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Most 16 year old’s were going out with friends getting drunk, Sleeping around and doing A levels, me on the other hand, I had always been a loner and I rarely ever did them thing’s. When I was 15 I joined up to lots of sites on Bebo to find young men One day I was just randomly clicking smile at there pictures until one replied. Hi I thought you were sexy, so I added you, I hope you don’t mind’ Cheesy bugger.
Anyway after 7 months of talking we finally met up in June 2009. it was love. I know everyone will think I was just 15 and he was 18, but I had never had anything like that before, he was my first and only boyfriend and the only person who ever cared properly for me. A year and a half later while I was studying art at college and he was travelling to see me every few weeks, since he lived in Coventry and I lived in Yorkshire. I started getting this need for something else, I had never been good at school or college and felt there was something missing. A baby was missing.
After lots and lots of persuading, and I am ashamed that I did push him into it too early, we finally started trying. It was August and I had been being sick every morning for two weeks, I didn’t know what was going on, I soon started to realise maybe I was pregnant. We were going on a holiday at Wales with his family,we decided that night to go to Tesco and get a test, I did it in the loo’s and he took it off me as I walked back to the car.
He looked at me in shock! I WAS PREGNANT.
Through the pregnancy he got less and less close to me. We started drifting apart and I knew it was my fault. On April 21st 2011 I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl, 8lb 8oz at the age of 17. After the birth I straight away started suffering with depression, I had always had this but never this bad. A month of her being here, me and her dad spilt for four months. We did eventually get back together but doing that I lost my family. I was so alone, His family were always there for me though and guided me through it.
My daughter is now 15 months and I love her more than words, she is the light in my life. She is also her dad’s favourite person and he wouldn’t change a thing. I don’t like the words ‘ Young mum’ Or ‘Teen Mum’ I’m very grown up for my age and I’m proud of my self for that and I personally feel any mum can be a good mum as long as she grows up and has the support. I’m glad I had her, as much as I struggled and losing my family and friends along the way, it show’s they were never truly there for me and right now I wouldn’t change a thing. I’m proud to have made such a big choice at such a young age, I’m proud to be a mother.
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I’m glad your oh got his act together in the end and was there for you and your daughter. You say he was pressurized, but still he could have just said no and not slept with you so don’t put that burden on yourself hun. It takes two to tango.
Being a mother is hard work. Women shouldn’t be stereotyped just because they are young. Age shouldn’t be a factor just because you are of a certain age doesn’t mean you are a mother than a woman who had their child when they were older.
Sounds like you have a great support network in your oh’s family. Stick with them. Don’t worry about people who don’t want to support and help you
((hugs)) X
Like you said yourself hun it proves they were never willing to be there for you. You can’t say you pressured him into it you didn’t do it all yourself he could have sais no to text. You sound like you have good support from your other halts side of the family
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It does not matter how old you are hun, all that matters is your little girl is well cared for by her mum and dad. I think your doing an amazing job. At least you have your OH’s family to help you xx
You’re doing a fab job, glad her dad stuck around and he has a good family.. your family should have stuck by you though xxx
Aww glad all worked out for you hun. You can’t blame yourself. He could of said no or wore a condom every time. Glad you have a lot of help with the oh family xx
Don’t blame yourself for anything of what happened, doesn’t sound like he took much persuading, he could have always said no. I’m glad everything is going well for you now, doesn’t matter what age you are doesn’t mean your anyless of a great mum. Just hope your family sort themselves out and support you just like oh’s are. x
Age doesnt matter as long as youre a good parent. Im glad you worked through it though xx
i dont think u pressurized him hunni as he could of said no n worn a condom , i’m glad u had his family behind u n he stuck around n now is a good daddy to ur lo
as 4 age i dont think it comes into it xx
Age is only a number!
If you were a few years older with the same age gap no one would bat an eyelid!
If you’re mentally ready for a baby then fair enough.
I’m glad you’re happy
Well done sweets x
I’m glad things have gone well in the end
it wasn’t all your fault it takes 2 to tango as others have said 
keep your chin up you sound like a great mum regardless of age 
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Being a certain age doesn’t make you a good mum! Doesn’t matter if your 15 or 55! As long as you love ur child it doesn’t matter! Glad ur happy hon x
Although my 2 were never planned they weren’t exactly pure accidents either and when I got pregnant at the age of 18, despite the situation I was in I knew it was the best thing for me and Rob at the time, A Mum is a Mum no matter what age they are x
maybe he felt he was too young? us girls do tend to mature quicker than them… im so happy it worked out for you in the end
they say blokes take longer to get used to the idea of being a parent, so glad he stepped up to the mark and is there for you both. you have everything to be proud of, and one day your family will see this too xx
im happy it worked out for you in the end hun men tend to take a lot longer to get use to the fact they going to be a dad sum don’t even get use to it until the baby is born lol xxx
Glad things went well x
Age does not define the type of parent you are, glad things worked out for the best xx
age does not play a party of how good a parent u r hun , glad things r working out, thank u 4 sharing ur story, big hugs xx
im glad things worked out for you in the end, big hugs xxx