Yeah, so, it’s exactly how it sounds. Nobody knows about this, not even my best friend. I can’t tell anyone my dirty little secret.
I Cheat On My Boyfriend
I’ve been with my other half (the daddy to my 2 year old) for 3 and a half years. For about the last year maybe more I’ve not wanted to be in this relationship. I’ve tried countless times to leave. On the last occasion we shouted and rowed and he physically pushed me over, at this point I realised I don’t love this man anymore.
None of this of course excuses my awful behaviour. But I wanted others to see how my home life is, maybe try and tell ME why I do this, Because believe me I don’t even know myself.
My days consist of getting up with little one while he sleeps in, tidying and doing all the usual mummy things, some days going to work (I work part time) and listening to him shout at me and moan that I haven’t done this and that, watching him ignore his own daughter as she tries to show him something, but of course he’s too busy for her.
In my opinion he’s a waste of space.
It all started just last week. I went out with the girls. We start chatting to some guys who work at the bar we were in, friendly banter and all that. Well this guy asks for my number. And I give it to him. Someone wants me? Someone likes me? Jeezzz. I was buzzing in all honesty. I go home and climb into bed with my boyfriend. We have text every day, all day. Every time his name comes up on my phone I grin. I don’t remember the last time I felt anything, especially this feeling. I just numb myself from the world and paint a happy smile on my face. We chat about nothing, what’s on the telly, how’s your day been? HOWS YOUR DAY BEEN, the words I practically beg to hear every day. This guy actually cares, or he pretends to either way I don’t care. We flirt via text which to me is nothing to write home about.
Tuesday I lie to my boyfriend and tell him I’m going to a friend’s house and I go round to this guy’s house, we watch a DVD, one thing leads to another and we end up having sex. Mind blowing sex, I haven’t had sex this year so to be honest any is good. I usually have a problem getting things going in the pants department but this was a breeze. Is it because of my feelings towards the man I live with?
I go home and climb into bed with my boyfriend. You can think what you like, call me a slut, call me a whore, and call me every name under the sun. I don’t care. This guy makes me feel on top of the world. Something that my boyfriend has never done. Is this what lust feels like? Am I that desperate to feel like a human being, a person, a woman that I will break my boyfriend heart. Probably. The lies all come out in the end don’t they, I guess that would be a good thing, he will let me leave. I don’t want to hurt him.
I fully intend to carry on seeing this guy, texting him and flirting and will probably go round again. Slut. Yeah I get that.
If someone could please tell me why I’m doing this it would be great. Do I want to hurt him? Like he’s hurt me, like he hurts me every second of every day.
I said before I’m not telling you about my boyfriend’s tendencies for sympathy because I deserve none of it, I’m telling you so maybe someone knows what it’s like to be me. Alone and angry and screwed up.
I screwed up again.
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I think At the end of the day you should just leave your b/f and move on it obvious you don’t want to be with him and staying with him will only hurt you both more also it’s not fair on the kids Hun break away while you can .. I don’t think your a slut at all but I do think you should stop seeing the other guy until you leave your oh xxx
I think you are doing it hun to feel what EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US wants to feel, LOVED, IMPORTANT, CHERISHED, NEEDED but most of all WANTED. I would say be carefull but i honestly dont think you are a slut xx
I don’t think your a slut at all! I totally understand why your doing what your doing (although i don’t agree with cheating) I think every woman has the need to be wanted and needing by a man and that exciting feeling you get. But I don’t think your doing anyone any favours by staying with your boyfriend! Tell him to leave and if he doesn’t then bring in re-enforcements! x
I don’t think you are a slut. I think you’re just desperate for the love and attention your boyfriend is depriving you of. xx
You are most likely doing it because you want out. You said yourself you don’t love him. I don’t understand why you have not left?
I left my husband for another man. My husban was a violent abusive bully and the man who I left him for (and have been with ever since) is my soul mate. This started as a affair. If your a slut then so am I. We’ll be sluts together
Maybe it’s her house. He probably wont leave her. Maybe she feels like why should she leave?? Why should she uproot her child from all they know. Sometimes it’s just easier to put up then move out. It’s obvious her boyfriend has no intention of leaving. He won’t, he’s got it too good with her. Because she’s waiting on him hand and foot. X
While I don’t think ur a slut I do think ur stupid u need to get this sorted leave ur oh if u must what’s going on at home must b having an adverse affect on ur child and u have a responsibility to her to make sure she has a safe happy environment to live in don’t sit there for one second and say I can’t because u can go out and meet someone else u know ur worthy now also uve cheated can u imagine what will happen if u get found out get ur bloody head out the clouds man the hell up and do the right thing I can say this as I have been where u are right now for 10 years with a man I didn’t love
I don’t think u want to hurt him hon. U just want some attention. This guy is giving u that x
You’re not slut. You just want the positive attention you’re getting from the other guy.
I think it would be best in the long run to leave your OH sweetie x
I totally disagree with what you’re doing. You’re not leaving your boyfriend, even though u don’t like him, don’t want to be with him and ur sleeping with someone else. Why? Why not just kick him out? You say he ignores your daughter when she tries to show him things. That must hurt her. So your messed up relationship is affecting your daughter too. What if this guy you’re sleeping with wants to be with you properly. Will you leave your boyfriend then? If not, then that’s another person you’re hurting. I hope you figure out soon why you’re doing what you’re doing because sooner or later one of you or all of you are going to get hurt.
Its an escape from your reality, is the text guy gonna be your one true love, probably not but maybe you never know, is the man you live with your one true love? hell no! you can leave there are places you can get help to leave all you have to do is ask x
First of all ur not a slut!!!!!! Don’t ever think that about your self I know how you feel I have been there myself Hun I cheated on my bf at the time with my bf now I thought I doing wrong in so many ways but like you said you don’t feel anything for this man and he blanks your daughter that’s not fair but I also understand why you havnt left yet to take things slow hun no1 can make you leave the guy and noone can make you still sleep with the other guy only you can decide which is the for the best I cheated on my ex for bout 3 months before it came to a end now I’m with te same guy I cheated with still a year after i hope you find the answers your lookin for sorry cudnt be more of a help hugs and keep us updated xxxx
i don’t think your a slut at all you just want to be loved ad i can totally understand where your coming from hun, i think u should try to leave your boyfriend tho then you and this new guy can be together all the time then no secrets and be happy..everyone deserves to be happy in life and your boyfriend certainly dont deserve you how he treats you, yes your cheating but tbf i dont blame you at all xx
I don’t think your a slut but I think u need to leave him I don’t agree with what ur doing but like me point counts as u have already said u fully intend to carry on! Cheating is wrong how would u feel if u found out u had been cheated on? U need to leave him x
To be totally honest hunni (and sorry if i sound like a complete bitch now) I do not think you are a slut, but I do think you are going about things totally wrong!! First of all you need to tell the other guy that things need to cool off until you have left your boyfriend, then you need to leave him. Just get some of yours and your daughters stuff together and go. Your only hurting your daughter, your boyfriend, the other guy and yourself buy carrying on this way. Its not fair on any of you nor is anything going to get sorted or work out by you carrying on. Yes all of us women long for a man who treats us like a princess, loves us, cares about us and pays us attention. But you have gone about it all the wrong way. I dont agree with cheating no matter how bad your relationship is, if you are really that unhappy then leave.
i dont think your a slut at all, it doesnt sound like you are in a relationship, just living with a man you dont particularly like. do i think you should split with the one you live with? yes i do but thats because a child deserves two happy parents and right now you arent. you deserve happiness and this man isnt bringing it xx
I dont think your a slut hunni, i felt the same in my past relationship, but never cheated as knew what i would get, but think you should just leave him no matter what he says x x
I don’t blame you . . . I cheated on my ex because he cheated on me (a few times!) . . . I felt so much better after and I carried on sleeping with this other guy for a few weeks . . . I don’t feel guilty about it at all x
i dont think your a slut i just think your missing the most important things in life to feel loved cherished and wanted and your not getting this from home xx
i dont think your a slut i think u was missing the intimacy from someone but think you should leave your boyfriend as noone likes to be cheated on. just my opinion
i do feel for you and can understand how unhappy you are, but i do hope you find happiness one day with whoever melts your heart xx
your not a slut hun u just want happyness and someone who appriciates you and theres nothing wrong with that at all but u dont need to leave ur boyfriend or kick him out its not fair on ur kids to see they way hes treating you
You want the excitement, you want the feeling of being alive, to feel pretty and wanted and sexy. To be spoilt and to be on someones mind. But your in a relationship. You need to leave your partner xx
your not a slut u want to feel close to someone u wanted the closesness of human touch xx
i think you need to talk to your oh or just leave
i dont think youre a slut at all, i have cheated in previous relationships, i think it shows that you are not happy with the relationship u are in at the moment ad u want out, and you see this as s way to do so, u may also like it because he makes u feel wanted and appreciated thats what everyone wants xx
Your not a slut hun, talk to your partner xx
Awww hun your none of the names you mentioned.. You hav just lost your way a little your bf is obviously not treating you good he sounds mone like the lazy lodger.. Where this other bloke gives you everything we want an expect from a man an this obviously draws you to him if you was getting an felt everythin you shud with your bf you wouldn’t be feeling this way or the need to get it else where I think any woman in tour situation would do or think about the same its only natural.. But also you hav to be careful az one day weva tomoz next week or year it will get found out eventually an that wud be worse :/ xxxx big hug xxxx
I don’t think your a slut, big hugs xx
I don’t think your a sl*t but I do think u need to leave your bf its not fair on any of you’s x(hope it all worked out for ya ) x
“This guy makes me feel on top of the world. Something that my boyfriend has never done” – This is the part I don’t get. If your boyfriend never made you feel on top of the world then why did you get with him in the first place? And why did you even stay in that relationship for this long? If it’s because of your child then I can understand why. For other reasons I wouldn’t understand I’m afraid. And I don’t think the reason you stayed with your boyfriend was because of your child because, let’s face it, you clearly weren’t think about your child and the consequences he/she could suffer because of your selfishness. I don’t think you’re a slut, but I do think you’re easy, disgusting, selfish (as mentioned before) and a bitch. And if you had sex with this guy because you wanted to feel loved and cherished and needed and wanted then I’m afraid I have to laugh at you. The guy didn’t even ask you for a date. Yeah, he clearly even likes you (hence the sarcasm). Guess what, he only loves you and cherishes you when he’s having sex with you. He only needs you and wants you when he wants to have sex with you. HE DOESN’T WANT YOU!!! But I’ll let you find that out for yourself. I don’t care how bad your relationship is, cheating is not the way to deal with it. You’re going to end up in a huge mess if you don’t just end the relationship with your boyfriend.
omg thats hash, u don’t know this lady or anything about her, ok so shes cheated n how do u know that the other man doesn’t want her???????????? as 4 the relationship , she feels like she has to stay coz she has a lo with this man , n it sounds to me like the child is seeing n hearing the badness between mum n dad which is a lot worse then her going out n meeting someone else tbh…..
my advice to the ladie who wrote this i two have been in ur shoes n unlike the person who has commented saying the other guy dont want u…. well i left my ex n got with the other guy n nearlly 5 yrs on we have a lil boy n been married nearlly 2 yrs n u know i could not b happier, i’d tell ur oh u want him out u dont love him n b straight as the longer u drag it out the more hurt it will do to all partys big hugs hunni xx
Well sometimes people are that cruel and take so much of you away with their stupid behaviour that the only bit of happiness you have left is by cheating! Shit happens! And yes ive cheated but i dont give a fuck because she deserved it.
It doesnt matter if its wrong or right, your happy and right now its a positive thing in your life.
At some point the situation will change and then you will need to decide but if the bf wasent a beast to you then i doubt yoi would be cheating so screw it. Men get away with everything so i say be happy x
Oh and just to add after reading Angies comments as I didnt see them before, as i said Ive cheated and the man I.cheated with ive been with for 13 years in june and we have five children.
So sometimes it can be a good thing.
In a ideal world men wouldnt be morons and us women would have stronger morals apparantly- but the fact is men ARE morons so therefore why bother being moral..no, ok im joking a bit there but reading back through the guy who commented might want to come down off his moral high ground!
Its not like this lady is taking no blame or responcibility here for her actions. She knows what shes doing is not neccesarily the ” right”thing to do and she does say that but this stuff does happen. Men do it. Women do it. For all kinds of reasons and seeking different things. I dont think its the why that matters its the after bit. The future bit that counts. Where you go, and how you do it.
All that matters in the grand scheme of life is where your happiest and if the affair/fling whatever it is shows you that theres more to life than being ignored or pushed around theres nothing negative about it.
You not a slut and all other things you’ve called yourself! U need to end the unhappy relationship to be able to move onto a more happy one. You have also got to think of your little girl, and what affect its having on her that her mummy and daddy’s relationship is an unhappy one.
Omg !! Emma has always made the blog & group about honesty ! i cannot believe people actually are on this mum side and feeling sorry for her “/ your a cheat at the and of the day ? how would you feel ? would you go aww its ok if he doesn’t love me ? no you wouldn’t i feel so sorry for those bloke … uf he is so bad why have a kid with him .. im sorry if i offend you but this is ridiculous LEAVE HIM OR HURT EVERYONE ..when lover boy finds out you’ve used him do you think hell still be there ? will your boyfriend ? & will your family and friends come clean before people get hurt x x x
& please no in think my comment is directed at them its not ! its based on this women’s situation every story is different and that’s my opinion om that one not any others x x x
Wow one of them comments was a tad harsh!
Everyone has there own thought, but that comment was abit other the top with all the names!!
I don’t agree with cheating but I wouldn’t go as far to call her all them name!
I dont think you’re a slut either! May people in bad relationships feel that they are unworthy or love or unlovable… Because that is have a verbally abusive partner makes one feel, and how they control their victum. I don’t know you but the fact that you were amaze another man found you interesting, pretty etc makes me think that possibly you are the victum of a verbal abuser (your OH?, maybe someone else). If this is true you stay in the relationship because you think the verbal abuser is the only person who could ever care about you! This isnt true and you do deserve better. You should end it with your oh. As for the new guy, I wonder if he is right for you either. When you are in a situation where you have low self esteem if is easy for people to take advantage of you! May you feel good with a few words and then get you into bed! I would reccommend you take some time off from men! Take sometime to build yourself up alone! Discover what you like, do what you want for once! If you’re like me you wont listen to this advice… But it will only prolong your healing time, and you’ll land in one bad relationship after another, until you take time for yourself
It has been 9 months since you posted! I would love an update!