Toddlers have no idea what the word ” Wait” means , they have no patience at all, everything has to be done here and now. The toddler stage is like being stuck in the middle of something. They are no longer a baby and can already do so much for themselves, yet not that mature enough to do everything that they want to do. This is where those toddler tantrums start surfacing. If they want something, they have to have it, that impulse, that desire and need has to be met or it is quickly followed by the wild rages of screaming and throwing themselves onto the floor. They have no self control and have no sense of danger.
You will find that you have to repeat yourself over and over again, this is not them ignoring you, they simply do not remember. Their memory span is very limited at this age. The terrible twos as it is often called, starts just before the age of two and will last until your child has its third birthday. There is no preparing for this stage, you can not run and you can not hide. You can beg, plead and try reasoning all you like, your not going to get anywhere. ,The only way to get through this year and keep your hair, rather than pulling it out is to put some simple strategies into place. This is where you must set out your firm yet fair boundaries, allowing your child to learn what you feel is acceptable and what is not. Do not give in, stay firm but always in control.
Allow them to be toddlers, let them feed themselves, even when this involves more food being in their hair and up their noses than actually in their mouths. Give them a chance to put on their own clothes, who cares if the trousers are inside out and both legs are in one side. This is teaching them vital skills. Always praise and reward at this age, they are learning so much more about the world around them, but still need you to tell them what is right and what is wrong.
I have been there so many times in public when one of them have thrown a whopping paddy, due to being denied sweets or toys, let them throw their little fit. Ignore them and ignore the disapproving looks from others, as long as there is nothing near by that can hurt your child, let the tantrum pass before scooping your child up and moving on.
This has to be my favourite age range, it is one of the hardest yet the one that provides us with so many rewards as mums. Hearing “I love you mummy” 100 times a day and the endless stories they want reading, hearing them sing nursery rhymes and counting and reeling off all the colours of the rainbow, screaming and wailing one minute then loving and angelic the next. If you can’t beat them, join them. But most of all enjoy them.
Can you remember the terrible two’s ?