Well mummies, I have been potty training my now 3 year old for the last 6 months. It started so well with her going on the potty whenever she needed to go whilst being allowed to run around with no bottoms on. No accidents at all, she loved going.
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Then came pull ups. Again, started well but soon she refused to keep them on, preferring to run around in the nude as always. It was nearly impossible to keep the pull ups on her. She screamed and kicked in order that I didn’t put them on her! After a few months she finally got used to keeping them on after using the potty.
So we moved onto knickers. Unlike the pull ups, she will not keep them on at all. I even tried putting trousers on her as well so that she wouldn’t take them off but nothing keeps them on. She takes EVERYTHING off in protest at having to wear them.
As a result I am afraid to go out during the day without her being in nappies as I know she’ll just strip off in the pushchair. The actual using of the potty and even the ‘big girl toilet’ isn’t an issue. But keeping her dressed is. She’s also ‘dry’ at night, to the point where when she gets up in the morning her nappy is dry, but I am afraid to put her to bed with no nappy. Any answering blogs or advice on this matter would be gratefully appreciated. She starts nursery in September and I don’t want her to be the only one in her class still in nappies. The Joys Of Motherhood!
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Well at least she uses the toilet! I think because she learned to use the potty while not wearing anything, she associates the toilet with no clothing. She probably feels out of place while wearing clothes when she has to use the potty. Maybe trying to show her the way ‘big girls do it’ will help. Aslo, if you explain that all the other kids in school are going the big kid way, maybe she will want to do it too. Good luck!
Hi,
have you tried having a chat with her about how now she uses the potty/toilet, you need to send the nappies to other smaller babies now that she doesn’t need them as she is a big girl!
then throw them out, never buy them again. That way you cannot be tempted to give in.
Also If she is point blank refusing to wear underwear, have you thought about taking her to pick out some for herself say with her favourite cartoon character on them?
In regards to nighttime, if she is refusing to wear pants or pull-ups, i’d let her sleep bottomless. At the end of the day if she isn’t having any accidents she should be ok and shouldn’t need the safety of a nappy. worst that can happen is that you have extra laundry to do.
Give it a try.
Let me know how it goes.
x
could you try a reward chart for keeping her clothes on, even if that is just when you are out.? A dress is an option with no pants in the house maybe. I sympathise as my son would not keep clothes and an even at 6 was running the house and street stark naked ( within the confines of the gardens he was allowed in).
If she strips off in the pushchair then she gets cold, and wont like that much.
This is like many other issues of power – but it should not come to which one of us is more stubborn.
A) your the adult and you can reason and manipulate more sneakily than she can
b) the more you react the more she will play up, if she wants to be naked let her, the novelty will wear off.
I worried about my son starting school as the first child ever naked…..but he didnt, was happy to wear clothes for playgroup etc but the minute he got home that was it. Even time he left home at 23 he only wore a pair of boxers in the house!!
As for night time, have confidence in her, treat her like the big girl she is but put a waterproof sheet on her bed, and maybe even lift her for a pee just before you go to bed, making her walk through so she sort of knows she is going to encourage her to go herself.
Good luck (this is just one opinion, others may have different thoughts)
I would try a reward chart etc. I did it with my eldest. Also i wouldnt worry about nursery. My lb was in pull ups in his first nursery and they were very understanding. Just speak to them, they may be able to offer advice etc. Also try and get her to pick her own knickers in the shop. Make a big deal of it. Get her to choose ones she wants to wear for nursery etc. My son also wanted to be in pants like his friends when he started nursery. Just go for it
good luck xx
I would try a reward chart hun and just keep putting the clothes back on her she needs to learn x
My son was potty trained at 2 yr and 9 mths but has no regressed and is back in pull up nappies full time as hes is incontinent of urine. He starts school in sept and have been worried but I am just lettin him get on with it. He is undergoin assessment for autism tho. He is better with nothin on too but its not pos as we go out a lot etc. Do whats best for you and her and take no notice of comments etc. She will get round it when shes ready hun xxxx
Thank you for all your comments ladies. im heading into town in a bit so am gonna buy a waterproof sheet for her bed and try her in bed with nothing on tonight. she was dry again last night night so might be worth a try x
not really sure apart from have you tried a reward chart start small first like a sticker for a morning or afternoon she kept them on xx
i would try a reward chart, since my lg started nursery she was abit scared to go toilets or potty she wouldnt go but one day when i went to pick her up they where all in the bathroom an she come up to me an said take nappie off and went to the toilet and had a wee all her little friends clapped and said good girl now she loves going on the toilet she wont go on potty at home only the big girls toilet as she calls it so i got her Baby Toddler Potty Training Toilet Ladder Seat Steps she loves it and its not badly priced x
i got a princess polly’s potty book and it worked wonders when it came to my daughter learning! x
I don’t really know what helps, my daughter said she would do it when she was 3 and did it exactly then, and her brother wanted to do it to be like his big sister, so I was very lucky.x
Try a reward chart worked a treat with my son xx