I am really missing my ex, but he lied and cheated and I always had a feeling and found out. He said he wouldn’t do it again. Every day since we split up he’s tried to get me back, says he’s sorry and he loves me and the kids. He wants to give it another go and so do I, but I’m having trouble trusting him again, advice?
Should I Take Back My Cheating Ex?
When a relationship breaks down due to cheating it can be difficult to build that relationship back up again. He hurt you and you will never forget what he did but if you want to make a go of this then you need to forgive him.
Learning to forgive is difficult, and it will take time and effort to work together on this. You need to stay firm and make sure he knows how much he hurt you and not only you, his actions affected your children also.
You have to think of your children too, will their dad cheat on your again? What does your gut instincts tell you? Will your family home be broken up once more?
If you are seriously contemplating taking back a cheating ex then you need to lay down some strong ground rules. Resist the temptation to move straight back into the family home, he needs to prove to you that he is sorry, has learned his lesson and will never cheat on you again.
Sit down and talk openly, why did he cheat, while there are never any excuses for cheating you may find that there were already a few difficulties in your relationship to start with.
What advice would you give to this mum asking – Should I Take Back A Cheating Ex?
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i was in this situation a while back i really loved him and he the first person to tell me he loved me whihc made my heart melt as you can imagine and there came a time in our relationship when he failed to come to see me or even text me sometimes i went a whole wk without hearing from him, then i would receive messages in the middle of the night whihc i assumed werent meant for me and so found out they were to a so called best friend who was a girl when i asked about this he denied there was nothing more than friendship with her. However my work mates thought there was something not right so decided to see if they could set a trap for him but disguising themselves on a internet dating site and he fell for it so with an email in toe i was furious knowing i couldnt trust him, so we spent 4 hours talking everything thru and decided to stay with him only for the fact a few months later i received these messages again so decided to call it a day
My advice would be no I’m a believer of once a cheat always a cheat x
Same view as Kate here im afraid… if a person has been forgiven of cheating then i believe that they feel theyve gotton away with it and if the temptation was to arise again i believe it wouldnt be very hard to resist. Hopefully if this lady took back her ex im wrong and shes happy
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It’s only going to be natural that you’re feeling this way. It’s bloody hard to come to terms with the fact the man who you thought loved you unconditionally was in fact a total sleazeball. I think you’ve just got to start again really. Take his phone and delete all contacts that are female. Don’t allow him a password on his phone. If he goes out alone then you have the right to know where when how long etc. set some rules. And if he does cheat again, come back on here I’m sure plenty of us girls have perfect revenge stories to share!!! X
only you can answer this hun, if you have a really god chat and see why he did it, if you think he wouldnt do it again etc then maybe.. me personally i couldn’t take anyone thats cheated on me back..it would play on my mind too much..god luck hun xx
noo, dont take him bk, how can u trust him. hes guna feel like he got away with it, you will always have that doubt in ur mind. he might of liked the thrill of cheating and would want that thrill again,
ive been with someone who cheated on me before and even when i found out he cheated i didnt break up with him and he did it again and again and again, until i actually caught an sti off him then that was the last straw!. cheats cant be trusted and i feel so stupid for stayin with him that long
my opinion is no. but only you know if you could ever trust again x
as the saying goes once a cheat always a cheat xx
Only you can answer this. All we can say is trust your heart. X
My personal opinion is no but only you can really decide. Xxx