please don’t ever blame yourself for anything as you have done nothing wrong! Big huge hugs to you. And you are such a brave woman for sharing this. X x
Aw hun, I’m sorry you had to go through this, you’re so strong. Do not blame yourself though like Jade says you did nothing wrong. I really hope things start looking up for you hun all the best x
I hope one day you have the strength to take that awful piece of scum to court, if he did it to you he will have done it to others. The social work can be terrible and I feel really sad for you and your children that the worst thing you did was get PND and this happens? Where were they when you were young and needing help? I hope you can muster the strength to climb out pf this a better person and one day have a great relationship with your children. (((hugs)))
I really cant imagine how you feel hun xx
Wow, This is disgraceful, I really hope that you will reunited with your children, PND is a horrible things and you did brilliant seeking help sweetheart xxxxx
Big hugs hunni.yur been through so much… So strong for sharing this… How horrible is that ss women
i hope u get to see your kids n that one day there b bck with u xxc
big hugs huni, so sorry to hear everything you went through, and ur really brave for sharing with us.. hope u still get to see your kids, you did nothing wrong but ask for help..cant beleive ss did that to you
your kids will no one day how u fought for them xx
well done fr sharing…. ss seems to have this helping malarky all wrong!
Your children will find u one day and they realise what u went through
U ask the right people for help and that’s what u get
x
I hope you get or have gotten the help you need to get your children back xxx
Heart braking. I hope one day your family is back together. Its so hard to ask for help and when you needed someone most they let you down. I hope your doing better now xx
i dont even no what to say because nothing i will say will make it any better for you hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
i cant imagine how u feel but just wanted to send big hugs xx
i am so sorry to hear that as i had my daughter removed from my care and it took me 5 years t o get her back.they are all bastards and i hate them so much..there aint many good social workers out there..all in can say is keep fighting or go and steaal them and run so fast..it can be done girl..i swear and so wat if u get caught eventually..run and go to greece…do something..id rather find them and hold them for a few dayz and tell them consantly i love them…and if u can get ur hands on them tell them that u aint sick,and social workers are evil and u love them so so so so much
Awww, can’t imagine what you went through! huge hugss xx
omg dont know what else to say but love & hugs hun xx
Huge hugs sweet xx
how aweful
this is the reason i hate ss, you ask them for help and they fail, they do nothing but lie and make up stories to make you look bad and them look a saint. so many leave because the job is just too hard n those who dont leave cant handle it so lie their way through suppose it must be easier to remove children and put them into the system then it is to help a mother who has asked for it! hugs huni i hope things get better for you x