We had many mixed views on the discussion of allowing your child to cry last night on my mums group.
I am of the opinion that it is OK to allow your baby to cry for short periods of time.
When you first become a mum and you have this tiny little baby to care for the thought of it crying can break your heart, aswell as break your ear drum. We rush to the baby and pick it up. We all do it, but what when the baby starts to grow? When the baby cries, just for the sake of it? Do we still run to quickly pick it up?
With 6 children in the house when my baby cries, my baby is now 17 months, I can quickly guess what he is crying for. Rather than rushing to him I can go and fetch him a drink, pass him a toy or simply distract him without the need to have him fastened to my hip.
There is no way I can pick up a child every time it cries. I have 3 under 3 and can not possibly have children hanging off my legs.
As a mother we learn to recognise our children’s cry. Are they hurt? If so every mother rushes to her child. It is mothers instinct to protect her own. But when they are whinging I am sorry but no, I will not pick them up.
All babies, young children cry, but I do not feel it cruel to allow them to a have a safe cry time on their own. It does not damage them, it does not make you a bad mother. I am often busy preparing meals for the family when one will become rather fed up of waiting for my attention so will whinge, they have to wait. I can just as easily give them a colouring book and crayons than pick them up and reward them for crying to gain my attention.
What a clever little girl for waiting for mummy to finish, that is a great reward and much better than having her hanging off my hip while I am trying to retrieve hot food from the oven.
It is the same at bedtimes, bed time is for sleeping. All my children need their sleep and so do I. If they wake during the night, I do not go running straight to them. I listen, why are they awake/ Are they thirsty? If so I am prepared as there is already a beaker of water within reach for them. Have they lost their much loved dummy? If so they will feel around and find it. Within minutes they will be back to sleep.
With my first child I was at her beck and call 24-7. Boy was I in for a rough ride with her as she got older. As I had more children I soon learned that that I had to take a step back and allow them to learn to have to wait a little while.
While to this day I would run to a baby under 6 months old from that age I believe they can be distracted with a favourite fun item to just allow me long enough to do what I need to do.
I do not believe allowing a young child to cry it out will hurt it in any way.
What are your views…
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