Are you thinking about taking the next step in your relationship? No, not that one. A slightly smaller step – moving in together. While you are dating it can often feel like playing house if you spend a lot of time together, but you are ready for the real deal? There are a lot of things to consider before jumping into something like this. You have to make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons and not just because it seems fun or will save you money in the long run. Really think about it and consider all these things before making that final decision.
Why are you doing it?
It’s easy to just move in with someone because it’s convenient. You spend a lot of time together and yes, it might save some money, but are those the only reasons you’re thinking of moving in together? If yes, you better think twice.
Are you ready for this type of commitment?
It’s a big step to take in a relationship. Do you see a future with your partner? If there’s no long term potential, it might not be the best idea. Things could get messy fast and then you’ll have to deal with moving, breaking leases and finding a new place. Is that really something you want to go through again? Probably not because we all know how annoying moving is in the first place!
I need my space!
Remember, it’s a totally different living together. You’re combining your lives – all your books and possessions. You both live there now and you can not escape your to your own apartment for a few days anymore. It’s also not okay to just drop off the radar because you need some alone time. Communication is going to be even more important now. If you can’t handle the idea of that, cohabitating might not be for you just yet.
It’s all about the Benjamins, baby
Time to talk money and budgeting. Are you willing to do that with each other? Are you splitting the rent evenly or are you just taking care of utilities? Can you really afford that loft apartment with in unit washer and dryer or is a one bedrom more practical at the moment? It’s time to think for two because this affects you both now. Money can always be a sensitive subject, so make sure you lay out expectations and consider everything before signing that lease!
We Love Dates is a worldwide online dating site. Check out their popular We Love Dates Blog for more dating tips and advice!
About The Real Supermum
Very good advice x
Me and my oh had been together a week and I went to stay at his for the weekend and never left
Some great tips and I will be looking at these for when the time comes me and my oh (if we ever get to that point) want to move in together x
good advice hun! i had the shock of my life when me n oh moved in together after 6 weeks! going from living by yourself to having someone there all the time is a hell of a shock! x
money is very important to discuss, as should everything really, you should both be able to talk openly and honestly or its pointless
my ex could have seen this when he got with his new GF as they moved in together instantly and now are struggling, arguing all the time and basically hate each other more than like each other. hes often asked me how we managed it, sometimes i ask that one myself although we did it lol.
i was with my partner for about 6/7 months and then he moved into my parents house. Ill be the first to admi it might have ben too soon but im happy now and 4 yrs later weve just moved into our second house
I was with my fella for a year before he moved in to my parents when our son was born and we moved in to our own place when he was 10 months old. I sometimes wish I coud kick him our for a few days tho haha x
I was with my oh for 7months when he moved in, it was horrendous and felt like I couldn’t breath, we shifted apart. We split and now were bk together living seperate lol xx
When I lived with my ex it was horrible. I began to resent everything he did and I just wanted my own space back! I’m now single and a lot happier lol x
great advice
great advice i defo wish i had this to hand when i was 16 lol xx
i was with my hubby a year before he moved in. brilliant advice tho
great advice, if only id read it before lol me and OH didnt really discuss moving in it kinda happened after a few months but he is still here 4 and half yrs later with our 2 beautiful kiddies
good advice
me and my oh moved in together after a year lol x
very good advice xx
i moved in to my oh’s parents when we were together for 4 months lol…stuck with each other ever since! x
me n oh moved in together about 4mnths of been together, we lived ina shared house and each had room we decieded tht we wud get in one room to save money moved into a house about 5 mnths later
i moved in with my oh pretty quickly he lived with his parents and then we got a room in a shared house then we got a house
5 1/2 years later still together 
x
My oh more or less moved in straight away! He was living at his friends at the time sharing the house and his friend was a di*k so told him to stay at mine and he’s never left lol xx
You just know don’t you
I know I never wanted to be away from him, hated going home, hated not spending the night together and he said he felt the same so it was clearly the next step *Sighs* <3
Some good advice there xx