Toddlers have no idea what the word ” Wait” means , they have no patience at all, everything has to be done here and now. The toddler stage is like being stuck in the middle of something. They are no longer a baby and can already do so much for themselves, yet not that mature enough to do everything that they want to do. This is where those toddler tantrums start surfacing. If they want something, they have to have it, that impulse, that desire and need has to be met or it is quickly followed by the wild rages of screaming and throwing themselves onto the floor. They have no self control and have no sense of danger.
You will find that you have to repeat yourself over and over again, this is not them ignoring you, they simply do not remember. Their memory span is very limited at this age. The terrible twos as it is often called, starts just before the age of two and will last until your child has its third birthday. There is no preparing for this stage, you can not run and you can not hide. You can beg, plead and try reasoning all you like, your not going to get anywhere. ,The only way to get through this year and keep your hair, rather than pulling it out is to put some simple strategies into place. This is where you must set out your firm yet fair boundaries, allowing your child to learn what you feel is acceptable and what is not. Do not give in, stay firm but always in control.
Allow them to be toddlers, let them feed themselves, even when this involves more food being in their hair and up their noses than actually in their mouths. Give them a chance to put on their own clothes, who cares if the trousers are inside out and both legs are in one side. This is teaching them vital skills. Always praise and reward at this age, they are learning so much more about the world around them, but still need you to tell them what is right and what is wrong.
I have been there so many times in public when one of them have thrown a whopping paddy, due to being denied sweets or toys, let them throw their little fit. Ignore them and ignore the disapproving looks from others, as long as there is nothing near by that can hurt your child, let the tantrum pass before scooping your child up and moving on.
This has to be my favourite age range, it is one of the hardest yet the one that provides us with so many rewards as mums. Hearing “I love you mummy” 100 times a day and the endless stories they want reading, hearing them sing nursery rhymes and counting and reeling off all the colours of the rainbow, screaming and wailing one minute then loving and angelic the next. If you can’t beat them, join them. But most of all enjoy them.
Can you remember the terrible two’s ?
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Ohh I leave my son when he used to paddy in town… My oh used to get right embarressed and say “people are looking” at which I would turn to these old snotty women and say “have u never seen a child paddy before?” They soon shut up and move on
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I find chocolate also helps the mumma to get through this satge…..
Levi is going through this now and although a challange it is nothing to his older brother! I find that being able to ignore others reaction helps because if you give them what they want for a quiet life you are in for trouble!
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How could I forget to leave the chocolate part out lol
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I’ve been here with Jayne and when she has a paddy in the street let her so what if people look and stare.. I just ask if they’ve never seen a toddler do this. It’s worse when another mum with a child the same age stares.. it’s like obviously your child does this too!! x
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love this post. davina
i have been going through this stage since my son was 9 months he is 2 next month i used to get embarrassed but now i just ignore him u see people looking at me like can she not hear that noise i find it so funny i used to look at kids takin tantrums with my 1st and think thank god she isnt like that but her brother sure makes up for it lol but the choc deffo works tx
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this stage sure is a tuffy but a rewarding one. however, the tantrums dont stop at 3. only the other week (my lo is 4 years) had a paddy in tesco for sweets for a solid hour and people commenting why i wasnt responding or telling off or shouting or even worse hitting!!! 1 woman even said, and i quote “that little shit needs a bloody good smack, that’ll shut the little bastard up” and that was a little old lady in a wheelchair. i then went over to the woman pushing the wheelchair and said ” you know, they put agressive dogs down” just loud enough for the woman to hear!
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This made me chuckle as it was only today I had to endure a screaming fit from my 2 year old in the supermarket as he wanted a comic. I told him that he could have one if he behaved for the shopping trip. Needless to say in the first isle he hat a tantrum because I wouldnt let him have a pack of 8 yoghurts that went out of date today, and then in the next isle because I wouldnt let him have an easter egg that was £20. The inevitable came as we had to go back past the comic stand on the way out of the shop. I was very proud of myself for not giving in just to stop the tantrum, and there were many people looking at him screaming and the shop assistants trying to distract him. But eventually I got him out of the shop and by the time we had reached the end of the road he was happily holding my hand and telling me about the leaves on the trees!! Its hard work, but the rewards at this stage are definitely worth it! xx
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i’m so glad there is a blog onj this subject. my lo is approaching 2 and showing signs already. At least now i’ll know how to deal with her x
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my daughter is 2 and has been going through this stage for the last 4 months. i get so embarrassed when we are out in public and she throws a wobbly cos she cant get her own way. i see people staring out of the corner of my eyes and i cant wait to get away. quite often when me and the hubby are down the pub beer garden with the kids, melissa will start throwing a wobbly and i keep nagging the hubby to hurry up and finish his drink so we can go home. lol. x
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my son is 29 months and is always having paddys! i really couldnt care less about the funny looks i get, even when an old lady comes up to me and tells me my son needs love! gotta love the terrible two’s
My youngest is now 16months and my goodness can she paddy LOL!
my son is 21 months old and has began with the tantrums. i let him carry on and ignore him while he throws his paddy. hope it doesnt get worse. cant wait for the words i love u mummy to come out of his mouth, prob make me bawl my eyes out hehe xx
going thru this stage atm! i must admit it is hard at times, but like u sa theres those moments that make it all better…. i do feel that daddy forgets hes only 2, and expects to much from him, which is also hard to deal with! sometimes u have to let the little things lie, while sorting out the bigger problems.
my friend slittle boy is at this stage now and my word doe she throuw a strop when he wants to! even i find it hard and im only with him a few hours a week! as much as we try and ignore him you an guarantee we get annoyed and end up wanting to shout or something x x
I am so goin threw this at the moment its really hard wen she can scream for about an hour non stop
I love this post
my lg is 26m and can throw a good tantrum but i just let her ride it out, she gets over it and then we carry on with what we were doing. Were going thru a very testing phase now where everything is what? what? what? aaarggghhh!! haha. Defo agree with enjoy them while their young as time goes by so quickly 
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Going through this right now and have been doing so since he was one and it’s exhausting but you find ways to cope and when you do, the rewards are undescribable x
ahh the lovely terrible twos, they start way earlier than two tho =( lol xx
Oo I remember this stage!
My daughter was the paddy queen! Everywhere we would go she would paddy, people stop and stare and I just gave them the middle finger. (Not a great way to handle it but I was stressed lol) xx
Thanks for the hints ladies!!!!!!!!!! xxx
Great post, going through terrible twos atm
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