I see this question asked many times – Is It Wrong To Have Children To Different Dads? Why are mothers left feeling guilty by the views that others give, when they see mums with children that do not share the same father?
I am really upset and annoyed. I have baby number 3 on the way, and yes I did have doubts who the dad was but I have worked the dates out and it’s the same dad as my other two children’s. So all three kids will have the same dad.
We are not together but we are working at the relationship, yet my friends are slating me because they say it’s wrong to have kids to lots of different dads. Why should I have to keep trying to stick up for myself? Why are they making me feel bad?
The thing that you have to remember here is no matter how many fathers maybe in your child’s life, they all share the most important thing in common and that is you, their mum.
Now put aside the spiteful and hurtful comments and ask yourself why would it be so bad if this baby you are carrying, did not share the same father as your other two children?
Would you love this child any less? No.
I have three children from my first marriage and three from my current husband. I know many mothers who have babies to different fathers and this does not reflect upon their parenting capabilities.
If these friends are saying such hurtful comments then perhaps it’s time to look at getting some new friends.
We no longer live in a world where we have children, marry and stay with that person, there are many reasons why relationships break down and in most cases this is for the benefit of the children. We move on and we meet new partners and we start a family again. This by no means makes anyone a bad person.
Is It Wrong To Have Children To Different Dads?
About The Real Supermum
No I dont think it is. Marriages and relationships fail and when you meet someone new its natural to want a baby with them. I have 4 kids by the same dad but now if I met sumone new I would have another
Does it matter how many children u have to different dads? No does it hell asking as the child is happy and well looked after
screw the people who try put u done x
I think it doesn’t matter, as long as the child is loved then who cares.
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I have two boys, two different fathers and i couldnt give a hoot, i could have 5 by 5 and still wouldnt because I will be looking after them regardless of who biologically helped create them. I didnt enter into either relationship looking for children, nor did i enter into relationships thinking ‘lets get pregnant and then leave him’ Sh*t happens, its how you deal with it that matters. i’d much rather have my 2 by 2 than have stuck with the father of the 1st and be desperately unhappy and mentally unstable because of his behaviour towards me
it dont matter how many kids by different dads u have as long as they are happy and loved..my 2 girls have different dads dont mean they aren’t equally loved x
I have 4 children all to different fathers, I dont think it makes me a bad person or effects my capabilities as a parent at all. It’s not a situation I dreamt of as a little girl but im not a nurse either. I love my children, i give them all they could ever possibly need and more. I think it’s sometimes better to have 2 happy parents apart than 2 parents together and each others throats. times change and people should move with them. xxx
My mum has 7 kids from 3 different men, I have no problem with this, but I have always said my kids will all have the same dad. Not because its what’s ‘right’ but because I would think less of MYSELF, each to their own but there’s no right answer to the question x
Theres 3 of us, with 2different dads n it doesn’t make the slightest bit of difference x
I dont think its wrong at all!! My sisters have children from different dads even 2 of my sisters have a different dad.. It doesnt make any difference at all we all get on extemely well!! Sadly some people will always judge.. Xc
I don’t think it is wrong my son and my unborn baby have different dads, relationships can fail and you can find love down the line which can result in a baby. As long as all the children are loved and treated the same it shouldn’t matter xxx
I dont think its wrong but it is easy to to judge many kids to many dads if their not on the scene because to me it reflects badly on the mum. Not that i do judge im jus saying its easy too if u get me :/ x
Wrong??? Well then I am very wrong. Mine all have different dads. I never planned it. I never thought he would leave me or I’d end up having an affair with a married man.
Or god forbid it:- I finally found a man that made me happy. And oh my god how dare I make a family with him.
I’m sorry if it offends that I never lost my virginity to my husband. And only ever slept with one man.
I don’t think it’s wrong, my children are by the same father. If we was to break up and I wanted more kids I would go for it x
Is it heck wrong!! I have 2 friends who both have kids, one has 2 kids to 2 men the other 3 kids to 3 men. Out of both of them only one of their children sees their biological dad. I dont think any less off them as they are both very good mums, nor does the fact they have had kids with so many men look bad on them either. I have on child atm and if I met someone else and wanted kids I would go for it regardless of what other people think or how badly they say it looks. At the end of the day it is each to their own and no one elses business how many children someone has and how many men they have kids with. But if people want to see it that way then they need to look at the men too, look at then men out their who have 10 kids to 10 women? Why just pick on the women and not the men as well?
No as long as the child is loved and cared for does it really matter. To many people judge on face value x
no as long as your happy thats all that matters xx
I dont think its wrong, both my kiddies have different dads
I alwYs find those sorts of comments always get my baxk up. in a serious way. my mum has 4kids by three dads. but that doesnt make her a tramp. she was in very long term relationship with my dad, she marriex to two brothers dad and she is currently married to my sisters dad, approaching thier 14th anniversary.
i dont think anyone has right to pass a comment untill they know the situation x
no i dont think its wrong to have kids to different dads, would be nice if they were all to the same dad. i have a little girl one one guy who doesnt see her, and i have one on the way with another who is bringing up my little girl, as long as the kids are happy and been brought up right who cares.
I had 1 child with someone who didn’t want to kn ow I then went on to have 2 more with someone else, We are still together now and he brought my daughter up as his own since 3 months old, No it’s not wrong at all x
its not really anybodys buisness really…things can fail and not work out how u wanted them to
it doesnt matter as long as your happy thats all that matters xx
It really doesn’t matter as long as the child is loved, my two have the same dad but my sister in law has two kids to two different dad’s & one on the way to another person xx
No i dont think its wrong. At the end of the day if someones relationship doesnt work out , then it shouldnt mean that a woman cant find love again, with someone she wants to be with , and have more kids! X
as long as they are happy and loved what dose it matter
No not all xxxxx
I don’t think it is, if your relationship ends and you fall in love again who’s to tell you u can’t have a baby with this person because you got one with someone els? Xx
i’ll b honest yrs ago (my early 20′s) i thought it was wrong , but as i got older i realised things happen n change n i myself have 3 children to 2 diff dads xx
As long as each child is loved and treated the same who cares