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You’ve met the love of your life, Your finally feel ready to settle down. You decide to approach the subject of having a baby with your other half.
He simply responses with ‘NO’
What do you do ? What do you say ?. Would you leave him and find somebody who was willing to allow you to become a mother ?
Many people automatically believe that everybody wants to have children at some point during their life.
That is not always the case some may have health problems that prevents them from becoming parents, others choose a career and some simply have no desire to have children.
What if your other half simply didn’t wish to become a father. Would you still love him and carry on spending the rest of your life with them hoping that at some point he may change his mind ?
Many believe a child ‘completes’ their relationship but would you risk having a baby with someone who so strongly is against it?
Let us know what you think …
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If this was before I’d had my children and my oh said he never wanted any children and I didn’t think I could change his mind then I would have left him. As much as I would have hated being without him as he is my soulmate I couldn’t imagine never being a mother. x
I dont think i could stay with a man if i felt the relationship was going no where. Luckily my OH loves children and we now have our little girl. I feel i was born to me a mummy and its the only thing that i have ever been good at, so i wouldnt feel complete with out a family and man who didnt want children would not be the right man for me xx
Exactly what other people put. The right man for me would be someone who wanted a family x
Luckily didn’t have the problem with my husband. What I think is I would leave him if we had that kind of differences.
My oh never wanted children (we now have an 18monh old who was a lovely suprise hehe) if he carried on and was adament he didn’t want them I’d be off, I would be devastated tbh. I’ve wanted children all my life and I don’t think I could be with someone who didn’t. Luckily my oh wants more children on day
When I first met Chris, having children was the last thing on our minds, he was in the process of buying a house and I was busy with work. Chris wouls walk out of a shop if there were too many kids or there was a baby crying! He never wanted kids!
Our first wasn’t planned and I absolutely dreaded telling him – however he was over the moon! We now have 3 boys!
Looking back now at my past relationships, I never thought of or discussed having children with any of my then boyfriends.
Our 2nd was planned,and I knew that I would want to have a third baby some day, but Chris had decided that 2 boys were enoughso he booked himself in for a visectomy. Thankfully after lots of tears, arguements and talks he cancelled, but it took 4 years for him to decide he’d like another baby! We haven’t mentioned baby number 4, but I won’t push my luck!
With me and my oh we both knew we wanted a baby.. the timing might not of been perfect, but the baby was wanted … so ive never had to encounter that problem but i can imagine it being very difficult for both the man and woman x
i had always been open to my oh with the fact that i wanted chidren and i family and we agreed on a number. i would be really upset if he decided different as he knew it from the beginning x x
hmmm tricky one as i have never been in the situation but… id like to think that if he was indeed ‘the one’ i would stay with him regardless. children is a big thing and some people just dont feel that they want to take that route in life. x
I think if it was an outright meaningful no and I didn’t already have one then I would separate. Children are what we are born to make, it’s our job! Some people may frown upon that but frown away, it’s a fact. If however my partner said no now, now that I already have a perfect little girl then so be it. That’s it done with. xx
If my oh said he didn’t want anymore kids or kids at all and I did I don’t think no matter how much I loved him I couldn’t stay with him as my kids are my life and if my bodys telling me I want more why should I have to sacrifise my happiness for someone else. Being a mummy is more important that anything else to me
If i didnt have any children and was in a relationship where my oh said he didnt want kids ever i dont think i would be able to stay with him but me and my partner have a lo now and if he said he didnt want anymore id just have to respect his decision. Luckily we both do want to ttc in the near future
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I would have left him, I knew from a young age that kids would be a huge part of my life and they are, I could not have remained childless x
Lucky I don’t have this problem. But I think I would leave if he didn’t want kids, as I would want a family. Xx
I always knew I wanted to be a mum and if i had a partner who didnt share the same desire then i wouldnt be able to stay with them. I dont have this problem though as ive got 2 children and there are future plans for more kids.