Can you remember why you started a blog? What was your goal? Did you even have a goal? Did you just want a space to write down your thoughts, something to look back upon?
When did blogging become such a competition?
After a conversation on Twitter, yes I started it by moaning that yet again the Tots 100 top 10 were all the same old names, I don’t know if they are because I no longer bother reading it. Why? Because I got fed up of seeing the same old bloggers. It seemed I was not the only one who thought that way.
It seems to be that you need to be a popular blogger to be in with any chance of being noticed and more so accepted. I have 
spoken with other bloggers who like me do not feel part of the elite blogging community and feel some what intimidated by the top bloggers.
It can be difficult for newer bloggers to feel able to jump in and get involved, but I guess that’s the best way to do it. Join in with the forums and the link ups and the carnivals. Talk to as many bloggers as you can, even if they do ignore you.
Get your name and blog in the blogging eye and start believing that you do deserve to be there with them.
I stopped getting involved with blogging things after a few took a dislike to me, I was pushed out and was banished with a big black mark, Well guess what, I am still here.
How do you become a popular blogger? I guess a top blogger has to accept you into their circle, who will then introduce you to their circle of friends. I was never accepted, no invitation was given. I stood out like a sore thumb. But I soon learned, after throwing tantrums and spitting my dummy out of the pram a few times, that blogging is like real life, we cant please everyone.
If you try to jump into a Twitter chat and your ignored it can be hurtful and I often sat there thinking why is nobody replying. That soon became easy to deal with, if they were ignorant I unfollowed them, after shouting “ Oi I am talking to you”.
While many of the mummy bloggers blog about the latest baby pram or what is happening at the playgroup, there I am editing another anonymous heartbreaking post about a women on the brink of suicide and self harming, this is my world. I am more comfortable talking about mental illness than I am about shoes. But that is me and I will change what I do and enjoy doing and neither should you.
Do you have to fit a certain niche to be accepted? No I think your face and name have to stick . That does not mean you are on your own, there are so many bloggers out there right now feeling lost and confused, that we should all start making more time and offering a hand of friendship.
There is plenty of place and space for blogs of every kind and each of us is talented in our own right and has something that nobody else has. Be yourself and your blog will shine through.
I am going to make more of an effort and get involved, I am inviting you to come along for the ride with me. Start tweeting other bloggers, posting more blogs, joining in on forums and writing guest posts, re tweeting other bloggers and reading more blogs.
Are you with me on this?
About The Real Supermum
It is the only downside to blogging until you have the bloggy epiphany, and then you can begin to write freely, without a care in the world! And when you get to that point, you realise why you started. And then you can happily ignore all the other bullshit that goes along with this amazingly creative outlet! Xx
It shouldn’t really matter how popular someone’s blog is. As long as you have a purpose and write something interesting, you will get readers. Sometimes it just feels good to write what you feel in that moment, and that’s why you do it. The first person blogging should be for is you; if others want to come along for the ride, then that’s great too.
So long as what you’re doing has a purpose and it’s not just for rubbish, people will use it and you will get readers. You’ve started something great so ignore all the idiots x
I think this is a very honest and well written piece. I started blogging because I had a funny story to tell and I actually got fed up of repeating it so blogged it. My friends and family liked it. I liked it and another blogger was born. I then found a flash ficiton site which I love and that’s what takes up most of my time. However, I did receive some negative comments this time and it did upset me. . . think I’d rather be ignored, What’s the saying? if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all. But there does seem to be an elite and I have no idea how to break in but as long as my few loyal followers like my work, then I am happy.
I blog professinaly for a Danish website about MS http://blog.multipelsklerose.dk/ I have MS (it can be google translated if anybody has an interest) We are 5 who blog for them in Denmark, 3 in Sweden, 3 in Finland and 3 in Norway. We don’t get many comments but feedback from our boss tells us that we have many readers. That’s how I got started blogging. My English blog http://oddparent.blogspot.dk/ is for all the family in England, my husband is English. It’s like a diary and I’m happy other people read it too but I blog for me and the family so fair enough if other people don’t want to read it:) I like writing and love to blog. I love comments but don’t always get any which is okay. I read and follow a lot of blogs and enjoy it very much. I enjoy reading your blog and are following you and also have you on my blog roll:) Have a great weekend:)
Aw how fab are you, make sure you tweet me so I know who you are x
I have read your blog for a long time, I like the content and I feel people like you are needed just as much if not more than, the sugar coated blogs. I often feel like that on twitter, but hey ho they dont know what they are missing.
I think every blogger finds their niche and their regular followers/commenters. Most of my comments tend to come from the same 10 or 12 people all the time, but thats fine by me.
I will never be No1 in any of the charts, but there again I dont asprire to be, It would not overly bother me if the whole world stopped reading my blog, it will still serve its purpose of building memories with and for my relatives for once I am gone ( long time yes I hope)
Aw thank you Elaine x
Great post and I totally get you. There is space for everyone. Our topics maybe similar but each ‘storyteller’ has his or her own style that makes the ‘tale’ worth listening to. Funnily enough I was talking a mate and fellow blogger about this same topic. I feel that I do have great content but I don’t always get a comment or i’ll have a competition and get little response, despite tweeting and putting my links on FB. However, I don’t let it alter me or how I write. I just keeping doing my do.
I believe as a content grows in time readers and followers will come. In the mean time I’m making a space packed with treasures for them to stumble upon :0)
This is so open and honest! aslong as your blog is doing what you started it to do
then your successful , and i know this blog is a great success!x
This blog is a great success and helped alot of people in many different ways keep doing what your doing x
This blog is great Emma, its real, its honest and most of all its real people. If people dont like that then that is THEIR problem. How many people can honestly say that their blog posts are 100% real life, is gonna make you cry, break your heart, make you smile, make laugh and warm your heart. I bet there isn’t many.
Very well said! It’s one thing I’ve always said cliques in blogging or in any situation isn’t nice because there is always going to be that one person who feel left out and as if they are not good enough. It’s not about making cliques but about networking and everyone socialising and sharing their world with others. I think it’s more valuable when you find those people who accept you for you & your blog. Not because of your circle.