How old was your child when you became single ?
8, 5 and 2&1/2
Did you ever imagine that you would become a single mum, what were your plans for your child?
No, I did not think I would ever be in this position, I thought we’d be one of the few couples that lasted forever, wanted my child to have a happy mummy and daddy with the sibling’s house and pets for them to have a full and happy home.
Do you ever feel guilty that your child will not grow up with both parents?
Everyday it’s something I am still trying to come to terms with.
How did you become a single mum? Was it your choice?
My partner of 11 years decided that he no longer loved me and was unwilling to try, it wasn’t my choice but I know it’s for the best if he no longer loved me.
Whats the best thing about being a single mum?
It’s all your rules, I have full control and having cuddles all the time with my little ones
What is the worst thing about being a single mum?
The loneliness that I have no one to share my happy moments with or the sad ones
How do you think single mums are stereotyped?
Young and silly and on benefits , the looks I get when I say I’m single with the 3 children the first thing they say is ‘all from the same dad?’ they are all identical so you know just by looking but it make me feel my family is not good enough because I’m single mum.
Does your child’s father have an input in your child’s life?
Yes he does, he sees them regularly at the moment
What do you miss most about being single?
Having no one to cuddle up to in the eveings, just having that support and someone there.
If you could go back in time what would you change about the relationship with your childs father?
To have not of lost myself in becoming ‘wife’ ‘mother’ I lost me and he lost the person he fell in love with.
What will you tell your child happened when the time comes that they ask why you and father are not together anymore?
I’ve skirted this with the older to and have just said sometimes adults need to be apart but when they are old enough I will simply tell them the truth.
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Their nothing be ashamed of being a single mum ur doing a wonderful job bring ur los up by yourself
Don’t blame yourself chick and you can be assured that the first question I’d ask you is how on earth do you cope! x
people should applaud single mums as far as im concerned as they have to be mum and dad and they do a brilliant job of bringing up their kids so you have nothing to be ashamed of.!
massive hugs xxxx
Sounds like you are doing a great job, ignore what other people say x I’m in exactly the same situation after my husband decided he didn’t love me anymore after 8 years. I hope to be as string as you x
My blog post and sat here with tears falling at all the support you offer thank you so much it means more then you know xxxx
The harder job in the world is being a mum, and its 10 times harder when your alone! You r doing a great job and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. my aunty went through this and made herself so ill, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel x
I split up with my partner when I was 20 weeks pregnant. I didnt want to be a single mum. That was not the plan at nearly 40 years old. I fully empathise with you – and more so as i’ve only got the one whereas you have three – on everything you say. I really dont know how to take it when friends and family say to me i’m doing a great / amazing / fantastic job. Im bringing up my daughter the best I can, why is that amazing or fantastic? Isn’t that what every single mum does? It’s horrible when madam does something new or funny that I have no one to share it with there and then or have someone to grab the camera. My mum / close friends get a call / text saying oohh guess what she’s done now – but its not the same as being able to share that with the person who helped make her. If i had a partner around, they’d probably pick up the wrong camera anyway or miss capturing the moment and we’d have to have a go at them, so being on our own has it’s bonuses too eh
it’s good to see the emotional side of it. all you really hear it the financial
and care giving side
your doimg a great job hun dont let anyone tell you any diff your kids will be very proud of you well done xx
dont blame yourself sweet, i bet ur an excellent mum and youre all they need
xx