My Child Has Autism I Feel Guilty
My daughter has autism spectrum disorder I feel guilty we did not know sooner. We noticed when she was 14 months old that she had stopped babbling, clapping and waving. She no longer made eye contact with any of us . We became extremely worried and approached the doctor to be told all children are different. I was worrying about nothing, just an over anxious mother.
We continued with our lives but I was becoming more and more worried and in the end I talked to a lady from our local Sure Start centre.
Sure Start were a great support and they noted our concerns and placed our daughter on a CAF refferal and advised us to put her in nursery which I didn’t want to do. She was 16 months by this time and not speaking a single word. She refused to be picked up and would circle toys, round and round and round they would go.
She began nursery although I was reluctant to try this, I was desperate to help her in any way I could. She had her appointment with the specialist a month later. After reciving the forms and reports it was decided she was on the autism scale and would have to under go regular assesments.
I blamed myself and I shut out family and friends. I did loads of research on autism , diets and never lost faith. Fourteen months later and we have 4 words , she will look at you and she will approach other children. She also eats solid food an improvement on stage 1 baby food that she would demand.
I have accepted her condition and raised funds for autism. Its going to take another 8 months till I get a statement of education. I intend to give my daughter a normal life my view is she’s a person who is unique in every way.
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bless u hunni, u should not feel guilty at all, u r fighting 4 ur lo n doing all u can, i hope u get all the help n suport u can n good luck.
big hugs xx
also well done u on raising funds as well
I work with children with additional needs and if you look on http://www.kids.org.uk and see if you have one near you they can help in many ways also the children at work that have autism parents have found a gluten free diet help too xx
Don’t feel guilty! its not your fault! My brother-in-law has only just been diagnosed with aspergers at the age of 23! x
Your daughter sounds very special and you should be proud of her for improving as much as she has, and you should be proud of yourself for fighting for and taking care of you special girl x
Aww Hun don’t blame urself it’s not ur fault I have a cousin who has autism and I think he was about four or five maybe a bit older when he was diagnosed
I probably know you, my son is going thru the same, hes 4 and a half and bout to have his first assessment. He ate pureed food till he was 3 and a half and is still in nappies too. He starts school in sept mainstream, and tho he talks fine he has a number of other issues and I am worried sick. I too blames myself thinkin it was his father as where he is from theres an issue of incest. I spend my life worryin bout him xxx
Don’t feel guilty Hun it’s not your fault x
It’s not your fault hun you have no reason to feel guilty these things just happen. You should be very proud of yourself and her x
It is not your fault at all your daughter has autism!!! You have done everything you can in order to help her. and raised funds too in the meanwhile!! You are an inspiration love. X
Goes to show you know your baby ! You know what Hun well done you it can’t be easy but and the end of the day she’s your baby and you won’t love her any less x
Dont feeel guilty hun. All children are special
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you have no reason to blame yourself, she is loved and im sure you do the best by her, good luck for the future x
dont feel guilty hun, everyone is special in there own way xx
Please don’t feel guilty and don’t blame yourself … I’m not a believer in god but someone ones told me, god only gives strong people special needs children… He knows you can and will do your best and he knows your best is the best…xx
I blamed myself too for all my sons problems. Hes now 5 in main stream school and has just been diagnosed as ASD and we are trying for a statement of SEN. To look at him you wouldnt see a little boy with anything wrong, you would see a little boy whos always happy, smiling and playing with friends. Its when he talks you start to notice his problems and now since starting school that seems to be his only problem he was soon outta nappies within 6 weeks of starting, counting to 20 in 3 months and writing within 5 months. All his teachers love him and he loves going to school. Its not your fault hunni dont be so hard on yourself xx
This sounds so like me. My son has just got his ASD diagnosis, he got a strong positive result on the ADOS test. I too feel guilty as I wish had noticed it before he was 3-4. He ate pureed food till 3, didnt sit till over 1, walk till 18 mtgs, talk till 2.5 years and he has such a lot of behaviours that are linked with ASD. I felt I shud of seeen it sooner, but I think I didnt want to think about it. To me he was my boy and he still is my gorg boy
U have not failed ur lo my lb has autism his eye contact with me is improve but only 3-4 seconds but i no in them 3 seconds that them big brown eyes are looking straight at my heart n saying i love u mom. He starts pre school in 14 weeks yes I’m counting has I’m gonna miss him but its best for him
Dont feel guilty hun, its not your fault. Its brill shes improving
Goes to show mums knows best 
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