I get rather irate when I hear and see mums using the naughty step for children as young as 12 months. Why?
What on earth can a baby
do that needs discipline? A baby is a baby and yet to even understand the concept of the word naughty.
Before your child can follow even the basic things you ask of them, they have to have quite a large vocabulary and a good idea of what you are even talking about. As young as 12 months, have they the slightest clue what you are asking them? Too many mums are rushing to put their child on the naughty step without even giving them chance to learn anything.
What happened to distracting the child? What about getting down to their eye level and talking in a calm but firm voice? Why are mums so quick to yell and shout and drag their rather confused child to a step?
Have you bothered to explain why they should not hit you? Do they understand why they are not to do that?
For children under the age of 3 I never recommend the naughty step. Try to distract them, remove them from the room by all means, involve them in what you are doing or get them involved in a new activity. The problem is then very quickly rectified, rather than spending a full hour trying to get a very annoyed and confused toddler to sit on some step, they have no idea what its even for.
Another thing toddlers will find very confusing is why one day they are allowed to do something, but the next day they are not. Maybe time a few mums sat down and thought about what it is they are expecting from their child.
No hitting – no biting are very common problems, are you going to just pick your child up and place them on the naughty step or are you going to teach your child the reason to why we do not do that to others?
Consistency is they key to successful good behaviour. If you give of that “Oh I just can’t be bothered today” sign, then good luck as your child will have you running round in circles.
Do you use the naughty step in your home?
Do you use the naughty step for a child under 3?
What are your own views on the naughty step technique?
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