Oh gosh where do I start? There’s this guy who I’ve liked for years and nothing has ever come of it until 3 days ago. He came round my house, we had a giggle and basically everything other than sex happened. I mean to be honest I haven’t had nothing in the sex department in 7 months. I don’t know maybe that’s what it is, but anyway his mum is a friend of mine and she knows I like him, I saw his mum and his little sister today and his sister mentioned he had a girlfriend when he came here he said he was single. I am just so confuse. I actually felt angry when I got told earlier about this girlfriend… Just don’t know why I feel so bad.
Supermum Says;
The first rule is, if he’s taken you don’t go there, he’s out of bounds and you’re angry because he showed you attention and some intimacy that you have been craving for. You have a past history and you have had underlying feelings for this guy and you thought when he came to visit you maybe something good would evolve.
If he’s got a girlfriend what type of guy is he really? Forget how good looking he is or how he makes you feel, if he can cheat on his girlfriend with you, then he can cheat on you too.
Speak with him and ask him out right if he’s attached and if so then ask why he led you on and was unfaithful to his partner. Explain you’re not a toy to use when he feels like it and when he grows up, then to get back in touch, of course when he’s single.
I think in all honesty this guy’s not good for you and your prince charming will come along soon, without a girlfriend in the background. Don’t short change yourself, you deserve better than a quick fumble.
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spot on with your advice, its not a way to start a happy relationship
Great Advice! Message to the lady asking the question: If he is going to pursue you when he is in another relationship, you would be no different. But most importantly, you want to be valued and respected and what he is doing is not valuing and respecting you at all. He is already taken, that would make you secondary in his book-do you really want that? I hope not! You are better than that. Many blessings-you deserve the best!
Irish
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Completely agree with you Emma, don’t go there. Let him carry on and his girlfriend will work out what a lying pr*k he really is. Sorry hun but this guy is not your mr perfect if he can do that xx
Please dont do this. As a mother who has had this done to her I’m literally begging you to distance yourself from this guy. Like if you can go to mars distance! If he has children with this girl, the impact on them will be devastating, if you have children and they get attached to him and he fecks off with his woman, the children will be devastated. Please dont do it for not only your sanity but the children as well.
Don’t go there hun, ask him out right I’d he’s lying then finish with him, he’s not worth the heartache and if hes able to cheat on his gf he can cheat on you too. U deserve better than that hun xx
I agree with what emma has said x
Agree with everything Emma said hun .. don’t go there x
Dont do it, you will only end up getting hurt xx
great advice
i agree with emma, great advice xx
i agree with emma dont go there huni.
question u will need to ask urself is this if he is willing to do this while he has a girlfriend what makes u thinlk tht he wont do it to u, u may like him and he may like u then i say do it this way get him to spilt with his gf outright tell her the truth about y. then wait for a few weeks make sure tht he still wants to be with u then thts great but maybe it is the thrill of getting caught by his gf ryt now.
i hope u get thissorted xx
I agree with emma. Dont go there. Even if it does turn into something for you two, youll never feel secure because he cheated on someone to be with you. X
Spot on here Emma, no dont do it, its not the way to start a relationship
If hes happy to cheat on his current girlfiriend would he do the same to you could you honestly trust him xx
Keep away hun, he is not worth it one bit!! Like its been said before if he can do it to his now girlfriend then he can do it to you too and how would you feel? You need to think not only about yourself here but his girlfriend too, yes I understand why your angry he lied about having a girlfriend proof that he can and probably will do it again. He has already proved he cant be trusted. To me it sounds like you enjoyed the attention he gave you more than anything. Maybe think of joining in on a singles night in your home town or going to local pubs and clubs with the girls an meeting a nice single man there. That way no one gets hurt by the lying and cheating xx