Is the world over sexualised? Everywhere you look there seems to be half naked girls, and girls especially. You walk down the street and there is a girl scantily dressed sprawled across a sofa on a billboard, you turn on the television and there is a woman showering, the 
camera pans out to show her perfectly rounded bottom. The music channels always seem to play the same songs, and the videos are always the same, singer sat in a night club surrounded by dancer girls with hardly any clothes on, they are promoting porn! These are the the women that young girls base themselves on and that our husbands and boyfriends tune in to watch!
As a wife and a mother, this is something that aggravates me to my very core! If I went through my husbands computer history and found that he’d been searching for images of half dressed women, or videos of girls dancing round poles I would hit the roof!!! So why is it acceptable for him to drive to work in the morning and feast his eyes upon the beautiful Mediterranean brunette advertising Victoria’s secret underwear. Why do advertisers feel the need to plaster this all over the high street and on every second commercial on the television. They are very clever in what they do, they know that sex sells! The world is based around sex these days, which celebs are sleeping with which celebs? Who’s girlfriend cheated this time? What’s their relationship status on facebook?
A young girl wearing a pretty dress will walk past a building with scaffolding around it, innocently heading off to the next shop, But to the builders working above her, this is an invitation for them to wolf whistle her and kindly ask ‘ show us your tits!’. Obviously she would never lift her top in broad daylight to satisfy these mens’ ‘needs’
Okay, I know what you’re thinking, is this just a rant because my husband made a comment about a girl on the television. Well yes and no, This is something that has bugged for a while, and gotten worse and worse! When I became a wife, I didn’t want my husband to look at any other girl, why should he, he has a wife.
I should satisfy his needs, he shouldn’t need to look at anyone else, he shouldn’t want to either! When I became a mother, Do I want my daughter to look up to these girls?? do I want her to base her life around sex? No I certainly don’t, I would like a man to show my daughter respect, I would want a man to know that sex is a commitment, not a hobby! I want a man to treat her like a princess, not a common tart!
The advertising world is filled with sex!!! It’s everywhere, and its aimed at men!! The men that we are married to, and the men that will marry our daughters! Every woman will probably agree with me here, We are very insecure people at times, am I right??? Those of you that answered no, are very lucky indeed. Being an insecure person I hate it when we walk past a pretty girl, and I imagine my husbands thoughts. I hate it when we watch television and an ‘innocent’ advertisement comes on, his eyes are fixed, he’s just watching the TV like normal, like he would if a guy walked on, there is nothing in it, but the image is still in front of him, its still being imprinted in his brain.
When we go on the internet an
d a one of those annoying pop ups start flashing at us, ‘FIND SEXY SINGLE GIRLS IN YOUR AREA NOW’ With an image of a gorgeous blonde skinny girl in her best undies! Well now I’m sat there thinking, I don’t look like that in my best undies, I have wobbly bits and scars, and bits that don’t quite look right, I don’t have the perfect figure, and my skin isn’t baby soft. Why would my husband want to look at me, when he can log onto the internet and look at her?, or turn on the TV and watch a woman he doesn’t know enter the shower and wash herself down making very sexual noises?, or drive to work and while he’s stopped at traffic lights he can fix his eyes upon the billboard girl’s 36d breasts that are elegantly lit just right and then pan down onto her perfectly toned stomach with no wobbly bits or scars, and pan down again onto………. lets stop, you get the picture!, lets just say she hasn’t had a baby so it looks like it should!!!
This is a major issue for me, and I’m sure its a major issue for a lot of other women out there and most will agree with me, that when our husbands and boyfriends tell us that we are beautiful, we don’t believe them, because to us and the rest of the world, the billboard girl is beautiful. We don’t look like her, and never will, how can we be beautiful when we don’t resemble that in anyway???
We cant dance like girls on the music channels, and we don’t make sexual noises in the shower.
What we actually do is wake up in the morning and attempt to get dressed as quickly as possible, or in my case under the covers, so our spouses wont see our flaws! We put on our ‘holding in’ pants, and our comfort bra, not very flatte
ring at all. Normally followed by old jeans and a baggy hoodie or t-shirt. We tie up our hair because it irritates our face and gets in the way while we do the household tasks, which normally leave us red faces and sweaty, and not the kind our men like!
We don’t have time to fix our make-up or make our selves look sexy. We dance like a mental patient and pull silly faces at our children, and when we shower we are in and out as quickly as possible because there is always more work to be done!! Aren’t we just so sexy?
The advertising world doesn’t understand just what they are doing to all the married women across the world and they don’t understand how they are wrongly influencing our daughters!!!
They don’t know, and they don’t care, because sex sells and that’s what matters.
I hope one day they will decide to show real women, the ones with wobbly bits and scars and bits that don’t quite look right, Maybe then we will feel like our husbands and boyfriends want to look at us!
About The Real Supermum
I love this post, everything you say is just so right. I dont even like to look at myself in the mirror as i know i wont like what i see because we are all brain washed that we should be a size 8 with a washboard tum and legs an boobs to die for. in reality the only women that look like that after 1,2,3…. children is women who can afford the tummy tuck, liposuction and the private nanny too look after there children. All us women on here are what a real woman is all about, dont get me wrong i like to try look my best but 2 children a pub an my husband to look after on a daily basis means it doesnt happen. Love the post just brilliant hun. xx
Some of these half naked women are to sell things to us women though dont you think? They are there to try and make us think ‘oooh, if we wear that/eat that/drink that/do that then we too could have a body like theirs!’ I have to say, when a pretty girl comes on television with an amazing figure I dont think my partner is looking at her. And If he was, I wouldnt care. If they are on television, thats where they stay. If they are in magazines, they are just pictures. I know he wants to be with me, because he is with me. I wouldnt mind if he wanted to watch porn (as long as it wasnt kept secret) as I quite enjoy it too. What I would have a problem with is if he started flirting with a total stranger in real life who obviously had a better body and looked better than me (but he never has done.) I dont know, maybe its just me, maybe I have 100% trust in the man I love.
I know he is totally in love with Megan Fox. Actually, I know he thinks she is ‘hot’ but thats it.(even I say ‘phwoar’ to the odd celeb now and again but it doesnt mean I objectify sex.)
I hate my body. Im a size 16-18 covered in stretchmarks, bingo wings, cellulite the lot. But he loves it because it belongs to me and Ive told him, if he doesnt like it then tough! I dont know, am I just one of the lucky ones, am I naive, or am I the total opposite for not expecting any man to never ever look at another woman??? xxx
Brilliant blog hun and I completly understand where your coming from I no for certain I don’t have time to make myself look like a super model and I would never appreciate it if my hubby to be was constantly checking out other girls It is constantly thrown in womens faces like you say on the net music channels advertisment boards they believe sex sells:( which leads to many of us feeling insecure about the way we look we aren’t all size 0 with pert boobies etc…. But we need to realise we are all beautiful even covered in baby sick x x x
omg…i love this post, its so true…thank god there is other women out there that feelthe same as i do!ithought i was going mad!lol xx
if it was my partner as long as hes only looking an not touching then fair enough but its when he starts touching when it becomes a problem. but yes this worlds getting a bit to sexualised now days really should be curbed a little coz really women dont look like these page 3 36dd breasted women xx
AAAAAAA* SPOT ON! xx
wow what a fab post. this is so true xx
Love this post, I know exactly what you mean. I feel like it all the time and get pee’d off when Dan oggles a celebrity. Can I just say though it does go both ways. Dan gets all upset if I start commenting on Hugh Jackman for example. He gets just as insecure as me. Dan is 5”9 and built like a stick, he often says to me ‘I wish I looked that that’ as I do when he says something about a female. We have a agreement in this house, we keep our attractions for celebs to ourselves cos we both get insecure xx
Can I just say I found my self holding my stomach thinking ‘I’ll never look like that’ when I saw the new header
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I was one of those who wouldn’t let my OH look at other women but I got over that and thought he’s with me, he wants me so he can look at women cause deep down I know that he is happy with me. I let him look at celebrities cause deep down I know there is no chance he will ever see them lol x
Kirsty. I love this post. It reminds me of me. I hate watching those adverts for perfume or hair stuff that show half naked women because I always wonder what Phil’s thinking and usually it’s not alot. It pees him off to but deep down I think why would he want me with all my flaws when there’ women like that in the world?X
LOVE IT! I only just recently wrote an assignment on stereotyping and used the bikini clad grecian goddess sprawled across whichever product they are trying to sell-term. I think that sex is everywhere and its putting far too much pressure onto any woman and men. My husband recently admitted to me that he hates his stomach, something I had no idea about, I thought that men weren’t overly bothererd about that sort of thing. When I get upset about my scars Im reminded I had life changing surgery, when I get upset about my stretchmarks Im reminded I have a child. I know all of these things yet still ffind myself sobbing inside at the thought of holidaying with my brother-in-law and his goddess like girlfriend next year.
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I love this!! and i agree completely, i for one dont worry about what my oh looks at, as i know his views on this also and he agrees. hell quite happily laugh at a woman on tv and say out loud how fake her tits loko and that they dont look real or even attractive (i guess im lucky there) but no i dont want my daughter growing up comparing her body to all theres sexualizesd women you see on tv, in magazines, just IN YOR FACE! not only have you made all these excellent points Kirsty but think about the eating disorders girls will have over trying to get the ‘perfect body’. When really it doesnt exist, not in the world of mummies.. or reality!! If only everyone had the same views on this, i can only see this problem getting worse in time!
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omg!!!! i could not have written this better thann you have its exactly how i feel.. in every way and i feel like im being stupid.. the internet pop ups the nice slim toned girls everywhere this is why i hate my body so much i never feel good enough and very often gets me down i have a huge cry and end up on a downer all the time.. xx great blog xx
Brilliant! I love this post x