My 14yr old sister moved in with me, my partner and 2 kids in December 2010, as she was having problems with my mum. Things were going great till the 9th June when she accused my partner of raping her. Social services and the police got involved and my partner was only allowed to see the kids for an hour a week supervised by my mum. It has completely thrown me, I couldn’t sleep and wasnt eating
I finally went to the doctors and he sent me for counselling and diagnosed me with depression. I refused the anti depressants as I am also pregnant. I then found out that my sister had been telling her friends that my eldest daughter was hers and I was raising her because she was too young. Also that her and my partner have a child together.
Now none of this is true, no one believes her not even the police, but they all have procedures to follow which I completely understand. Social services have been useless, they have not been informing me of what’s goin on, its alway me trying to get in touch with them without much luck. It has really messed me up and the only support I really have is from my friend, but she also has her own life and I feel like sometimes I am burdening her with my problems.
I am one of them people that will smile when inside I am actually crying out for help and my relationship with my mum has deteriorated because she is always with my sister. It has really messed my eldest up too, she is only 22months old but she has completely changed, she wont sleep, at night wakes up screaming for mummy and daddy, she has started hitting me and she wont eat properly.
The police came on Tuesday the 2nd August and told me they wouldnt be taking it any further as they dont have enough to go off and my sister tripped herself up a few times, one by giving two different locations as to where it was supposed to have taken place and two, the fact that she was still living here and would willingly stay in the house and walk the dog with my partner.
The rape was supposed to have taken place on the 1st march when they were walking the dog, and apparently my partner was very drunk, that also isn’t true because he isnt allowed in the house when he has been drinking, due to trouble in the past. Also my sister cried rape last year and the case went nowhere because of lack of evidence and the fact that she was still hanging around with the lad she accused, she has recently just added him as a friend again on Facebook.
Does that sound like a girl who has been raped? I think not!! Hopefully this will all be over soon I just have to wait for social services to get in touch to do their core assessment then hopefully we can get on with our lives without my sister in it.
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Wow, what an awful experience to have been put through. You are strong and have a huge heart allowing your sister to continue living with you after throwing your life upside down.
I hope Social Services see the light and everything goes back to normal.
will be thinking of you xx
This made me cry as its my best friend who wrote it. Its very sad that its happened and that you and your family have had to go through it. But things are starting to get better. Look forward to the future babes and the birth of your 3rd beautiful child! Love you all the world
How heartbreaking! I can’t believe someone would put her own family through that hell just for some obvious attention seeking, especially with young children involved! Wish you all the happiness in the world for your future hun xxx
your sister sounds like she needs some serious help she seems to be a compulsive liar she needs help befoew she destroys anyone else life !
What an awful thing to lie about!! I really hope she gets the help she seems to need!x
i cant believe she lied about such a serious thing, i hope she gets charged for wasting police time, all those resources that were used one that case that could have been given to someone who needed. I hope that the wounds heal with time and your family can move on from this with time
wow your brave for getting through this! its hard when people cry rape and waste police time because there are people out thater who HAVE been raped and need that help!!
i hope you and your partner and kids can carry on and be happy and put this behind you both..xx
Wow how brave are you? i could never get over something like this… Your sister sounds like a horrible, childish, attention seeking person, better off without her i say xxxxx
what a horrible thing to lie about you must be a very strong person to let your sister carry on living with you I dont think I could all the best for the future hun hope you get it sorted xx
what an awful experience cant even begin to imagine what youve been going through hun. xx
What about your partner? Has anyone considered how he must be feeling been accused for a terrible crime and only been able to see his children once a week? Anyone?
Yes of course we all feel for the mums partner but this post is about a mum telling her side of the story against her sister.
We’ve all considered his feelings as is the mum in question as this post is about how it’s affected herself and the accused! It’s a story against her sister not him!
Wow, u must feel so betrayed by your sister, all the best for your future xxx
Yes people have considered his feelings hence why they said hope things sort out in the future… This is a mums story so we can only comment on that… Maybe if the dad wrote a story we wud show our support to him aswell x
thats awful, having bin in a sitiuation like that, i hate girls that cry rape! Its the lowest thing you could do. hope the future brings you happiness all together,x
This is awful that it’s happened to you and your family by your own sister
don’t loose faith and trust in people after this I wish you all the best of luck in the world xx
Hun me and my partner have been in almost excactly the same position. Its heartbreaking it truely is. It was my partners stepsisters that made the accusations. If ever you wanna chat you can add my facebook, I’m alys ‘lovemyson’ jenkins xx
i have to say this is horable… has she had a massive rough patch in her life 2 mess with her head?? it sounds 2 me she is mentaly un stable and needs alot of help….
u
are very brave to say you are very brave to post this hun…
heres to wishing you all the best in the feauture… xxx
I hope things get sorted soon for you, what an awful thing to lie about!! Lets hope she never actually has it happen to her xx
im so sorry your sister did such an awful thing to you and your family, did she not think of what trouble she was causing for everyone?? she sounds like an evil little witch. i really do hope she never has to suffer such terrible abuse ever its not something anyone would wish upon their worst enemy. i hope in time she realises she cant cry wolf when things aint going her way or right for her. she may not be so lucky next time and she might just ruin the wrong persons life for what?? a bit of attention which by the sounds of it is all she is looking for. some one needs to tell her if she wants attention theres other ways to do so. big hugs chick xx
how awful.
i hope things are better now?
I feel for you, I hope you can move on from this so that you and your children can be happy xxx
Omg I can’t belive your sister of all ppl would be able to make such horrendously horrible storys up an by sounds if it she haz.. she must usb some serious issues for her to cum out with such storys or just enjoys the attention.. Math you will be better to sort this when she haz had help until then I would deffo cut ties with her.. Must be really hard on you <3 xxx big hugs xxx
What a horrible thing to do!!
I don’t think I would ever speak to my sister again if she lied about that and put her own family threw it!
Such a strong lady, hope everything works out for ya hun xx
She needs help xxxx