I have been somewhat pissed off annoyed at the way a small number of bloggers portray others, especially newer bloggers who are becoming successful. I spent so much time trying to learn what I was meant to do that it left me with a headache. Can I do this and can I say that? I have never been one to be a sheep and follow others and blogging has given me a few sleepless nights.
I have been the spotlight of idle gossip on a few occasions and yes it used to worry me. I have been blocked by a few “top mummy bloggers”, who are well known, they don’t like me and that suits me fine as I would never have people like that as friends in real life, so I see online relationships as much the same.
How many times do you see bloggers congratulating others? How many times do you see bloggers shouting out to help you? How many well established bloggers go that extra step to make you feel welcome into their clan? I don’t see any. All I see is bloggers making up rules and pushing those who try something different out.
Are there really any rules when it comes to blogging? Are all blogs the same? Do we all have to stick to the same theme and topics? Must we all write a post a week or join in with every linky going? Do you see many well known blogging names coming to comment on your blog after you have taken the time to read theirs?
I am not afraid to try new things and experiment, my personality is of a risk taker and when someone says “ Oh you can’t do that” or “That does not work”, I always like to see for myself.
Triberr is disliked by many of the bloggers yet I personally love it. It has worked well for me and my blog and I speak to a great range of other bloggers who also praise Triberr. I do not care in the slightest that others say “ We unfollow anyone who uses it” or “it looks spammy”. If you don’t want to follow a blogger who uses it then don’t, simply hit unfollow. Why tweet away and put down those who do not agree with you? Because you dislike something everyone who uses it is not worthy of your friendship? Wow. Utterly shocked at the behaviour of some on Twitter recently.
A blog is not “good enough to be accepted” where it does not fit into what a few small minded feel should be a mummy blog, I do not want to be a sheep, I do not want to blog about nappies and fluffy eared teddy bears as my life is far from normal. I don’t feel the need to tell you what art work we made or where we went each day. My blog may well be totally different, but guess what so am I.
I see bloggers moaning that others stole their ideas? Ideas of what? With over 2,000 mummy blogs alone that I know of are you having a laugh, the idea that came to you did not come to another person? Your kids play in the mud just like others kids, mums buy Pampers nappies and because you do that too is it wrong? That is how petty some have become.
Blogging is competitive whether you like to admit it or not. But some take it way too far and become horrid jealous monsters. I never get involved with bitching about others, I just sit and watch and wonder do these people behave that way in real life or are they prone to being social media warriors?
There is only one rule I have when it comes to blogging and that’s be yourself and enjoy it.
This blog portrays a person, this blog shows what I am and what I do. I am sorry a small number of bloggers don’t feel what I do should be accepted, I have spent most of my life trying to please others, I learned a value lesson in doing so. You live a life of misery.
I did follow many other mummy bloggers, those some would call top bloggers, I have lost any respect I did have for them due to their clique and catty attitude of others. I no longer worry if what I am doing is right, as my blog is mine and I can do what I wish. I will always thank those small few who have helped me at some point, but as for a warm and welcoming community, I am afraid I have not seen much of that.
I will continue to use Triberr if I please, I will continue to discuss controversial and taboo subjects and I will post as many guest posts as I wish. Why? Because I can.
Do I care this post will piss some off? No not in the slightest, at least my traffic for today will be higher than normal right? A blogger who actually stands up and says what many others feel yet are afraid to say for fear of judgement. Well judge away.
* This post is aimed at NOBODY – I am not writing this with anyone in mind. I am writing this post as I feel the need to get it off my chest. Then I can go back to what I love doing*
Sorry guys but I needed to rant.
About The Real Supermum
You do your own thing which is the beauty of blogging. Personally I love to gain tips from others too and have found some really supportive bloggers out there. Give people a chance and continue to be you!
Oh dear – your title caught my eye on netmums and now I don’t know what to write! I seem to live in the clouds most of the time as I miss most of the agro goes on. Or maybe I’ve just had a luckier ride than you. As long as you’re happy doing what you’re doing then keep going I say.
You are really lucky if you miss it as its horrid to watch …. it is very much like being in the geek group at school with the pretty girls all glued together – yet very unattractive attitudes.
It sounds like you’ve had quite an experience with other bloggers. I haven’t run into that but I am blogging in a different niche which is focused on personal development and business growth and the community tends to be full of positive, uplifting people.
I’ve been on my fair share of “mommy boards” and I can relate to what you’re talking about because I’ve seen all that cattiness on the majority of the boards. I have found positive groups and that’s where I spend my time when I’m online with other moms. The best thing that I can do for myself is to surround myself with positive and like minded people.
Do what works for you and don’t let others dictate what you’ll do. You don’t need them and they’ll move on to someone else to pick on. It’s so very high school, isn’t it?
Emma at the end of the day ita your blog.. No one elses stuff what people say they wouldn’t like it because then ita competition for them, they are always going to gave something to say about what ever you do.. Stick to what you no and are comfortable with U think ita Brill.. Easy to use site and fun catchy pictures and wording xx
I loved your rant. I’m new to blogging but have read many and yours is one of the best I’ve seen, keep it going you’re brilliant.
Hey thanks for stopping by and thanks for your kind words – I am sure many will not agree with me ha
Good for you Emma
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We all need a rant. and its ur blog. Its very true what u say xx
This is your blog, it’s brilliant – it’s the only Mummy blog I use! Keep up the good work xx
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Well said, i am so sick of all the little cliches. We aren’t in the school playground anymore ladies!!
i have taken a break from blogging as we moved back to NZ… I get back on twitter and its the same old same old….
Hey stranger not seen you around for a while and now I know why – yes same old same old ….
You are always going to get childish behaviour no matter where you go or what you do x
thats exactly it!!! it is your blogg and some people may think you or others have stolen ideas but as you say….kids are kids the world over and always will be. i doubt very much any kid will ever find something another hasnt done! x
Am sorry to hear you feel like this. I’m a new blogger (and worry I upset people but not do things *wrong*). Anyway what I’d like to say is I’ve been oblivious to all this – but don’t really have time to care. People do comment on my blog, and I do feel like effort is made to make me feel welcome.
As someone who has been blogging for about the same length of time as you, I think you are spot on. There are some fantastic bloggers out there, older hands included. Some of them really do try and help you out and be inclusive, while others may say they are not exclusive, but don’t interact with you and then lay down rules and have a hissy fit when some poor new blogger breaks them. Some bloggers I get on fantastically well with, and others I don’t. If they don’t interact with me on Twitter when I have made an effort, and I don’t feel they add value to my timeline, I just unfollow and go hang out with those who do add value, and who do interact. I try not to get involved with any badness, like you say, it’s your blog and it’s up to you what you put on it, and if you’re not doing anyone else any harm, then there are no rules. Nice rant. We all have to have them from time to time.
I don’t believe in the stealing of anyone’s ideas, the way I see it is if it’s been shared online someone is going to like it and want to do it and it’s nice if they link back to your post and say this is where I got it from. That to me is blogging etiquette! I’ve tried various things over my time with blogging and you need to be that risk taker as you never EVER know what can work for you. Don’t be generic! Sorry I think it’s disgusting the way some women carry on towards others. It’s beyond me!