I would love to add to our family and one of the main things that refrains me from even thinking about this seriously is at this time neither my husband or I are in full time employment, while it is not by choice it’s a position we faced when I was deemed unwell enough to work.
Is you’re financial or employment status a reason not to add to your family? Should you be in full time employment so that you are able to provide for your own kids and not expect others to pay for your kids?
With so many mothers on benefits these days due to many reasons, is it wrong to bring more children into the world? Should a mother only become a mother when she’s able to financially support a child herself with no support?
Why do I feel less adequate as a mother because I am not personally providing for my own kids, why do I feel that others look down on me? I am not able to work due to my mental health, that also makes me feel vulnerable.
Perhaps it’s all in my head, I have always worked and this stay at home mum is all very new to me. I miss work; I miss what I used to do. It has changed me as a person.
I have not really stopped working when I think about it; I do as many hours online as I did in my job, although I help people now, rather than make money. To be honest I prefer what I do now.
I am thinking in a few months that I might be able to return to work, but do I really want to stop doing what I do now? I will be looking at ways to turn what I do into a business, but that may not happen for some time, I do not know how the next appeal will go. Can I turn a hobby into a business that will provide for my family?
Am I wrong for thinking the way I do? Do I have to be a full time working mum to add to my family?
I would love to hear your own views… Should You Have A Job To Have A Baby?