I know for a fact that you are reading this! My real life traffic tracker has you in its sights. ( Yes I am sat here waving at you)
I know for a fact you will read this post then go back to what you were doing without thinking to voice your opinion where it says “ Join in the conversation”.
How do I know?
Because Google told me Yesterday I had over 600 individual visitors to this blog yet only 10 comments were received yesterday.
Why?
Maybe they had nothing to say?
What I had waiting for them was not what they thought?
The post was crap, it didn’t deserve a comment?
The mobile they use does not allow them to leave comments?
But what excuse do other bloggers have?
I visited 100 different blogs last month and I left a well thought out comment on each blog & guess what? Only 8 of those bloggers bothered to come and return the gesture and visit me in return and leave a comment.
Where has the blogging community gone?
Are we all too wrapped up in our own blogs that we no longer have the spirit to help supports others?
Are you part of a blog gang and don’t bother to support other blogs?
Do you read posts but never comment on them? If so why?
Why do you visit the blogs you read? Do the links on Twitter catch your eye? Could you relate to the post?
By leaving comments on the blogs you read you are not only helping that blogger, you are getting your own blog out there in the Blogshere. When you leave a comment here, I am that kind that I also take the last post you wrote on your own blog & advertise it for you on your comment, I am allowing you to steal my traffic.
Your name appears on the home page of the blogs widget too when you leave a comment – my widget is called “ Who is talking”. Leave a comment here then take a look – you will see your name & link – so will everyone else who visits this blog.
You see by commenting you are advertising your own blog and gaining a new back link that will help with your blogs authority with Google ranking too.
Would you go to someone’s house, open the door, have a nosey around, grab a cup of coffee then totally ignore them, before slamming the door on your way out? I am guessing you wouldn’t – so why do it on someone’s blog?
Use blog commenting as a tool. You will see the benefits
About The Real Supermum
I often don’t comment if I have nothing to say or nothing meaningful to add to the conversation. I can’t stand it when I read comments that are just well, “commenting”.
I am running a give-away on my blog for free tickets to a great concert tour up and down the UK. Visitors to my blog have doubled (which isn’t why I’m doing it) but there are hardly any comments. Now that’s baffling!
I agree I would rather say nothing at all than some rambling mess of words. Competitions always seem to get more attention – they are a great traffic pleaser.
If you’re looking for comments, you could always link the giveaway to comments. I’ve seen several blogs that choose the winner from the commenters. That probably results in a lot of pretty lame comments, though.
im the same read then leave …… i will start t make an effort
I aim to visit and comment on at least 100 blogs each month x That gives my blog 100 more places to be viewed from.
I always try to leave a comment, even if i dont have anything interesting to say x x
I also think it is good manners to respond to someone saying something x
Love this post. I started my blog nearly 2 months ago and was so excited to be entering into this creative world. I would read various blogs and leave in depth comments but would get very little if anything back. It can be really discouraging, but there are lots of lovely bloggers who have left lovely comments on my posts and it makes this journey all the more worthwhile. I also have a pet hate which is when someone says they’ll follow your blog and they don’t. Hey ho I’m still going to carry on. I’m enjoying myself way too much.
Natalie
http://www.accidentalmogul.blogspot.com
Hey Natalie thanks for stopping by and thanks for your 1st comment here x I have a few pet hates when it comes to blogging x
Sorry for not always commentin cos I mainly use my phone if it loses the connection it won’t let me comment and sometimes just for the shear fun of it it kicks me off lol but I will try and comment more xXx
Going to be watching for more comments from you now Jess x
i hav2 admit i have done that a few times i love the posts i read but most the time never get time to finish what i read an hav2 cut my internet off az i hav always got somethin or someone to run to but do appolagize an will try my hardest to comment wen i can xxx
Im kinda guilty of this.. I now feel really bad and will take steps to try to comment on everything I read now!
I usually leave comments when I have things to say. And have read the post. I really really hate the idea of commenting just for the comment. I hate it when they’ll look at the picture on the post, read nothing, and comment like cool picture. I hate it when they leave a one word comment, and then their blog/twitter/facebook page link, or just say follow me and I’ll follow back. If a blogger does that even once, I’ll never leave a comment on them, even if they make the most amazing comments. And yes, commenting is a great tool, but reading the actual post the other person makes an effort to write, and write a relevant comment is an even better tool.
Sorry for the rant.
*I meant to write: most amazing posts, not most amazing comments… Studying for finals and head is in organic chem mode at the moment…
I have to admit that I don’t comment as often I should, but it’s because I often don’t know what to say other than “great post”, which just seems so patronising, and in my opinion, implies that someone is only posting a comment to get a returned hit to their own blog. I’d much rather only leave a comment if I have something genuine to say. It doesn’t mean a post is boring, or uninteresting, it just means that I have nothing to say about it, that hasn’t already been said by someone else, or even within the post itself
Hi Emma *waves back* ill try get on the blog more often from now on and comment on a few posts for you xxx
This is my first time to visit your site and I have to say I don’t agree with the basis of this post. In fact, I don’t know that I will come back because of it. I find the post itself rude and presumptuous.
Just because people don’t have time to comment on every post you write does not make them rude. It doesn’t mean that there isn’t a blogging community. It means they didn’t feel they had anything to add or maybe they didn’t care for the post or maybe, just maybe something else in their life is taking priority to your blog.
Just because you have the extra time to visit and comment doesn’t mean others always do. Most bloggers in the blogging community are very supportive and comment as much as they can as time allows. Insulting them isn’t the way to form bonds within the community.
so you yourself are being presumptious there saying you wont come back because the first blog you read you dont agree with??? try reding one or two more posts before making a snap judgements. i find this comment rude tbh!!
I try to comment on all posts that I find interesting and can springboard from or if I’ve had a similar experience or if I’ve tested something and have a slightly different opinion (e.g. if someone didn’t like a product and I loved it or vice versa). I have a close circle of bloggers that I often communicate with through our blogs but an even wider circle of people (bloggers included) that talk to me about my content via Twitter and Facebook.
It’s hard though because I often see something I really like and bar “liking” it or saying “well done, I agree” I have nothing I can add so find that commenting is just me baiting link backs. People often do that on my blog and it just makes me die a little inside each time so don’t want to seem as though I’m doing the same.
Like Natalie, my blog’s been live for roughly 2 months and I’ve tried using WordPress tags to find interesting blogs and comment on them and encourage those who are just starting out and don’t seem confident in the space yet and I ask questions about the content… you know, because I’ve read it rather than just looking at the pictures. But alas, very few people ever use the tags and very few people follow through with comments and very few people care that you’ve taken time to read their content but ho hum… I guess that’s how the fast paced, digital world turns now.
Sorry, I didn’t mean to go one…
Well said!
I always try to leave a comment if I have something to say!
Sometimes it is only 1 word (didn’t realise that this can be annoying to some people – woops!) but if I think something is brilliant (or whatever), but can’t think of anything else, then I’d rather leave that than nothing.
Ha! This the truth. I always find myself talking about this via Twitter. I never bothered to really blog about it because I’d never get feed back & opinions about this. So many bloggers act as if their too good to comment back let alone respond to a freaking comment left on their blog. It irritates me. Especially those in my blogging niche. So, I don’t bother to visit nor comment on certain blogs anymore. Sucks, because it’s not that serious for people to act like that. Well not to little ol me.
*Waiving*
This is my first time here.
I’ll admit that I don’t post on all blogs that I am subscribed or come across. I want to add something that’s meaningful or engages the discussion further. I don’t particularly like “flat” comments so I try not to give them.
I hold my hand up. On a few occasions I haven’t left a comment as I really wasn’t sure what to write. But the bloggers you commented on each one should have returned the favour. you made the effort so why cant they x x
i try and always comment but most the time its just a small comment to show ive read….
i’ll start visiting and commenting the blog more often,when i have time even if its just once or twice a day
xx
Lol I love the way some ppl find time to comment if its to be sarcastic spiteful or bitchy lol
I try to comment but life has thrown me a curve ball atm, we’re preparing to go to court etc plus I’m on my final TMA with the OU and my god is it a doozey! Will try and comment more often. I do keep up to date with the blog (as you know, being your bitch and all hehe) but I’m usually on a wanky iphone that seems to hate me atm and refuses to load the comment box 9/10. I will try to get on a actual computer more often so I know I can definately comment xxx
I always try and comment on everyones blog posts I read.. even tho on my phone it doesn’t always let me comment so I make sure to save the post and go on the post via my computer in the evening.. I have to admit I have realised that the commenting atmosphere has been lacking lately x
I don’t always post either some times it could be because I’m on my phone and it decides it like to play games other time it could be I don’t no the right words to say or other times it could be because as I’m reading the post somethings comes up and I don’t end up getting to finish it I’m sorry and will try harder xxx
Wow someone was on a period! I blog on here and leave comments kind of haphazardly. I sometimes go on a mad one and comment away but to be fair my wildfires crazed and freezes a lot . Many times ive done replys and then my phone freezes and i lose it, so i admit i should try more, but i dont. My bad. Sometimes i read things, get distracted by kids and forget too. That annoys me especially when i want to reply. X
i dont always answer/ comment. If what i think has already been said i wont, i also dont like to just say ‘great post’ as i think its patronising! I will deffinately try a bit harder when i have the time!x
Wow ok I know I don’t comment on here much as I should but jeez if you ain’t got anything nice to say just don’t say it. I will try to comment more I know I’m worlds worst for it xx
I totally see what you’re saying, and while I do agree, I also see it from the other side. I don’t think we should be forced to comment on other people’s blog posts just because they commented on ours. That’s not what blogging is about. Yes, it’s a big ol’ friendly community, but why should I feel obligated to comment back if I have nothing relevant to say?
I don’t comment on other people’s blog posts expecting a comment back. Some bloggers may not need to comment back, or just don’t have the time because they, too, are running a business. There are many factors, but the bottom line is, I like to engage. Period. I don’t expect anything back; if I get a comment back or a subscription back, yay! Otherwise, I had fun reading and commenting.
Thanks for your thoughts!
Very true!! I can very rarely comment as for some reason my phone doesnt like to let me on the blog.
But mannrrs is manners! It takes two minutes to leave ur opinion on an article. however, if you dont have anything nice/constructive to say, dont say anything at all.
keep up the good work hun!! Xx
I used to be a regular blog commentor, but life at the moment is hectic & have been spending whatever little time I have on the group supporting the mummies! I will try harder to comment more often. Nothing bugs me more, than settling down to read a blog, getting 3/4 of the way through & then having to close down as I have a baby screaming for mums milk!
x
Keep up the good work, your posts are fab when I get chance to read them
I’ve commented before…
I only comment when I have something of value to add or have the extra time to chime in. Or if I disagree but nicely of course! I do enjoy your blog and your tweets!
Haha, I kind of feel terrorised into commenting now! I do try to muster up something interesting to add to things I’ve read, but to be honest I worry about people thinking ‘whoa, who’s this pillock and why does he think I care’. Guess I should try and be a bit less self-concious and a bit more determined to have a say in stuff. Ah well, good blog. Cheers. B
I don’t always comment on a blog post because I may have nothing to say, I do comment though if I think it’s worth it.
Regarding my own blog; I know I don’t get a lot of traffi c(I held a comp once and only got three entrants!) but I’d love more.
Guess I’m just boring lol
Aw you are far from boring – see not getting any interaction from others makes you feel that way x
Good point! I do try and comment when I can but as I do use a phone, I do genuinely find that I can’t sometimes, no idea why! It is true that commenting brings you comments, I have only been blogging for a few months and have found it to be a very reciprocal community. Great post!
I’m guilty. I often don’t leave a comment if there are already a lot of comments. I guess I feel like with that many comments, mine probably won’t be noticed anyway. I also don’t want to leave a comment if I don’t really have anything to add or say. How many, “Yah, me too” comments need to be left? I do try to comment, though. I’ve gotten new readers to my flailing blog by commenting and have met some great new people through comments on my or other blogs.
Comments on my blog help keep me motivated to keep going with my writing. I often read other blogs and want to give up mine because it’s not very good and I can’t post often, but then someone leaves a comment and it makes all the difference.
I’m new to blogging so am quite enthusiastic about leaving comments but sometimes feel a bit of a klutz if all I have to say really is ‘lovely blog’ though I’m sure the blogger appreciates that someone took the time to comment, so always try to leave something ………..as you can see hahahaa
what on earth is a klutz ha ha
ermm Klutz I guess is our slang for a bit of a fool,
I only comment if I have something to say about the post. If its just that I enjoyed it…that seems a little silly to comment on all the time.
I just feel as if I should comment when I read another bloggers work, I guess I appreciate the time and effort that goes on behind each blog post x Maybe its just me
In the main I will always comment as I think of it as my calling card. I aslos visit and comment on lots of blogs Emma, especially newbie ones.
In regarsd to here, your commenting system does not seem to retain my details which is a pain as I have to type them in time and time again. Also the green is hard on the eyes.
Cheers Mich x
Think I use the wordpress comment system let me have a look see what else there is available x
i admit i haven’t been on the blog much recently but i will try more
x
naughty naughty
If you read 100 blogs a day, how do you have time to comment on them all? I like commenting when I think it means something and I love comments on my blog. But there are a ton of reasons not to comment and I sure don’t expect it.
I comment on 100 blogs a month hunny I would never have enough time in my day x I always try to do my bit to help others and feel by commenting on others blogs I am showing them I appreciate what I read x
I haven’t been around for a few days cos its been manic but I do try and comment where I can. Sometimes you’ll find i have nothing to say so it’s pointless me commenting, but I will give it my best shot. x
i am new to the blogging world and I only comment when I feel I have something to contribute. I am trying to comment more often and have started reading more blogs.
Comments are only a small percentage of page views. I knew we see them as a sort of validation, but take solace in the fact that your words are being seen. I actually have never read your blog before (caught the link on twitter when someone RT’d it), so I can’t really say anything about your content. When I do read, I read a lot on my phone, and commenting is a pain. But if I am really compelled to comment, I do it. Not for the page view, but because I have something to say.
The problem with the “blogging community” is that it turns into a somewhat closed circle, where bloggers are reading bloggers, commenting, RTing, all of each others posts. I want READERS, not just other bloggers, although I value the support that other bloggers give and definitely have to do my part to share the support. I just don’t have the time to visit all of the blogs in my reader, and I actually trimmed it down because I was reading way too many blogs for the “community,” not because I really wanted to read them. And I recently read a similar post on the community, and a non blogger commented that she actually feels left out when reading a blog sometimes, when they refer to other blogs, memes, etc. So we have to be careful not to turn too inward. I had to remember that I am writing for an audience, and not just other bloggers. I want people to visit because they value what I have to say or they think I’m funny, not because they feel obligated.
I comment…but I’m slow. Sometimes I read a post and like it but don’t really have anything all that useful or interesting to say. My traffic is a teeny fraction of yours and I don’t get a buttload of comments most of the time. I do try (but often fail miserably) to return the favor when other bloggers comment. Actually, that reminds me. I have comments to respond to and blogs to visit. Eeep!
I always read from my phone, which sometimes makes commenting hard. I don’t get a lot of comments either. Some weeks I leave a lot, others weeks life has me running and I just don’t get to be as supportive as I would like to be. I assume others experience some of the same. Great post, though. Got me thinking. I need to do better.
I was the same when I first began, just never had the time now I make sure I comment on at least 100 each month
Hi Emma. I’m here via a tweet about your post.
Here are my thoughts on commenting on blog posts: I’m a big believer of comments, I have called it the ‘lifeblood of blogging’ which is a little dramatic, but that’s how important it is to me, for ME to comment on posts that have touched me in some way – made me laugh, cry, commiserate, nod my head and say yes, me too, and sometimes, just to reach out to someone who clearly needs the words and support.
I have over 50 blogs I subscribe to in my Google Reader. Most of these blogs have 3-5 posts a week. I’m a mother of one with another child on the way. As are many of the bloggers I read, I’m busy and I have to carve time out for blogging (which includes Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest, StumbleUpon etc), and you know what? It’s hard to comment on every.single.post. by every.single.blogger. I read. Sometimes, I miss posts, and I just read the most recent one. Sometimes, I go away without commenting, because I don’t know what to say (which is rare, but it happens). And these bloggers I read? They understand that and they don’t think it’s because I’m rude.
And sometimes, I read more than the blogs in my Reader (like yours now) because of a tweet, or a Facebook link, or a link up I’m participating in. So to say I do comment on every post I read, would be lying and unrealistic.
It’s not rude, it’s just what it is. Not being able to find the time to read and comment every single time, not being able to add to the conversation at that time.
I don’t comment expecting a return visit or a reply, though one or both would be nice. I have regular readers I KNOW are reading and commenting (though not always) and them not coming regularly, does not mean they are not supportive. They just have lives to juggle on and offline.
I do try and return visits to everyone who comments on my posts, and I do try to reply to their comments.
See where I’m going with this? Blogging is hard work, like it or not. Building and retaining a community is hard work. We all have to find the time. It’s not bloggers being rude. It’s not that the blogging community has gone to sh*t. Life gets in the way, sometimes, that’s all.
I get lots more views that comments. I just figure that people are either so annoyed by me that they can’t click out fast enough or they are so intimidated by my awesomeness that they are embarrassed to say anything for fear of looking less awesome than I am OR they are reading from their smartphone and have a really hard time commenting that way. The third one is what happens to me almost all the time. So I think you shouldn’t liken this situation to going into someone’s house and nosing around. That’s a little extreme of an analogy, in my opinion
And I’ll bet that you or anyone else over here does not visit or comment on my blog as a result of my leaving this comment unless it’s simply to disprove this conjecture 
I was actually very surprised when I started realizing that people whose blogs I was commenting on, were coming over to mine and leaving comments. I thought it was really nice. I definitely try to do the same, but sometimes, It’s really hard to do that for every single comment. I just do as much as I can. Sometimes I spend so much time reading and commenting on other blogs, that I neglect my own.
I comment all the time; very rarely ‘read & run’. I love comments & reply via email (if they have it enabled) and/or visit back. As Bloggers we all love comments!
Good post!
I do comment, but lots of times my comments will go to spam. Or the comment takes forever to load. Or the comment system they’re using tells me “invalid.”
Not always the commenter’s fault.
If I go to a blog, and I really disagree with what they say, or do, or are unkind and sarcastic…I’ll just click out.
If it’s a giveaway, I click out.
If it’s a product review, I’ll click out.
If it’s someone who I feel I could be friends with, I’ll comment.
But if it’s someone I know I’d never spend time with in real life, I click out: why start a back and forth that isn’t a good use of time for any one?
I really don’t think it’s rude, you’re taking it too personally. I don’t comment on everything because of a lack of time, often reading on mobile, & sometimes nothing to add to the discussion. Rather than thinking that you’re inviting visitors to your house, imagine that you’re inviting discussion in a public place (the Internet) & some people are listening quietly at the back, while the others (the witty ones with more time/more to say/better Internet connection) are up the front, joining in! Make everyone welcome!
Hi, just new to blogging, looking forward to reading lots of new blogs. You do a gret job with six children it’s hectic enough with two! Lydia
It can often be a time thing! I wish I had more time for reading blogs because I really feel like I miss out on some awesome posts!
Sometimes it’s such a palaver having to sign-up to someone’s site first etc (bad design), that it stops people bothering.
I love your site/posts though!
I am guilty of this but it isn’t because I can’t be bothered too, I often write a comment and then press send and it doesn’t because I am in the wrong internet browser or on my phone…….fingers crossed this will post now!
You write about what a commenter has to gain from commenting on your posts, but why is it important to you that someone does so?
Is it because you want the commenter to ‘steal’ your traffic, because you want to validate your page views in a way that is publicly obvious or because you want to generate discussion?
Personally, I would rather people commented on a blog because they were inspired to do so, whether it be to offer support, to empathise, to advise or to offer an opinion.
I think to suggest that the blogging community is rude and lacking in community spirit purely because you do not always see the number of comments you would like is offensive.
I blog, and I read and comment on other blogs as often as I have time to and when I am inspired to do so. If people take the time to comment on something I’ve written then I welcome the opinions and discussion but I don’t worry too much about the validation. Instead I will ask myself why readers haven’t commented – perhaps there was nothing to add or maybe the post simply didn’t validate a response.
Briefly flicking through your posts I find the majority are sponsored and aimed at an American audience, as such I feel no need to comment because I can’t relate with the content.
If you feel it is rude that every single one of your readers don’t stop to comment, do you not feel it is also rude not to personally respond to every comment that you get?
I would prefer to build friendships within the blogging community therefore when you interact with 100 others each month and only recieve 8 responses it can make you feel disheartened. As for the US reach I have never been to America but I do host guest posts from any blogger.
I have people who read and don’t comment that are my friends. It doesn’t bother me. I’m pretty laid back about it all though. I guess I forget, some aren’t.
I’m with you on this! I comment on hundreds of blogs every month. I do get lots of comments and value every one, but there is certainly a lot of blogs I comment on that never even look at mine. When I first started blogging nearly 5 yrs ago, the blogging community was much closer and a lot more supportive than it is now. There are many cliques out there which I try to stay away from but I always try to make the effort to browse their blogs. Guess the support has dwindled since the massive influx of new blogs and the creation of twitter.
CJ x
See if I were as good with words are you are CJ, perhaps some would not on their high horse. The point is I take the time to visit and interact with at least 100 bloggers each month yet they never interact in return … yes it does make you feel a little disheartened.
I haven’t had my blog up for long so views and comments aren’t very high though each comment I do get I really appreciate. If someones not got time for a comment or isn’t sure what to say a like, follow or add on twitter is just as good.
I often can’t comment from my phone and I do a lot of reading on the go. If its something that i want to offer support to or have an opinion on I follow the blog and go back to it when on the computer.
sometimes i have nothing usefull to add or i get mad at some comments so i leave it i do enjoy the blog though x
Right for anonymous.
I have posts on here. Ive done varied posts for emma . Some funny ones, some positive ones and some shall we say darker ones that explain things in my life i have experienced.
This blog has given me the chance to exorcise some demons. To let out some things safely and in my own time and space.
My experiences were met with other peoples experiences that proved i was not alone in some thing that i thought i was. I received lots of support and kind words that helped me make sense of what happened.
In another experience i recounted here for emma i got msgs back from a mum who i was able to help. Surely that is a good enough reason to comment. Mums have their life stories on here, their deepest shames, joys, fears and for someone to comment and say its ok to feel that way, or just im sorry to hear that, or congratulations can mean a lot.
Comments can make or break someones day sometimes and THATS why they are important.
Emma doesnt need comments to validate her. She knows how fab she is, and if she doesnt she has a husband, kids and tons of mums who will happily buoy her up if need be, without bring asked but because we know her and want too.
The blog needs comments so that mums know they arent alone.
If you had taken the time to read through the blog you would see this and know why its important.
Shell I think you summed it up completely
. I don’t come on as often as I’d like purely because I have a blackberry phone that has a melt down if I’m on the internet and receive a txt at the same time. When I do get on I like to leave a comment. If someones taken the time to write a post I’m sure I can take the time to comment x
I try to comment on each one as my mum used to say i have a answer for everything so surely i should put it to good use… i do sometimes find myself typing and wandering off the actual subject so to that i appologise lol xxx
Tell me about it! I’ve spent so much time on each of my post, much time to build traffic but still not many comments. I always comment either on twitter or on blog, otherwise, it’s difficult to connect with people.
My blog’s eczemablues.com – for parents with eczema kids
i havent read all the comments, but i noticed it hasnt taken long to be one of the most commented on!
ahh i try to comment on as many blogs as I can, especially on silent sunday and linkys i join in with such as the gallery i always try to comment on the whole list but i never get everyone return and comment, i sometimes comment on over 200 blogs on a sunday morning thats just the way ti goes tho, i think for general posts tho unless you really feel you have somethign to ad then you read and pass by I do read your blog quite often and I promise i will comment more
x
I feel this post for real! I don’t understand how I can get so many views, but no where near that in comments. It sorta makes u wonder! I have to come visit this site more often!
I come on every now and then and don’t comment because i am too busy but my LO’s have been rather quiet today so i have commented on most of the blogs i have read.
I like the new layout as it is easier to find your way around.
I try to comment as much as i can
i comment on loads def have been in the last three days lol x
ive only been here twice now and dont really comment as i never know what too say and feel a bit silly but will try a lil harder for you lol x
i try to comment as much as i can but sometimes i really dont know what to say….. or i can think what i want to say but cant say it in a way that anyone else will understand x
I think if ive taken the time to read it all why not leave a comment?
I love that example Emma – it sooo fits!! There have been times ive read a blog post and no know what to write but always leave a few words anyway just to leave my mark lol! I woz ere – even though i didnt have anything good to say haha! x
I could not resist commenting. Well written!
I think it can all get a little too clicky in the blogosphere. I write because I want/need to write. Yes I want to reach 500 followers but that’s a personal achievement thing for me and me alone! I wont bull shit anyone to get there though I may advertise my blog on FB or Twitter. If I like a bog or a tweet I will read and write (if needed) back to them. If I don’t like it/them I wont reply or follow as I wouldn’t expect them to reply /follow me if they didn’t like it. Just be true to yourselves at the end of the day. Don’t spend too much time worrying about what others may or may not think or do regarding you and your blog. – I think I should start taking my own advice lol xx
Well how could I stop by and not comment now?! You make a very good point here. I think for me though often I just dont have anything to say. I read a post, nod and then leave.
But you are right, that doesn’t make for a good community spirit. I love comments on my blog, so why don’t I comment on others?
I guess for me blogging is about getting things out of my head and seeing the visitors to my blog is more than enough for me, I don’t need a comment to make me get that warm fuzzy feeling. I can see that 600 people have read a blog and that for me is all the validation I need. A comment is icing on the cake.
That said, I know not everybody thinks the same way and that comments are welcomed and loved. And I will, therefore, do more.
THanks for a thought provoking blog post.
I love this post and totally agree with it!!! It has always been a bit disheartening when my stats show loads of visitors but not a single comment. I thought maybe they were too shy to be the commenter or that they didn’t want me to know they’d been stalking me on my blog thru my Facebook links! I am definitely from today going to get a target like you have where I aim to visit other blogs and comment as much as possible! Yes we need to stop being self centred and get into the blogosphere like the real big bloggers do! Really inspired by you and your success am a huge fan! Sky
Like some people have said, I also think it’s nice that if you take the time to comment on someone’s blog, it’s nice to get a reply from them, so you know they have actually read it. I comment on a few, although not nearly as much as I should, and often the person whose blog I have commented on doesn’t even bother to reply – so what’s the point! If people want comments on their blogs, they should take the time to read and actually reply to them too.
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I must admit I don’t always comment on blogs because in the beginning I was rather shy. I am starting to get more confidence now and when I actually got comments on my own blog I started to realise the benefit. I think part of the problem when you start is that you are used to normal websites where you do not have to comment. It takes a while to realise that you are part of a community and its great fun to see what other people are writing about
Hello!
I like commenting on blogs and often check back for replies. I seem to always have trouble commenting on blogger blogs with my WordPress credentials though, which puts me off trying a lot.
I agree. People should comment more, as a kind of thanks for the share I guess. I guess people don’t realise authors appreciate comments. Come on people get commenting
Comments are much reduced for me lately, as for most blogs where there are few contributors as there are so many new blogs coming online every day that comments we often do leave, end up diluted. We’ve talked about this before I think, is difficult, but you seem to be doing ok, so I wouldn’t worry if I were you.
Hey lovely to see you here x Yes commenting also takes time and I guess when we are reading so many blogs its difficult to leave comments on each one, sometimes I don’t even know what to say.
I totally understand where you are coming from. As someone who is driven by praise (as many people are) recieving a comment on your posts can really boost your confidence. You want to make sure you are doing a blog for a reason, and not just spending time writing for nothing. Im feeling it too with my website!! I must admit though, it does work both ways and I should be making the effort to do the same for my fellow bloggers out there!
i think its polite to comment on a post if you have read it… i comment on every one i read even if its just a simple ‘good post’ xx
i cmment on every blog post i read x
Ive not been coming on this site much until recently since ive had the guts to share my blogs with emma and have them posted on here. I must admit i dont always comment on posts. if i dont have anything to say that i think will help then i dont write but if i feel like i can help i will.
some people may say that this blog is rude but its the truth…..some people just cant be bothered. if you dont have anything to say then fair enough but if you have something to add to it then add to it. you never know it might just help someone change their lives in a massive way.
I admit I used to just read and not leave comments, but having people leave comments on my anonymous post and they all really helped me, so if I can help them by leaving comments then I will
I don’t think that ‘rudeness’ is a completely fair assumption to make. In real life I’m very happy to sit back and let everyone carry on a conversation around me, as I feel, if I have nothing of real value to add to a conversation, or if I feel my opinion will cause an argument to start, I don’t say anything. Also, if I get everything I need from a post I never feel the need to answer questions because I’m satisfied with what I’ve read, which is also the same for me in day to day life. For example if I’m being taught something and the person has given me in-depth all round information and guidance, I don’t have any questions to ask. I have however recently been trying to change this as I know that bloggers really do appreciate comments like I do. It’s not an easy adjustment however, as it’s not my personality and more often than not I’m talking nonsense!
I love getting comments and try to comment on any blog I visit.
I agree that comments do lead to more comments and traffic.
It annoys me too when you make an effort to leave blog love – especially when you’re part of a link up-to-date then get nothing in return.
It was the post title on twitter that made me visit!
Only blog ive ever done you posted Emma, lol, but I do try to comment on every blog I read even if its just to say that I think the author is brave for sharing there story keep up the good work xxx
I completely agree! I’m always commenting on other peoples blogs but the comments on my own blog are from less than 1% of my readers!
Brilliant post. So true. I thought it was just me!
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Hey thanks for stopping by and taking time to read and comment
Great post, when we first started blogging we had no idea how big the blogging community was. We blogged and read blogs but rarely commented on posts. In turn we rarely received comments.
Once we had got our blogging feet well and truly wet we realised the huge benefits to joining in the conversation. We left comments and in turn discovered blogs we wouldn’t have normally found, through the comment section.
Some times if I’m in a rush and on mobile I’ll tweet the author rather than comment as some of the comment boxes are rather fiddly.
I’ve started to really enjoy leaving my mark on a post
How many people receive a txt or an email etc and reply flatly yes, no or thanks ? It’s common courtesy. I believe that It does not matter what you have read or whether or not you have anything to say to further a discussion, it’s always polite to leave a comment to let the author know that their hard work (blog post) has been recognised. As for many posts on this blog are written by women with serious issues, they have delved deep inside to share experiences etc to help others. Commenting, sending them support pr a virtual hug goes a long way to know what they have written has been appreciated. It’s manners xxx
i agree with most ihave just started using this blog and would rather leave something on a post rather than nothing xx
I have only just started commenting really and I am struggling to find something to add to each one but I am trying x
I try comment as much as I can even if it’s just something as simple as hugs hun or something like that, but then I get into a habit of rambling on and on =/ however I think those who you have the respect for to do that should return the favor x
i do try and comment but i wont comment if i feel im gonna ramble lol
yooohooo can u see me waving back…tap my screen if u can hehe x x
i ued to be one of them people that read and go but the last few days ive been here and left messages for people, if ive nothing to say i just send a hug. aa virtual hug is better than nothing
i try and comment as much as i can when i can x
i read and comment on all blog posts now, it took me a while to get into it, i suppose i just felt blog shy =) xx
I dont comment as often as i should. Its either lack or time or on my phone. BUT i am trying x
I’m not really a blogger, I have a blog but very rarely post and its usually just chaotic jumble from my head! The more I use the facebook mums group, the more I am visiting the blog here. I always try to comment, even if its just to say I’ve read it, as Emma and everyone who posts have taken the time to write, so its only fair to leave a comment to the ones I read. Now I am waffling so I am off to waffle on another post! xx
i love to read your blog posts but dont no really what to say but i have been making an affort now
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i have to comment on this, im not sure y pplcomment if they dont av something nice to say, yes we all have our opions but put it across in a nice way its not hard to be tactfull and pleasant really we r all adults xx
i dont understand why people have the need to comment on something if the dont have something nice to say my nana once said if you can’t talk or say anything nice then keep your mouth shut yet fully grown adults act like little babies my 3 year old acts more grown up then some people xx
This is the first time I’ve commented, only cos its rare to be on a pc, unfortunately you are going to get rude people, they just can’t help themselves.x
i will only comment if i feel what i have to say is going to be helpful cant see the point of saying the same thing as loads of other people x
love this post, id love to be on here more often but only really go on the computer at work and as u said my phone sometimes lets me leave comments and sometimes doesnt xx
I admit I do read some and sod off without commenting – sorry! I don’t always know what to say :-/ sometimes I feel it’s all already been said but I guess just a simple cyber hug would be better than nothing or even a smiley face on the happy posts x
Good evening! The title caught my eye & this post is so right! I comment, meaningful stuff about what I have read but seem to get not much back! Thanks for this! Feels cathartic gettin my comment included on such a post!
i dont always comment cause using my old phone atm and it wont let me comment same wien i was on my iphone for some reason i could never see a comment box lol x
Hiya. I’ve nothing really to say… But hullo.
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Just seemed rude not to!
Ps I like the new blog theme/layout thingamy.
I have been reading and trying to comment on many blogs, simply because I love to read others. Not many do the same in return, however I guess they have nothing to say? x
i think in all walks of life theres always going to be the people who jump to the judgmental side! and then some people are just damn right rude however i find it quite entertaining how dilusional and small minded these sort of people are and ranting at them is a brilliant stress release!!!
i have similar issue with my facebook page i spend a lot of time networking and likeing peoples pages and leaving messages but i hardly ever get anything back
ive been brought up not to judge people and if i read something that makes me angry ect i just don’t comment on it and forget about it people are to judgemental now adays
My parents brought me up with ‘If you dont have anything nice to say, then DONT say anything at all’
if i cant add anything usefull or helpful for anybody i dont comment. xx
I sometimes do this, if I have nothing to say or everything has already been said, I won’t comment xx
This is the only blog i use to be honest and when i can manage to get on (crap laptop, crap phone) its very rare i read a post but dont comment. Even if its just to offer a cyber hug or to compliment the post i like to show ive read it