Is the world over sexualised? Everywhere you look there seems to be half naked girls, and girls especially. You walk down the street and there is a girl scantily dressed sprawled across a sofa on a billboard, you turn on the television and there is a woman showering, the camera pans out to show her perfectly rounded bottom. The music channels always seem to play the same songs, and the videos are always the same, singer sat in a night club surrounded by dancer girls with hardly any clothes on, they are promoting porn! These are the the women that young girls base themselves on and that our husbands and boyfriends tune in to watch!
As a wife and a mother, this is something that aggravates me to my very core! If I went through my husbands computer history and found that he’d been searching for images of half dressed women, or videos of girls dancing round poles I would hit the roof!!! So why is it acceptable for him to drive to work in the morning and feast his eyes upon the beautiful Mediterranean brunette advertising Victoria’s secret underwear. Why do advertisers feel the need to plaster this all over the high street and on every second commercial on the television. They are very clever in what they do, they know that sex sells! The world is based around sex these days, which celebs are sleeping with which celebs? Who’s girlfriend cheated this time? What’s their relationship status on facebook?
A young girl wearing a pretty dress will walk past a building with scaffolding around it, innocently heading off to the next shop, But to the builders working above her, this is an invitation for them to wolf whistle her and kindly ask ‘ show us your tits!’. Obviously she would never lift her top in broad daylight to satisfy these mens’ ‘needs’
Okay, I know what you’re thinking, is this just a rant because my husband made a comment about a girl on the television. Well yes and no, This is something that has bugged for a while, and gotten worse and worse! When I became a wife, I didn’t want my husband to look at any other girl, why should he, he has a wife. I should satisfy his needs, he shouldn’t need to look at anyone else, he shouldn’t want to either! When I became a mother, Do I want my daughter to look up to these girls?? do I want her to base her life around sex? No I certainly don’t, I would like a man to show my daughter respect, I would want a man to know that sex is a commitment, not a hobby! I want a man to treat her like a princess, not a common tart!
The advertising world is filled with sex!!! It’s everywhere, and its aimed at men!! The men that we are married to, and the men that will marry our daughters! Every woman will probably agree with me here, We are very insecure people at times, am I right??? Those of you that answered no, are very lucky indeed. Being an insecure person I hate it when we walk past a pretty girl, and I imagine my husbands thoughts. I hate it when we watch television and an ‘innocent’ advertisement comes on, his eyes are fixed, he’s just watching the TV like normal, like he would if a guy walked on, there is nothing in it, but the image is still in front of him, its still being imprinted in his brain.
When we go on the internet and a one of those annoying pop ups start flashing at us, ‘FIND SEXY SINGLE GIRLS IN YOUR AREA NOW’ With an image of a gorgeous blonde skinny girl in her best undies! Well now I’m sat there thinking, I don’t look like that in my best undies, I have wobbly bits and scars, and bits that don’t quite look right, I don’t have the perfect figure, and my skin isn’t baby soft. Why would my husband want to look at me, when he can log onto the internet and look at her?, or turn on the TV and watch a woman he doesn’t know enter the shower and wash herself down making very sexual noises?, or drive to work and while he’s stopped at traffic lights he can fix his eyes upon the billboard girl’s 36d breasts that are elegantly lit just right and then pan down onto her perfectly toned stomach with no wobbly bits or scars, and pan down again onto………. lets stop, you get the picture!, lets just say she hasn’t had a baby so it looks like it should!!!
This is a major issue for me, and I’m sure its a major issue for a lot of other women out there and most will agree with me, that when our husbands and boyfriends tell us that we are beautiful, we don’t believe them, because to us and the rest of the world, the billboard girl is beautiful. We don’t look like her, and never will, how can we be beautiful when we don’t resemble that in anyway???
We cant dance like girls on the music channels, and we don’t make sexual noises in the shower.
What we actually do is wake up in the morning and attempt to get dressed as quickly as possible, or in my case under the covers, so our spouses wont see our flaws! We put on our ‘holding in’ pants, and our comfort bra, not very flattering at all. Normally followed by old jeans and a baggy hoodie or t-shirt. We tie up our hair because it irritates our face and gets in the way while we do the household tasks, which normally leave us red faces and sweaty, and not the kind our men like!
We don’t have time to fix our make-up or make our selves look sexy. We dance like a mental patient and pull silly faces at our children, and when we shower we are in and out as quickly as possible because there is always more work to be done!! Aren’t we just so sexy?
The advertising world doesn’t understand just what they are doing to all the married women across the world and they don’t understand how they are wrongly influencing our daughters!!!
They don’t know, and they don’t care, because sex sells and that’s what matters.
I hope one day they will decide to show real women, the ones with wobbly bits and scars and bits that don’t quite look right, Maybe then we will feel like our husbands and boyfriends want to look at us!