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It can all seem rather daunting starting nursery and more so when there are now many more children who they have to accept and share things with. Is it any wonder this age mark brings with it the added stresses of hitting and biting becoming normal?
It can be rather embarrassing when you go to collect your child from nursery to find a rather stern looking mother stood and the nursery teacher having to explain that the large bruise or bite mark on this annoyed mother’s child, is a result of your child. Please let the ground swallow you whole.
The nursery staff do not use the naughty step you use at home, nor do they follow the same rules and boundaries, so your child has more chance to display bad behaviour, they break all the rules they have learned, simply because at nursery they can.
If hitting and biting at nursery has become a regular pattern you can try speaking with the nursery staff and ensure them at home this type of behaviour is not tolerated and explain how you would deal with this situation. Could you ask them instead of reasoning with your child or trying to explain that what he/she has done is wrong, that they remove him and place him in a quiet area, similar to the naughty step technique as this is what he knows and understands.
The one thing I have found that has worked for me is that I have very clearly stated how upset this incident has made me and that I will be asking the nursery teacher if they have behaved that day, making a huge fuss at the end of the day when they have done well or should we say has at least not hit anyone.
I would love to hear if your a mum who has experienced this situation….
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My toddler has been bitten by others in preschool but thankfully, is not into biting others herself! I know the teachers put the boy slightly further from the rest of the kids until his biting season is over
I picked my daughter up today from nursery (14m) to be told that she had bitten another child. Needless to say I did want the ground to swallow me up. So when I take her Thursday I’m going to ask how they deal with it there while I’m at home I can continue doing it that way x
My eldest was always the one to get hit or bitten luckily he never did it back so hoping my youngest will be the same x
caitlans key worker told me that shes bossy with other children especially the older kids and once i walked in to collect her and took something off the little girl next to her (she didnt realise i was there) i just said no caitlan thats not nice now give it back please and she did but she knows that hitting other people is naughty as her younger cousin lashes out a lot and she always says mummy dylans naughty and tells me what hes done x
my daughter is always hitting the girls in her nursery class but never the boys she has stopped it abit now that the staff have told her its naughty shes not used to other people telling her off xx
Riley bites every day… he just doesn’t seem to understand why it is wrong. He bites at home too… he’s been going nursery for the last year. Every day he’s out on time out. Reflection. Thinking chair the lot. He says sorry but he would do it again in a heartbeat. He just doesn’t get any of it. I wish he wouldn’t bite but there is nothing that can seem to get through to him its wrong. Tried everything
Arghh I can’t read this one
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