Is it wrong to have a one night one stand with a complete stranger in the hope of getting pregnant? Was the question posed upon one mums lips. I had to think carefully before answering this dilemma.
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What on earth could I advise this mum to do?
Of course morally yes it is wrong, but, I could also understand her argument.
This mum had raised a happy and contended toddler and now her only child was starting nursery, like many mums with children of this age we do contemplate whether now would be the right time to add to our family. But this mum in particular is single, she does not want a man in her life.
Here we have a single mother with a child who wishes to have another baby, without the strings attached to a father on the scene.
Does a child need a father? No they don’t. BUT is it wrong to use a man in such a way? YES it is.
How would you explain to the child when it is old enough to ask about its father? Do you tell the truth? What if the stranger turned up at your doorstep wanting to become involved?
Are there not other and more safer ways to add to your family without sleeping with men you do not know? Consider a sperm bank? Surrogacy? There are other options available. Yet as she told me she had looked into these but they seemed daunting and time consuming.
I can see the argument from both sides and I understand a women’s desire to become a mother can be great and sometimes women will go to desperate lengths to become mothers, but is it wrong to sleep with a stranger to get pregnant? I leave that to you to decide ….
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i think its wrong tbh, i would rather know who my childs father was so that when they are older i can give my child that information and yes whilst i understand why some mums choose to do it without a man around i would rather give a man a chance to be a dad than not have him know he has children out there he has no idea about. i would have hated my mum if she had done this. as with any child they may turn out to resent the mum for doing it this way, its also unfair on the man who has fathered the child. i also have to think about what happens if the child has medical needs and doctors want fathers side of the family’s history?? or if the child needs an organ and mum or mums side of the family isnt compatible, then the child has to wait longer for a donor to come up. so in my eyes its very unfair on child and the guy who has unwillingly and unknowingly fathered the child
its a hard one i personally wouldnt do it but then if the mum is happy to bring the child up alone and can support it then its there choice but then on the other hand your taking that chocice away from the man he may not want kids and the kid will grow up not knowing his father
My opinion is it is wrong. Diseases and what not would be my main problem. Got no problems with people having sex on the first date but protected… I do not believe that children Defo need a farther as I didn’t and my nun was and is Feb. But to just sleep with a stranger to get pregnant is cruel not fair on the man or the child …
Id say it was wrong as like you said there are so many safer ways of doing it! How does she know in three months time she wont meet the man of her dreams?!
I think there are better ways to go about it, such as using a sperm donor, a sperm bank or maybe even adoption. i personally wouldn’t do it as i think its a vital unfair to the man involved x
I understand that she wants another baby but this isnt the right way of doing things. I personally believe a baby is made through love from both sides and a great experience for both parents. Sleeping with a stranger in hooe to get pregnant is not only dangerous (as if they found out this could cause all sorts of problems and heart brake) but also with sti’s. And how many men would one person be prepared to sleep with in order to fulfil there baby dream? xx
I think there are other ways to go about it. I would be mostly concerned about knowing the stranger’s health history and all that – I think this is one of the reasons we should know who the father is whether he is a husband or from a sperm bank.
personally i think it’s morally wrong, the man is gonna have a kid and not know.
its morally wrong n wat happens in the future if ur child gets ill, u dont know the background n family history of the random one night stand, theres sti’s n all sorts so so so far more riskier to do this just in hope of a child n wat happened if u didn’t get pregnant , keep doing it :/ very dangerous on the mother , n not fair on the bloke as we moan when men do this type of thing so y is it ok 4 a female :/ i think trying other opinions then this one xx
I think its very wrong..other ways of doing it..and not fair on the bloke. The child also deserves to no their dad x
personally I wouldnt but each to their…people need to remember about genetic issues and along with numerous other things xx
I would say its wrong, woman don’t like it when men use us for sex so why should we use them so we can have a baby? Its not fair on the baby or father, the father deserves to no he would have a child (he could be a great dad) and the child might ask questions about his/her dad and u wouldn’t have any anwsers to give x sorry if seemed blunt x
personally i think its wrong n could b dangerous xx