The one thing I have found about being a mum is that it can sometimes be very lonely.
I can count on one hand the number of “real friends” that I have. You know those fiends who you could phone any time night or day knowing they will drop everything to be there for you.
The phone never rings, nobody ever just calls for a catch up anymore.
I used to have many friends, I was always doing something or going somewhere, since devoting all my time to being a mummy, many friends have become strangers.
Is it the fact I have so many children? Am I now no longer great at conversation? Is all my mummy talk boring to others?
I find no pleasure in going out and getting into such a state I can’t find my way home, the hangovers are so not what I need at 6am when baby wakes. I would rather have a cup of tea these days than a vodka. Yes I am a boring mummy.
Many of my old friends have a child, maybe 2 but definitely not 6. I can not just drop everything at home to go off on girly weekends and a trip to the beauty salon would be a luxury item to add to my wish list. I have never had my nails manicured nor have I ever visited a spa. I love the theatre but it has been many years since I watched anything other than Cbeebies.
I can not go girly shopping without spending half the day in the Early Learning Centre or Mothercare, the designer boutiques are no match for my beloved Primark. Spending £100 on a dress, what? That £100 would cover most of my weekly food shopping.
I have never bought myself new clothes for as long as I can remember, while all 6 children have enough clothes to clothe the entire school, I am limited to the faded pairs of jeans I bought 8 years ago.
Why? Because I’m a boring mummy.
I stopped getting invited to parties and shopping days a long time ago, maybe that is partly down to me always making excuses not to go. My children needed me at home.
I do look at old friends and its hard not to envy them when I hear they are going for a girls only holiday abroad or have a weekend booked at a spa. I would love to have the confidence to be that sort of person, but I am not. Leaving the kids for more than a few hours sends me into a panic, I start phoning home making sure they are OK.
Yes it can sometimes be very lonely when all your friends unfriend you because you become a mum.